The lover collapses, and they finally divorce!

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"The heartbeat always makes people cowardly, speculate with a humble posture, lest they have a big dream."

This sentence is almost the true state of mind in "Spring Day Delay and Departure", Wu Yating confessed to David Lin Chengwei.

In a recent episode, male guests asked questions about the object of concern through a voice changer.

David chose Wu Yating: Can you start a new relationship again?

In a relationship, when asked such a question, the first reaction should be excitement.

But she is like a rabbit who is alert and withdrawing, full of unworthiness in the face of love.

"The other party obviously has a lot of better options, why choose me?"

Indeed, Wu Yating is not only divorced, but also has two children.

From being a teenage girl to becoming a mother, the blow to her was enormous.

After childbirth, the chest droops and fat accumulates into swimming rings.

What made her most uncomfortable was that as a scar physique, the caesarean section scar on her stomach was very ugly like an earthworm.

Over time, the scar bulged out, and when she wore a tighter dress, there would be traces of it.

Countless people around me advised Wu Yating: You are very good, you are very beautiful, you are a hot mother.

She felt that people were kind words, because she had not seen her ugly body after giving birth.

At this point, her tears were like broken pearls, and a drop could not stop falling.

Isn't it a bit like Zhang Xinyi?

She once said something like this: "When I first pursued and confessed to Yuan Hong, my first reaction was to evade and withdraw.

Because he is such a sunny and handsome big boy, and I have been divorced, it is no longer expensive. ”

Even if Yuan Hong insisted on marrying her, her father would remind her again and again: Don't forget, you are a divorced woman.

Divorced women's self-depreciation and arrogance come from the suppression of the social evaluation system.

There was a street interview asking men whether they liked women who had been divorced at 27 or women who had never been married at 35 years old, and some men would not hesitate to choose the latter.

"After buying a second-hand house and a second-hand car, does my wife also have to pick up a second-hand goods?"

He Jiong also said in the program:

"Few would say that this man was successful, but he was divorced;"

"But they would say that this woman was successful, but she was divorced."

Even the national goddess Wang Bingbing was also netted because she had divorced: rotten crotch.

The group of people who originally named her a pure goddess turned against each other in the blink of an eye:

"Divorced women are second-hand."

"Whoever is rare and second-hand will take over the plate."

Or Yang Kasa said it well, some men, obviously so ordinary, but so confident.

People like not a woman who has never been divorced, but another half that they have imagined – pure, obedient, virgin, controlling.

And such people are often double standards, and they have no excuse for the sin that women want to add to it.

A girl who lives together at the age of 19 says she is not a woman; if she is still a virgin at the age of 39, she will say that no one wants an old maid.

It makes sense anyway.

If women are to be self-effacing because of such worldly and unreasonable prejudices, it is too wronged.

It's 2022, and getting divorced is really no big deal.

More and more women, don't be wrong, but can turn around and meet the right.

Divorce is no longer a hurdle, but a boost in life, allowing them to meet a better other.

In 2019, Liang Jingru covered her face and wept at the press conference, announcing the news of her divorce.

Tangled, heartbroken, mixed emotions are about to drown her.

After all, everyone felt she was married to love.

At the romantic island wedding that year, ex-husband Zhao Yuantong kissed her lips and almost choked up to say the promise:

"Thank you for being my other half, for completing my life, living with you in the name of love, is the happiest thing I think."

After getting married, she retreated behind the scenes, the album from one album per year to one in 3 years, marrying a man with an annual salary of 700,000 yuan, washing her hands to make soup, marrying and teaching children, and not being a housewife after the queen of heaven.

Who would have thought that it would be an empty joy after all.

After the man got married, he was constantly ambiguous, and the red flag fluttered outside, and he even fell in love with the Internet celebrity.

Once, she sang "Slow Cold" on stage and accidentally cried out.

"How the first hot one became cold, and the slow heat could not stop still boiling..."

She thought the song was "so scary".

"It's immersive, and until now, I shudder every time I sing this song."

The failure of this marriage was a fatal blow to her, even so severe that she needed to see a psychologist.

When everyone thought she would be devastated, she met Lin Daguang, the 56-year-old president of the company, who would kiss her, cherish her, generously admit her love affair, and give her unquestionable favoritism.

Miraculously, this is also in line with her previous mate selection criteria: "A little higher, cultured, humorous." ”

A truly powerful woman who does not run away from grief and at the same time does not let it go.

It will not be disguised as a lonely courage, but it will slowly stitch together the broken self to meet the next better.

These days, Brush Douyin saw the wedding photo of the cerebral palsy poet Yu Xiuhua.

A 46-year-old poet, married to her 14-year-old boyfriend of 90s, Yang Yongce.

The sun was shining, the beautiful man was in her arms, and she smiled with a spring breeze.

It was as if the traces of the first failed marriage had been wiped away.

At that time, she was abused and humiliated by her ex-husband, and even thought that she could not even compare with an 800 yuan pig.

In rural areas, a woman's choice to divorce marks shame and betrayal.

But Yu Xiuhua left, she used 150,000 yuan plus a house to say goodbye to the first half of her life, leaving her ex-husband who could not enter her spiritual world.

How sad, the love of the skin and the love of the soul, in 10 years of marriage, she has not really experienced it.

"I'm still not reconciled."

With an unwillingness and an expectation for the future, she set off again.

Although many people have reminded Yu Xiuhua that small fresh meat may only look at the fame and fortune she can bring.

But she disagreed:

Love is love, whether he is really fake, it is a big deal to be hurt again.

Her dashing reminds me of a line from the big fish begonia:

This short life, we will eventually lose. You might as well be bold, love someone, climb a mountain, chase a dream.

If life cares about the outcome, everyone's final destination is the same.

If you care about the process, then enjoy the scenery along the road, and enter an inch of joy.

Divorce is a dark tunnel of life.

At this time, negative emotions such as fear, anger, regret, and heartache will strike like a tsunami, and they will continue to open their blood basins and mouths to swallow you up little by little.

But you have to believe that no matter how much sadness you have, you can disappear in the daily life of three meals a day.

The voice of the outside world is not important, it is most important to soothe your own heart.

CR: Alai

Enrich yourself and embark on a new adventure and journey – that's the answer given by countless women.

Falling in love with someone you shouldn't be in love with isn't a woman's fault, but it can be a trial and lesson.

Crossing the hill, you can see that there are still people waiting.

May everyone who has been patronized by misfortune not remember the past, live in the present, and be fearless of the future.

I also hope that Wu Yating, who has low self-esteem, can open her arms again and embrace love.

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