Gua Ma said:
Recently, I heard the small partners in the office discussing a love variety show "Semi-mature Lovers", watching 10 30+ ordinary people talking about love, calling out to see adults talk about love is too addictive, it is simply a love variety ceiling!
Cindy and I can't help but go to see, married women watch others fall in love is really easy to get on, haha (pay attention to the time, deduct the jet lag, in fact, Italy is almost midnight).
In the words of Wang Ziwen, when you are in your 20s, you feel that you are empty, and you are bored to stay by yourself, so you must find someone to accompany you, but after you are in your 30s, you can make yourself live well, and your feelings are more pure! Adult love, not so much twisting and pinching.
In particular, one of the male and female guests (Huang Ryan and Luo Ying, "Big Brother and Sister-in-law CP"),locked each other from the beginning, and most of the show has successfully held hands, and they almost got a license...
Look at the big brother's brushed eyes, I will unconsciously raise the corners of my mouth, and I am so happy!
And what surprised me the most was that among the 5 female guests, Lola, as a single mother, was the most liked by the male guests and gained the love of 3 male guests!
Lola receives 3 love breakfasts every morning
Although the love complex may have the components of the script, the pure sweetness of the love I bumped here; the positive way of doing business in the feelings I saw; and the positive energy of being a single mother but not afraid of the future, as a married woman, there are many resonance places.
Details beat love, but they also make love
I have heard too many examples of details to defeat love, many years ago in the TV series "Naked Marriage Era", love is supreme, I would rather marry naked than we are together, and finally because of the details of life, helpless divorce.
This sentence "details defeat love" is deeply rooted in people's hearts, but we only hear the first half of the sentence, the second half of the sentence - the details of love, often ignored by everyone.
In the book "Happy Marriage", it is mentioned that 80% of divorced men and women believe that their marriage broke down because they were estranged from each other, lost their sense of intimacy, and did not feel love and appreciation.
In "Half-Acquainted Lovers", Wang Nengneng (director of an advertising agency) and Yu Yue (partner of the dentist clinic) like Lola, a single mother, and the two belong to different types, one is outgoing and enthusiastic, and the other is shy. But in expressing love, I chose to start from the details of life.
It seems that the domineering temperament is full of energy, spoiling Lola extremely, wiping the corners of his mouth when eating, blocking the wind when the wind is strong, covering the blanket when he is asleep on the car...
There is also help Lola wear ski boots when skiing together, after wearing the equipment, Lola can't move, can directly carry her whole into the snow, boyfriend Max,
The most poking thing is that the mother who knows that the other party is the child, brought Lego to Lola's son on a date!
These details made a lola who was already a little wary begin to open herself up. Sometimes even if I never say "I love you", every little thing I do is helping me say love!
We need the same thing in marriage, even after many years together, but we still need these little things to express.
I've been with Papa Gua for 20 years, and most of the time we're comrades-in-arms and family, but occasionally some of his little surprises still allow me to enjoy the thrill of being in love. These accumulated small happiness make me more courageous to face the future, because he is there!
The secret of marital success is not in the candlelight dinner, nor in the often said I love you, but the care for the partner, the care for the small details of life.
The "love brain" in marriage is the highest level of "art"
Now popular independent heroines, "single to ensure peace" seems to have become the motto of contemporary young people. In such an atmosphere, the love brain seems to become a derogatory term, making this person a bit stupid.
I think this is a bit overkill, in fact, what we need is to correct the concept of love, not to escape love.
Luo Ying in "Semi-Acquaintance Lover", in her early 30s, is undoubtedly a big heroine at work, and her work ability is leveraged!
But as soon as he arrived at Huang Ryan (39 years old, running his own couture suit brand), he became a small woman in seconds, and it was daily to be shy. When she confirmed their love for each other, she "fell in love" and plunged into it.
Once Ryan Huang asked "what to eat for dinner tomorrow", and she had a "love output":
"Well, you'll take advantage of my weekend to ask me out, I'm busy from Monday to Friday!" I was free all weekend! ”
Girls don't twist when they like it, it's the confidence that they deserve to be loved!
Luo Ying will not only be cute and cute, but also willing to pay, such as asking to make lunch for the big brother!
There is also this scene waiting for Lao Huang to leave work, this kind of way I pay my happiness, Luo Ying herself said that it is a "love brain", but I don't think she is stupid at all, but I think she is the most powerful love expert.
Thinking about it carefully, in fact, we are already in marriage, and under the protection of a layer of husband and wife relationship, we have more confidence to be a "love brain".
I have a habit, whenever Gua Dad does something for the family, I will send a circle of friends, not show love, simply hope that Gua Dad understands, he every effort I "see" it!
30+ divorced baby is still full of charm
There is another reason why I like this show, it is very tolerant of divorced men and women with babies, there are 3 divorced guests with babies alone (2 women and 1 man), divorce is no longer a person's "life stain".
Instead, it adds to a person's experience, which in turn adds personal charisma.
You see Lola, a post-90s food blogger, divorced, has a son in the third grade, but because of his straightforward and cute personality, he is a proper "fragrant feast" in the show. Lola said in a seaside wish, "I eat two poached eggs every morning." The result was good, the three male protagonists received the signal, and every morning, she harvested 6 poached eggs.
Another divorced female guest on the show is Nursery Rhyme, 34, with a daughter who currently has her own brand of costume designer and also runs a French restaurant.
As soon as she appeared, she glowed, and that confident aura was so charming!
Although she didn't meet the right person in the show for a while, every time she spoke, I felt the power of women.
Once, a female guest was rejected by a favorite male guest, cried in frustration, and asked the nursery rhyme "Am I a very unattractive person?" ”
The answer to the nursery rhyme is particularly firm:
"You're not unattractive, you're so beautiful and excellent!" Just didn't meet the right guy! ”
"Don't make it up, don't like it the first time!"
"You just lack self-confidence, you're so good, so there will be a particularly good person to find out that you love you!" 」
After the female guests listened, they immediately turned cloudy and decided to continue to be themselves!
There is also this passage for the voice of a single mother, gentle and tenacious:
"I found that after the divorce of the single mother around me, she will no longer send a circle of friends to share her sweet love like when she was unmarried, as if there are only children in life, as if she is not worthy of love after being a mother." I don't think that's right, and that's why I decided to join the show to fall in love! ”
Lola and nursery rhymes really give us a good example, even if we are frustrated in our feelings, but still believe in love, willing to give love, and never will!
Gua Ma finally said:
This week, "Semi-Acquainted Lovers" will usher in the final issue, whether they can go to the end or not, can boldly face love, is the winner of life.
Of course, love in marriage needs to be managed more. As Tang Yixin said in the program, marriage is the sublimation of love, and with the relationship of marriage, the two people truly become one and face everything in life together.
May we all laugh wildly, love purely, meet the right person, and have nothing to do with the years.