When it comes to the topic of single mothers, it seems like a very common thing now. Because with the development of society, women's ideological awareness has improved, and they are no longer bound by the shackles of marriage. Once you don't feel happy in your marriage, you will take steps to defend your rights and interests.
However, after choosing divorce, many women will choose the custody of their children and become a single mother. It's just that many single mothers have a hard time being accepted into new marriages after choosing to divorce, especially those with boys.
Single mothers take their sons on blind dates, and are picky and disliked by blind dates
A friend of Kojima's, after divorcing her ex-husband, lives alone with her son. Parents and friends around them advised that boys should still be left to their in-laws, otherwise raising a son would be costly and wasteful of energy.
However, the friend was reluctant and finally very determined to keep the child by his side. Friends after the divorce, there are also many people to the door to propose, although friends are very resistant, but it is not easy to think of their own children, feel that finding someone to live together, raising children together can also share the pressure.
So the friend began to accept the blind date, but in the process of the blind date, the other party heard that the friend also brought a son, it seemed very contemptuous, from time to time said some "women with boys divorced are not easy to find" words.
The implication is that a single mother who divorces a boy is good to be able to find someone to remarry, not to mention any conditions. Men with such thoughts will not be good to themselves and their children in the future, so their friends decisively refuse the request for communication.
Why do single mothers with sons have the lowest probability of remarriage?
In addition to the dimensions of character, personality, appearance, wealth and so on, from the perspective of the state of marriage and parent-child relationship alone, the difficulty of a woman marrying can be sorted according to the following:
Single mothers with boys> single mothers with girls> divorced and childless women> unmarried women.
The cost of raising boys is high
Those single mothers who are divorced and still have sons around them really have no advantage in remarriage. In fact, this has a certain relationship with the customs of marriage and love in our society, after all, everyone knows that parents with sons will be ready to marry and have children for their children in the future, whether it is a wedding room or a bride price.
Therefore, when a single mother with a son goes on a blind date, many men will play a "retreat". In fact, in such a situation, we can not blame men for not being able, those men who remarry, even if they choose a single mother, will also be biased towards taking their daughters, after all, the daughter is intimate, spends less money, and can marry someone to the dowry later.
Boys' education is more risky
Boys' education risks are greater than those of girls, as adolescent boys are more likely to rebel and have difficulty disciplining. When not properly educated, boys are more destructive than girls. So when it comes to education, boys need to be more patient than girls.
To a certain extent, it is also necessary for fathers to take on more responsibilities in education, which is nothing more than a pressure for men.
Boys are even harder to get along with
For men, stepchildren and stepdaughters are often better to get along with, in life, stepfathers and stepdaughters can get along safely, but between stepchildren, there are many who do not get along well.
This is because boys are more aggressive than girls, stepfathers are less controllable, and as boys grow older, it is difficult to guarantee that boys will not act aggressively against their stepfathers once they have a conflict with their mother.
Girls have fewer chances of meeting after marriage
After girls marry, they basically live in their in-laws' homes and rarely return to their mother's house; while boys need to deal with them all the time, and the threat to boys will also exist. So, after weighing the pros and cons, many men will abandon single women with boys.
Single mother with boys, how to improve their advantage in the dating market?
Women who divorce with their sons are indeed more difficult to remarry, and can only improve their own conditions and competitiveness, and add weight to themselves in the marriage market:
First of all, you can coordinate with the child's father to solve the problem of the child's future house. For single mothers, the house, car, bride price and other issues needed by their sons to get married in the future are relatively large obstacles.
Although the father of the child who is also a parent does not live together, he also has to consider the future of the child. In this way, when a single mother chooses a remarried partner, the other party feels that the financial pressure will be less.
Secondly, you must also work hard to improve your ability to make money. As the saying goes, "the economic base determines the superstructure", if the single mother has a strong ability to earn money, even if she is no longer married, then she and her son can still live well.
Finally, single mothers should not only think about solving the problem of survival, but also pay attention to the cultivation of their sons. Cultivate your son well, teach him integrity, understanding, responsibility and responsibility, such a "loved by everyone" child, naturally will also add points to the future mother's blind date.
Today's topic: Do you think it is easy for single mothers with boys to remarry?