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Some time ago, Mr. Li saw the divorce data for 2021, and a total of 2.139 million couples completed divorce registration throughout the year.
Although this data has decreased compared to the previous year, divorce has obviously become a norm in marriage today.
Can a divorced person still have love?
Will divorced people still be willing to walk into marriage?
Similar topics have always been hot today, and are being paid more and more attention.
Recently, in the variety show "Spring Day Delays And Departures", Mr. Li also found the answer in the hearts of some divorced people.
It was the latest episode of the show, and a critically acclaimed male guest invited Wu Yating on a date.
Blue sea and blue sky, the sea gently caressed their feet, they walked slowly on the beach while talking, leaving behind a string of footprints...
This TV series-like scene seems extremely romantic and beautiful.
The male guest also boldly made a sincere confession to Wu Yating at this time.
Source: "Spring Day Late Departure"
Seeing this scene, most of the audience in front of the screen showed their aunt smiles.
From the picture, it is not difficult to see that Wu Yating is also somewhat moved and even moved.
However, after seemingly thinking of something, she hesitated and did not nod her head in agreement.
Afterwards, she replied:
"Marriage is so sensational, divorce is so sensational, and then there are two children, the thing itself will be prohibitive." I don't believe that love is also quite normal. ”
This passage summed up the first half of her life and also spoke of her heart disease.
Everyone found out that Wu Yating did not really have any feelings for the other party, but had too many concerns.
The child's motherhood made her less confident, and the failure of the previous marriage fundamentally made her doubt whether she still had the need to start a new relationship.
After all, like witnessing the blossoming and the failure of flowers, she already knew the best and worst of love.
At the beginning, she and her ex-husband Wang Quexin held a grand wedding in Sanya, and under the witness of many relatives and friends, she made a promise of love for a lifetime.
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In the beginning, this marriage really had many people envious.
They have conceived a son and a daughter, and they have also appeared on variety shows, and they have attracted countless fans with their sweet daily lives.
But then what?
When the family was already happy, they officially announced their divorce. In just one month, Wang Lixin was photographed with Xin huan.
The most ridiculous thing is that Wu Yating once called her ex-husband, but the other party did not even save her number and asked her who she was.
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Lovers who used to sleep together, but in the end they didn't even make friends.
The beautiful love ended in dismal light, and such an experience was undoubtedly painful.
Wu Yating is actually not without the courage to start over.
She was just afraid that her past experience would be repeated again, and that she would be wasted her time and youth again.
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After the show was broadcast, some netizens scolded Wu Yating for being affectionate, saying that you don't want to fall in love and what to do with the show.
But most people who have been divorced or have been emotionally hurt actually empathize with Wu Yating's approach.
Confusion is a psychological state they have shared.
They are not really desperate, but they seem to have discovered the truth of their feelings and feel that there is no point in starting over.
When we were young, we were deeply influenced by TV dramas and novels, and we always felt that when we met love, we would always be you and me for a lifetime, and no one could do without anyone.
However, after personal experience, it is not difficult to find that the love between men and women has actually been sanctified.
As Fichner's Law summarizes, passion always dissipates with the fading of hormones, and feelings do become more and more flat as time goes on.
Parents are short, chai rice oil and salt are difficult problems that cannot be avoided between lovers.
The three views and character that followed were revealed, and it was finally decided whether a relationship could last a long time.
Every enviable couple in the world who work together for life is actually a character who is loyal to their lover.
But when you meet such a person, you must pay attention to luck after all, and human beings are especially good at hiding their nature.
So that in the relationship to meet scumbags, marriage unhappy situations occur frequently.
Like a gamble, no one can guarantee that their next relationship, the next person they meet, will be different.
And for those who have already failed, the cost of failing again is too great.
It may be necessary to experience the pain of marital unhappiness again, and it may be necessary to waste years of youth again.
Therefore, more and more divorced people are full of disappointment in marriage, and people who are not yet married have no interest in entering the palace of marriage.
Wu Xin, who also appeared in "Spring Day Late departure", is the most typical example.
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Wu Xin had always longed for love and marriage before, but after meeting the man, her worldview collapsed.
She once broke the news on the show that she had a very loving ex-boyfriend.
At the beginning, Wu Xin was extremely attached to him and once wanted to enter the marriage hall.
Even if the parents always object to them being together, they feel that boys are not suitable for Wu Xin. Wu Xin still stands on the side of her boyfriend, even if she is deadlocked and confrontation with her parents.
However, it turns out that the eyes of the older generation are still accurate, and the man's character is indeed a great problem.
After Wu Xin broke up with him, the other party used his mobile phone to log in to Wu Xin's social account, posted their previous intimate photos, and announced their relationship.
This revenge not only deeply hit Wu Xin's career, but also made Wu Xin re-examine the matter of feelings. And the subsequent failed relationships made her more sober.
Once, Wu Xin made a wish and said that he hoped that he could marry at the age of 38 and have children at the age of 39.
But now that she is 39 years old, she is still single.
Even if from time to time someone would urge her to marry, mocking her that she would not be able to have children after she was so old and not married.
Wu Xin remained indifferent.
"If you meet it, you will encounter it, and if you don't meet it, you will forget it."
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This is her answer, and it is also the common voice of many people who have similar experiences at the moment.
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The more you experience, the easier it is to discover that love is not a necessity of life.
Being single can also be happy, and you can take care of yourself.
But there's no denying that sweet part of being in love is really tempting too.
And if you can meet the other half that is suitable for each other, life will be a lot more beautiful and wonderful.
What Sir really wants to say is that whether you are single or choose a new relationship again, in fact, there is no right or wrong, and the most important thing is not to let yourself regret it.
The most important situation is actually to like to be single and forced to marry, or to like it in your heart, but because you are afraid of the tragedy repeating itself, you dare not try.
Isn't this punishing yourself for someone else's mistake?
Mr. S has always appreciated that the divorce was not long after the official announcement of the second marriage.
It's not that her choice is necessarily correct, but her character of daring to love and hate is too enviable.
It's true that we can't decide what the feelings we encounter really look like, but we can learn something like Big S:
If you encounter something that is not right, you will lose it, if you want to be single, you can also try it when you meet something you like.
I will never take love as the whole thing, but I also have the courage to start over, and the confidence not to be afraid of losing.
Life is actually very short, what's wrong with being unbridled?
I hope that every girl who has been injured will learn to listen to her heart and be kind to herself.
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