The change in the shape of a child after giving birth is a fact that many women bravely face before pregnancy and cannot accept it after giving birth.
"Spring Day Late Departure" has been broadcast for some time, and the most distressing person may be Wu Yating, a single mother.
To sugar mom's feeling, she seemed to be crying from beginning to end. From marriage to children to her own postpartum experiences, it's hard to imagine how she survived.
Wu Yating talked about postpartum body anxiety and low self-esteem to the bottom
Regarding the feelings and marriages of Wu Yating and Wang Quexin, many people only learned about them after their divorce.
The two did not cause a sensation when they got married, but after the divorce, they frequently went on the hot search. Mostly because of Wu Yating, she talked about her emotional story in the show.
After the end of the five-year marriage, Wu Yating became a single mother. When it comes to feelings, she says she's not entitled to be loved anymore.
Part of the reason may be that she experienced love and indifference in the previous relationship, and she no longer wants to believe that there is a good love in the future. On the other hand, she is also anxious about her body.
Wu Yating said that whenever she wanted to develop further, she could not face her body calmly. She was not very old, because she had given birth to a child, her chest was sagging.
Not only was there a loose belly on her stomach, but also a scar left by a caesarean section, which was a particularly big blow to her. It can be seen that Wu Yating almost had low self-esteem to the bottom because of this incident.
Wu Yating's experience after giving birth to a baby resonated
Wu Yating had said earlier that she had given birth to children twice, and Wang Quexin had not accompanied her. Although Wang Quexin had a job at that time, it also became a thorn in Wu Yating's heart that could not be removed.
After Wu Yating gave birth, there must be a period of time to recuperate, but Wang Quexin went out to work the second day after his wife gave birth, leaving Wu Yating alone to take care of the children, for which he also confessed that he was not a good father.
Remember wang Quexin in a program, was asked: "What do you want to do but dare not do"? The answer Wang Lixin originally gave was divorce.
At that time, the couple's relationship was still very good, so everyone thought he was telling a joke, but they didn't expect to say a word, and finally they really separated.
Wu Yating's postpartum depression, widowhood parenting and ecological anxiety have resonated with those who have come here.
Many people lament that after marrying a star, life is not necessarily happy, and every family has its own bad things. If nothing else, women with body anxiety account for a large proportion.
Female body anxiety is one of the factors of postpartum depression
The most fundamental cause of postpartum depression is the normal response of women who have a sharp change in hormones in the body after childbirth.
But some women can easily cross this hurdle, and some women will become more and more serious. There are too many people like Wu Yating who have body anxiety, and the reasons for women's body shape deviation after childbirth are nothing more than the following points.
Lack of exercise at home with a baby
After many women have children, the scope of activities is mainly home, and the opportunity to go out to the supermarket with children is rare. The amount of exercise is reduced, and it is naturally easy to gain weight.
Women who breastfeed are often forced to "make up for it"
It is said that breastfeeding helps to lose weight after childbirth, but what many people do not understand is that Bao Ma's family, in order to let her have more and better breast milk, will make Bao Ma eat more, often drink soup and eat meat.
Occasionally eating in this way can not only relieve hunger but also supplement the body's milk, but often supplement, excess fat calories, will be converted into the mother's flesh, quickly blessed.
Postpartum recovery is not complete
There are also some women who do not simply gain weight after childbirth, but are in poor shape or without shaping. The body is not recovering well. Not only does it make the figure look unsightly, but the whole person has no spirit.
In addition, after having a child, there is no time to take care of yourself, and the gap with the image before pregnancy is too large. Not only may the people around you dislike Bao Ma, but even you can't accept this change.
If you change your body, you are not qualified to talk about love? Take care of yourself no matter what
Sugar Mom saw Wu Yating say that she was not qualified to be loved, and she was still a little sad. In fact, even if you don't consider the eyes of others, it is very important to make yourself recover well after childbirth. Of course, in addition to the female self-regulation, the following conditions are also required.
The love and support of your family
After giving birth, we must pay attention to the physical condition of the mother in time, as well as the changes in emotions, and the husband's attitude is particularly important.
Babies need to be cared for, and women are very vulnerable in the postpartum period, both physically and psychologically. After giving love and support to her mother, even if she becomes chubby, she will not feel anxious.
Timely recovery after childbirth
The most important thing after giving birth is that at about 42 days, I forgot to take my baby to a thorough review. Make sure you and your baby are in good physical condition.
Eating a reasonable diet is not just about controlling your weight. After giving birth, eat according to the normal amount of food, pay attention to the balanced intake of protein, meat, eggs, milk, vegetables and other nutrients. It can maintain weight, and it can also absorb enough nutrients for yourself and your baby.
In addition, you can do some simple indoor sports such as yoga, and your family can also give Bao Ma a holiday and let her go to a professional institution to do postpartum repair.
Mindset needs to change
Finally, what Sugar Mom wants to say is that women's mentality adjustment is also very important, and I remember that Ma Yili went to the crew to shoot when she was breastfeeding after childbirth.
At that time, she also had a sagging chest and was complained about by many people on the Internet. But in Mayi's heart, that is the truest appearance of her mother, and she is not affected by it.
Should divorce and baby end up alone? Don't be discouraged by single mothers
After watching so many episodes of the show, Sugar Mom has a feeling that Wu Yating is really inferior. In fact, she is not bad in terms of appearance or from the strength of her work.
It's just that the identity of a single mother now brings her a certain psychological shadow. Hesitant to take the next step, too concerned about the opinions of others.
The number of single mothers in life is far higher than that of single fathers, and surveys show that when couples divorce, only 1 in 6 couples will choose to keep their children around.
Single mothers are also a large group, and some of them think about their marriage for the sake of their children, after their children go to college, or even after they are married. But that doesn't mean they should end up alone.
Candy Mother's Heart:
A single mother with a divorced baby is not necessarily bad, but the previous relationship is immature. Divorce with a baby can also meet true love, do not be limited by identity, feel that you should end up alone.
【Today's topic】How do you see Wu Yating's thoughts?