Lu You and his cousin Tang Wan were very affectionate, but because Tang Wan had no children and often opposed Lu You's poetry, delaying Lu You's future scientific expeditions, Lu You's mother was very disgusted with Tang Wan and forced Lu You to divorce his wife, and the two were forced to separate. Even if he abandoned Tang Wan, Lu You did not have a dead heart, but resettlement of another house for Tang Wan, and took time to visit her. I thought that there was still a chance to continue the frontier, but after being learned by Lu Mu, she married Lu You's new wife Wang Shi, and Tang Wan also remarried Zhao Shicheng, and the two have no chance since.
And Jiao Zhongqing and Liu Lanzhi in "Peacock Southeast Flying" also have a love that is generally not recognized by their mother-in-law and Lu You Tang Wan. Jiao Mu often looked at Liu Lanzhi unfavorably, even if she was "thirteen can weave, fourteen can tailor, fifteen bullets, sixteen poetry books" such talent, can not please the mother-in-law. On the contrary, Jiao's mother liked the girl next door neighbor and wanted Jiao Zhongqing to divorce his wife and remarry. The mother's life is difficult to violate, Jiao Zhongqing tearfully divorced his wife, Liu Lanzhi was sent back to her mother's home, unwilling to remarry, she chose to commit suicide by throwing herself into the river, Jiao Zhongqing also "hung herself on the southeast branch" to martyrdom after learning about it.
Similar couples, similar love entangled, similar mother-in-law opposed. In the feudal patriarchal system, even if the love has been married, as long as the elders are not optimistic, it may not last. Lu You and Tang Wan, Jiao Zhongqing and Liu Lanzhi are typical representatives of the tragedy of love under the feudal patriarchy.
However, although the love tragedies of the two pairs are so similar, their concepts and ways of treating this love are fundamentally different.
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Also by Hugh, Tang Wan was expelled from the Lu family, and after a while, she remarried Zhao Shicheng of the Southern Song Dynasty.
And Liu Lanzhi also has very favorable conditions, even if he is abandoned, there are still many people who come to the door to ask for relatives, and some of them have better conditions than Jiao Zhongqing. But Liu Lanzhi remained unmoved.
Some people may say that Tang Wan remarried because Lu You married first, and Lu You married a new wife, which completely broke the possibility of two people continuing the frontier. Therefore, as a victim, It is also reasonable for Tang Wan to remarry.
Having said that, you can also see her attitude towards that love. Although forced by the pressure of the world, even if the separation makes her extremely painful, sick, and suffering day by day. But there's no way to get rid of the fact that —
Tang Wan gave in.
When visiting Shen Garden, the sentence in "The Phoenix of the Head" says: "I am afraid of people asking questions, and I am happy with tears." What Tang Wan wrote should be her own state at that time. Even if the heart is very painful, but still for the sake of "face", pretend that the loss of this relationship is nothing to themselves.
But Liu Lanzhi did not.
Even her mother and brother put pressure on her to remarry sooner. She agreed on the surface, but in her heart she was plotting for her perseverance. She and Jiao Zhongqing met to say goodbye, and then she committed suicide without hesitation.
One, under the pressure of the world, painfully and passively accepts all arrangements. Even if it is painful, they only dare to hide in their hearts, and they must pretend that they are very happy, as if they are relieved;
The other also withstood the pressure around him, but resolutely decided to fight against the world in his own way, and used his death to express his unyielding to this arrangement and his unswerving love with Jiao Zhongqing.
That's the essential difference.
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The attitudes and differences between Tang Wan and Liu Lanzhi in their treatment of love can actually be seen in Lu You and Jiao Zhongqing.
Many people say that Lu You is a "mother treasure man", in fact, it is not unreasonable. Lu Mu let him divorce his wife, and Lu You even if he did not give up; Lu Mu let him remarry, even if he was reluctant, he still married his new wife Wang Shi and gave birth to three children in four years.
Does Lu You love Tang Wan? Probably love. But this kind of love also seems to be of little use. On the contrary, it made Tang Wan, who had been abandoned, more painful. In particular, marrying a new wife with this kind of love is also a kind of harm to the new wife.
Perhaps under the feudal patriarchy, people are more happy to see "filial piety" children like Lu You. Because the mother's life is difficult to violate, everything obeys the mother's arrangement, and loses his "opinion" in the concept of love.
But Jiao Zhongqing was different.
He is also a mother whose fate is difficult to violate, and he abandoned his beloved wife Liu Lanzhi. But he also told his mother that even if the neighbor's girl was good, he would not marry again. If Liu Lanzhi is retired, then he will play single sticks for the rest of his life.
When he learned that Liu Lanzhi threw himself into the water and died, he did not hesitate, and after saying goodbye to his mother, he resolutely hung himself on the southeast branch, expressed his position, and fulfilled his belief in love.
In fact, many of the so-called "forced helpless" choices are mixed with personal subjective choices in a forced environment. It's just that before choosing, everyone will weigh the pros and cons to see which one to choose the least loss to themselves.
Although the love between Lu You and Jiao Zhongqing is tragic, it is impossible to say which is more tragic. Perhaps it would be more appropriate to use the term "ask for kindness and benevolence" to describe it.
Lu You and Tang Wan chose reality, and Jiao Zhongqing and Liu Lanzhi chose love. So much for.
Although we must look at history from a historical perspective, we cannot speculate on history from the perspective of the present, and we must have a correct materialist view of history. However, through the comparison between Lu You and Jiao Zhongqing, it can also be seen that their love is also affected by their own choices. Although they are all victims of marriage and love under the feudal patriarchy, the difference in the concept of love makes the two loves fundamentally different.
Author: Our team has a falling moon