"Due to personal reasons, I need to leave the cabin early and can't spend the rest of my life with everyone..."
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Participated in only two episodes of the show, Jiang Heting chose to leave the second season of "Half-Acquainted Lovers" and became the #Fastest Female Guest #, and the paragraph she said when she left was also labeled with the title of "All Staff Re-read and Recitation" and spread on the Internet.
The comment said that she is really strong, love is just the icing on the cake for her, saying that her sister is sober and independent, crisp and neat, saying that it is good to get off early, there is no suitable for her in the show, and her sister might as well concentrate on her career.
In Jiang Heting's eyes, the truth does not seem to be like this, at least not entirely.
"Big heroines in the workplace" have become the standard for romance, and the aura of famous schools, urban elites, plus capable images are the common characteristics of them. Because everyone wants to see how these "top students" who stepped into the cloud with half a foot at a young age fell in love.
In the second season of "Half-Acquainted Lovers", Jiang Heting is such a existence, with a backshot shot when she appears, a cut of her work state, an education experience with a master's degree from the University of Southern California, plus a partner in a law firm and a guest lecturer on the play.
The elements are gathered, and in the words of writing the script: "This character stands".
But Jiang Heting felt that it didn't seem to stand, highlighting the key points, which often made people distorted.
Immediately afterwards, Jiang Heting personally punctured our illusions about being a beautiful woman in Legal.
As for why she fell in love, the answer she gave was:
But recording variety shows is far more complicated than Jiang Heting imagined.
Behind Jiang Heting getting off the car, there is actually not much complicated thinking link, not the mismatch of the conditions of the male guests, not the aura of the big heroine to engage in career, just because "recording again will affect the work too much."
Like thousands of Party B, she needs to deliver to Party A on time, needs to complete her tasks within the specified time, needs to memorize the performance of the law firm partners, and feeds the members of the team.
Moreover, when she first met and didn't know the identity background of several boys on the other side, she quietly said to PD: "I don't seem to feel anything." ”
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It is not unreasonable to say that she is an unstandard experimental subject. The quota of male and female guests screened out by the love complex determines that this love is a small-scale proposition essay, and the concept of love of "looking at the edge of the eyes" and "one eye determines life and death" is here, and they need a bigger sky;
Observing urban men and women, the premise is that their living conditions can be displayed to the greatest extent, and only a few can accept to display at a time when private life and work cannot be separated;
In order to let the audience quickly establish an impression of the amateur guest, the image foreshadowing given must be concentrated and strong output, and the opening tells you that this is an urban elite and a literary and artistic youth, there is nothing wrong with this approach, but observe the inner needs of the guests in more detail, she will still grow branches outside the personality.
Jiang Heting began to speak with a slight hesitation on the other end of the phone:
There are many "bad examples" around you, and there are many alarm bells ringing in your ears, and people who are good at getting customers at work may not be able to guess what the other half is thinking in real life.
Jiang Heting who faces love may have some "clumsiness", which is a "clumsy" that is difficult for urban girls to talk about when facing feelings.
The voice outside is calling you to weigh the pros and cons, speed up the process, and don't fall in love with war, as if a strong enough person is able to quickly enter an intimate relationship, and quickly withdraw when the emotional energy is about to run out, and put on a game posture.
But you don't want to, you want to manage the life of two people, want a healthy and upright relationship, want to experience the ambiguous period, the hot love period, and the conflict period, and you can love each other with the intention of entering marriage.
That doesn't sound cool, but it's not the slightest bit unreasonable. In the case of many bad examples around him, those who dare to love people sincerely are warriors.
Being able to speak generously and frankly about his emotional needs is the embodiment of bravery, and Jiang Heting, who chose to get off the car, is brave enough, as are the other guests in the second season of "Half-Acquainted Lovers".
If you are willing to fight for it, if you are unwilling, you can decisively give up and say no, it seems that only children can do impulsive behavior, but in adulthood, this "impulse" becomes rare.
Remember Jiang Heting's official announcement poster that said "If you can catch my straight ball, it should be my good opponent", in fact, this is not just a love declaration.
When talking about work, Jiang Heting also adheres to the consistent "straight ball" personality, she needs to be treated well and respected, and when she encounters customers who can't cope with it, instead of aggrieving herself, it is better to choose to "get off" directly.
Jiang Heting spoke faster on the other end of the phone, with a Shanghainese accent. In her eyes, coaxing everyone to be happy is not a high emotional intelligence, and there is a key premise for judging emotional intelligence, which is that you feel respected in this occasion and you can be yourself.
Speaking of which, we have a fuller understanding of Jiang Heting's "straight ball", she not only has clear needs in her feelings, dares to fully entrust, in work and life, she can also generously think that she is beautiful, does not shy away from eating beauty dividends, and maintains complete confidence in her profession.
While she puts her beauty on the table, she will also show her strength together, and if there are a few hole cards, she will show a few, not hiding and locking, and not being overly humble. Identify yourself as luminous and believe that you deserve better.
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Remember in our book day interview last year, guest Sisi mentioned a sentence called "feathers are not for cherishing, they are for flying." ”
In the past year since the opening of the morning tea shop, this sentence has been repeatedly verified by the girls, and the same is true of Jiang Heting invited today, their bravery is inspiring, and when you see them, you will understand that there are still many tomorrows worth fighting for.
Edited by Yvonne
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