A few days ago, her sister was attracted by a hot search: #女孩放弃高薪跑80万公里追星星 #
For her dream of "chasing stars", the girl quit her high-paying overseas job and traveled to more than 40 countries and regions such as Iceland and Antarctica.
Bold dreaming is always something that requires courage, and this is really good news.
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Unexpectedly, when she opened the comment area, her sister only saw a screen full of doubts and anger:
"This woman is 33 years old, has no stable job, and is still dreaming there?"
"If you don't get married or work, what is the meaning of this woman's life?"
But is there only one answer to life?
Don't women have a self and must adhere to worldly stereotypes?
The girl is cool, the girl says, "As long as I live, I will live in love." ”
Her sister really, really liked sentences.
The "Self" of Women
The questioning in the comment section is irritating, and they try to make up "cages" for women with their mouths.
Behind every "you shouldn't" is actually a "you must".
But as a woman, what do I have to do?
Fortunately, we can always find confidence and answers in thousands of girls:
In 96, the girl returned to Yawei and made a "not understood" decision: she quit her high-paying job in an Internet factory for 4 years and decided to "open a single nursing home".
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In order to accumulate more experience to make this dream come true, she embarked on a volunteer trip.
She has been to the grasslands and snowy mountains, helping the elderly in need along the way, and seeing herself all the way.
It is precisely because in these experiences that she has seen too many elderly people who cannot take care of themselves, and has faced too many lives and deaths, that she has become more determined in her goals.
Although there is no one to support it, Hui Yawei does not care. "It was only during this time that I realized that I was alive and well," she said.
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The understanding of the outside world is not so important, the important thing is that the girl finally found what she wanted to do.
It's good that she wasn't knocked down.
Also insisting on herself is the sister Su Min who bravely "escaped".
In the first half of Su Min's life, it was her sister, wife, and mother, but not Su Min herself.
She gave everything for her family, but in the end she only got ridicule from her family.
She was really fed up with the kind of life that lost herself day after day, and she learned to modify cars and plan routes like online bloggers.
Later, she drove her car around and met old friends she hadn't seen in years.
"It turns out that life can still live like this." Since then, the smile on Su Min's face has only begun to increase.
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Isn't the life of so many ordinary women breaking through the "barrier" our strength?
Women never need to be fixed in any one identity, nor do they need to listen to anyone's advice.
Choosing whether to blossom or grow into a tree is a woman's freedom.
Only by doing what you want to do and becoming yourself can you not waste this trip to the world in vain.
Fortunately, we can still find strength in many women in this era.
Wang Wenqin, she is her mother, and the first Chinese supermodel to have the cover of a foreign edition of a fashion top magazine.
Two characters that are difficult to mix and match in the eyes of outsiders are strangely unified in her.
She said that no matter what kind of identity, it is the highlight of her life.
She will not give up becoming a mother because of the worldly argument that "it is easy to lose shape and delay her career"; Nor will they give up their careers because "mothers are hard".
It's so cool, it's a control of the "self." Her perception of herself determines her attitude towards choosing life.
Women play many roles in their lives, but until then, you are yourself first.
When Guo Caijie first debuted, with her big eyes, cute appearance and eccentric personality, she won the title of "Yogurt Girl", and later used the cool role in film and television dramas to make "Guo Caijie" tightly bound to "Gu Li".
But those definitions and titles given to her by the outside world are not "Guo Caijie". Although she has been expressing her style, no one cares.
Later, when she moved from Taiwan to Beijing, she tried to escape and try to find herself, but the public was not happy.
She played punk, sang rock, and released her soul in niche music, except that she did not become a "sweet and cool artist" according to the public's ideas.
But she doesn't care so much, she feels that she is now "more grounded and clear".
Other people's eyes are not so important, living happily is important, after all, life is our own.
Allow me, be me
While it is important to "be yourself", how can we "be ourselves"?
Her sister has seen a micro-movie documenting the "self-moments" of five completely different women in the "COS apartment".
Perhaps, we can draw from them that self-confidence, steadfast vigorous strength.
The woman driving the car is a writer who records the stories around her every day.
She likes to observe the girls around her, find her shadow in them, and then map herself to them.
Among the subtle movements she noticed, there was always the girl's truest self -
The first girl she met today was a new short-haired neighbor, with joy and anticipation in her astute eyes.
Perhaps, moving means a lot to her and it will be a new beginning.
The old piano she cares about seems to have been with her for a long time, and her self-created spiritual melody often comes from behind the door.
The jumping notes burst out a vigorous vitality, just like the feeling she gave people, vigorous and persistent.
The long-haired woman rode her bicycle back to the apartment, her face handsome and her steps harsh.
She is a famous model, and competence and elegance are the first impressions she makes.
She walks fast in daily life, and her footsteps carry a cold and fashionable aftersound.
In her professional role, she is also a mother, who will pick up her children from school at a fixed time with a pink school bag.
Outsiders seem to be a little divided, but she never cares about the wandering of identity, which is a life that can be paralleled.
On the way to pick up the child, her pace is still fast, but there is an additional multifaceted and charming gentleness.
The pink-haired girl is called Mia, she dresses avant-garde and is a fashion blogger.
Every time she travels, she puts dozens of pots of greenery in the hallway in front of the door. Anyone passing by will help her water.
Perhaps, after staying in a reinforced concrete city for a long time, it is more looking forward to having a natural world of its own.
She loves to tinker with her plants, and she loves life so much.
Today seemed to be her big day, and she dressed up very grandly.
But she always follows the delicacy of her heart, and every day is extremely full, which day is not her important day?
The girl in the pink dress was a dancer, and her gestures were full of charm.
There were many people coming and going in the apartment, only she noticed the human stage in the foyer, and she took it with her, dancing in the light and shadow.
The fluttering skirt is her persistence, this one-man dance, no one's approval, the breeze and sunshine are her audience.
The light and shadow were dim, as if the curtain of the end was slowly closing, and she bowed in nowhere was nowhere to go.
The sky is surging, as if there will be a solar eclipse.
The light returns, the film ends, but the girls' lives continue, and "COS Apartment" will stage a new story.
They are independent individuals, distinct and diverse, but together exude the same full of power.
In them, her sister saw a firmness in her own style, and a pursuit and persistence in loving things.
On the battlefield of their lives, there are only companions, no one can intervene, and no one can participate.
Because they know exactly what they need to steer their course.
On the road to becoming ourselves, let's all be a little braver.
Magnetic field linkage
In the film, her sister found the most interesting part of the "annular solar eclipse".
In the changing magnetic field, these women understand and appreciate each other. The moment they look at each other, they read each other, and then empathize with powerful forces.
Some quietly admire this miracle of nature, others continue their love, and they are not disturbed by external changes.
This dialogue with oneself in the darkness may be an opportunity to find oneself.
Perhaps there have been several "annular solar eclipses" in our lives, perhaps a major choice, or perhaps just an ordinary turn.
"If the world went dark, what would you do in those 20 minutes?"
I think that when I throw this question to girls, their answers must be different and wonderfully unified:
Guo Caijie's answer was as relaxed as her. She said she was going to eat slowly with the potato chips in her arms and sit waiting for the sun to return.
Maybe it's going through too much, maybe it's the resilience in the bones of the Hakka people. Over the years, she has been far from home with every step, but with each step, she is infinitely close to her truest self.
Blogger Mia hopes to lie by the sea in this dark time, feeling the sea breeze blowing and the waves crashing.
From stylist to editor to fashion blogger, she has made many choices, and each time it is the natural expression of the heart, not the deliberate.
Just as she loved the sea and nature, she expected herself to be a casual, free girl, and she did.
Qi said that "all black" in the theater represents the beginning, buffer, and end, and watching a dark performance may be a good choice for her.
It is art that makes her open and rich, and dance that completes her more stretched self.
Supermodel Wang Wenqin just wants to enjoy the 20 minutes. Some things come when they come, and it is chance and luck.
It is indeed more difficult for her mother to mix the identities of the model, but it also allows her to meet her strong self.
In the 20 minutes that writer Zhou Jianing spends, he wants to go to the river to see what others are doing and talking about.
Perhaps, she wants to use more observation to construct her own world.
The answers of the five girls all hide their own shadows.
Those dark stories are known only to you, and your transformation has nothing to do with it.
This is the "style by me" that girls pursue, which is also in line with the concept that COS wants to convey to women——
COS's clothes may not be flamboyant and sharp, but here, women of all styles can find "suitable".
Even when the same costume is worn on different styles of girls, it will express different emotions.
Just like the rose purple T-shirt dress of dancer Qi Zhi, the whole body is pleated, the A-line midsole cut and the hidden back design show the femininity and strength of women.
Mia's pink bandeau is made from a stretchy pleated texture for simplicity and detail, both solo and layered.
Wenqin's long-sleeved knit has a cascading, off-the-shoulder design and nipped-in waist detailing that reveals an elegant silhouette in layers, making it a proportionate addition to a woman's modern wardrobe.
In COS's design philosophy, women themselves are something to celebrate.
Women don't need to achieve achievements, they don't need to be aura, as long as they live their own style, they are the best expression of themselves.
Click on the mini program below to find your own style.