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In life, how many people have ever suffered a loss of too soft heart? Because the heart is too soft, let yourself feel embarrassed to refuse the things, the result is to wronged yourself in vain; because the heart is too soft, being bullied by others does not dare to fight back, the result will only be more and more depressed.
In fact, many times, some people are not worthy of our kindness at all, not only will they not compare their hearts with our hearts, but they will take revenge. When you meet such a person, you should turn your face and turn your face, there is no need to take care of the situation. Because those who are embarrassed for you are not good people at all.
One of the most typical is those who owe money and do not pay back, the more polite you are, the more he thinks you are a bully. In the end, it will also hit a rake upside down, making you feel that you are not human inside and out.
However, when I first borrowed money to go out, I was obviously also kind, so why didn't I have a good reward?
The reason is that the other party does not understand your kindness at all, and will not cherish your friendship. He will only think that you should help him, and it is your fault that you are looking for him to pay him back.
The more you encounter such a person, the more you must be ruthless, otherwise you can only suffer losses and hurt yourself.
When you make a friend who borrows money and doesn't pay it back, turn your face around.
We have an old saying: Talking about money hurts feelings. Because of this, many women always have difficulty making choices when faced with money and friendship.
A female friend talked about her troubles:
"Don't want this money, I feel bad in my heart, after all, there are many, it is not easy for anyone to make money; but if you really want this money, you can't open your mouth, making people think that I am very angry."
Many times, we are like this, tormented by our own soft hearts, but the people who really need to pay the "price" for it are still doing well.
Xiao Min has always had a good relationship with the same table in high school, although the two went to different schools later, but they still kept in touch from time to time, and they would also make an appointment to come out for dinner when they returned to their hometown.
One day, the high school table mate sent a message to Xiao Min saying:
"Old classmate, the jianghu emergency, I have to pay the down payment of the house, now there is a difference of 20,000 yuan, can you lend me a first?" It will be returned to you within half a year. ”
Remembering the old feelings, Xiao Min lent the money to the same table without saying a word, and then in the past six months, the contact between the two suddenly decreased off a cliff, and sometimes Xiao Min sent messages to the same table, and she did not reply much.
Half a year to repay the money has arrived, Xiao Min's home decoration is needing money, so he sent a message to the same table, knocking on the side to signal her to return the money, but the same table either did not reply, or indicated his own difficulties, making Xiao Min very embarrassed.
Until one time when I came home from the holiday, I met the same table, found that she drove a luxury car, the day was very moist, and when I inquired, I knew that the same table did not buy a house at all, but I liked luxury goods, so I borrowed money everywhere to satisfy my vanity.
In desperation, Xiao Min sent an ultimatum to the same table, limiting her to repay the money within a month, otherwise she would send the chat records of the two to the classmate group, let her discredited, and then publish all the chat records and transfer records of the two, and then call the police.
At the same table, I saw that Xiao Min was serious, and no longer dared to be perfunctory, procrastinating and finally returning twenty thousand pieces, but since then, everyone has said bad things about Xiao Min, Xiao Min does not care at all, she said:
"Let her go, my parents followed me to the city anyway, and what she said had no effect on me." Such a person, I don't want to contact again in my life, because she is angry and even more worthless. ”
I have to say that with this experience, Xiao Min finally lived through.
At any time, women must put themselves first before they are serious about love, and everything that makes you unhappy, sad, and aggrieved must express their dissatisfaction in time and reject them.
Whether it's a man who makes a mistake, a relative like a "vampire", or an unreliable friend, switch to "ruthless" mode as soon as you find the clue. This is not really ruthless, on the contrary, it is affection for oneself, a necessary means of protecting oneself.
Women should always remember that you deserve the best, and those who will only hurt you or consume you must stay away as soon as possible so as not to add to their own blockage.
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