"Divorced, it's second-hand!"
In 2022, can you still see such remarks?
It's shocking.
These comments actually refer to Yang Mi, who is rich and beautiful.
In the eyes of some people, divorced people seem to be inferior.
Even if they are beautiful and excellent, they are still "depreciating second-hand goods"...
These unfriendly voices for divorced women may seem absurd, but they have always existed.
Even, it will always bother many divorced women.
For example, another divorced woman who has frequently appeared on the hot search recently - Wu Yating.
In a divorce variety show, a male guest David chose to confess to Wu Yating.
Wu Yating was surprised at first, and after hesitating for a long time, she chose to refuse.
She said with a heavy heart:
"Except for the two children who left me no time, now I feel that I am no longer qualified to walk into new feelings."
In stark contrast to her ex-husband, Wang Quexin.
The official divorce was announced less than 10 days ago, and the new person was photographed on the side.
Why is Wu Yating so "inferior"?
I have found that there are always many girls who are facing divorce and will consciously or unconsciously fall into self-denial.
Even, began to identify with this "unworthy" view.
For example, Zhang Xinyi.
Before marrying Yuan Hong, Zhang Xinyi had a brief marriage with director Yang Shupeng.
After the divorce, Zhang Xinyi fell into a deep inferiority complex.
In the face of Yuan Hong's pursuit, she also asked herself:
"Why would such a sunny boy like me, a divorced woman?"
Even her father reminded her:
"You're a divorced woman, don't feel like you're expensive."
Under the many voices, Zhang Xinyi did not dare to accept Yuan Hong.
Even though she was already on the wedding stage, she still had a deep suspicion:
"I thought I would never have such a happy moment in my life."
If yuan hong is not persistent enough, Zhang Xinyi will really rub shoulders with happiness.
Beautiful and excellent such as Zhang Xinyi, she still has to be labeled as a malicious label of "divorced woman" and "not expensive".
Not to mention the ordinary majority of women.
Why is it that if you have divorced, you don't deserve a new beginning?
In the end, it is still the old ideas that are at work.
It also tries to use these old ideas to continue to morally kidnap women today.
In this regard, Zhang Yuqi is an "anti-brainwashing master".
Zhang Yuqi, once two knots and two separations.
In the second marriage, she and her ex-husband Yuan Bayuan made a lot of bad trouble.
There have been many controversies and ugly remarks surrounding her.
However, Zhang Yuqi didn't care at all.
In the face of netizens questioning her entanglement with her ex-husband, she directly posted a blog back:
"A single woman can accept the pursuit of single men all over the world, including her ex-husband."
In the face of a failed marriage, she generously admitted,
Even directly on the talk show to self-teasing: "Yes, I really can't see men's eyes." ”
Therefore, inferiority, dare not fall in love again?
For Zhang Yuqi, there is no such thing.
Zhang Yuqi still has continuous love luck and talks about love with her young brother.
After all, her chasers could really be lined up in France.
Of course, it is not to encourage everyone to learn Zhang Yuqi's divorce.
What we hope more is that everyone can have the same attitude as Zhang Yuqi.
Don't be kidnapped by the so-called "unworthy" remarks, and don't be wronged by this and miss your own happiness.
Divorce has never been an "original sin."
It is at best a "hurdle" in our lives.
Whose life, where there are not a few obstacles?
As Zhang Yuqi said: "Where there are few big pits in life, stepping over the past is growth." ”
In fact, from an economic point of view, in the long run, divorce is not necessarily a bad thing for women.
First, divorce can reduce sunk costs.
As I said before, marriage is actually a co-investment.
Whether before marriage or after entering marriage, both parties have paid immeasurable feelings, money, time and energy for this.
Many people will feel that divorce means that their past efforts are wasted, so they are reluctant to let go.
But in fact, this idea of not wanting to "lose money" is wrong.
The feelings, money, time, and energy we invest in a romantic marriage can be called sunk costs in economics.
This refers to costs that have already occurred and cannot be recovered.
Since these costs are irretrievable, sunk costs should not affect current decisions.
Moreover, two people live together, gathering and dispersing.
It couldn't have been more normal.
Once it is found that it is inappropriate in the process of getting along, it is time to stop adding sunk costs and stop losses in time.
Second, there is an inverse causal relationship in economics.
That is, when there is a problem in marriage, it will make many women invest more time and energy in their careers, so that they can succeed in their careers.
That is to say, leaving the wrong feelings and stopping the loss in time can allow a person to speed up the pace of financial independence.
Why is Wu Yating so inferior?
In large part, it was due to her long-term employment as a stay-at-home mom who was unable to be financially independent during her previous marriage.
After getting married, she quit her stable job as a tv station director.
Both children were brought by herself and taught by herself.
After the divorce, she raised two children on her own.
In order not to reach out for money from her ex-husband, she began to look for career development opportunities again.
Later, she went on a variety show, and used the popularity of the program to open a live broadcast with goods, earning money for milk powder for her children.
To tell the truth, her return to the workplace is a very good move.
Maybe in the short term, the pain of divorce will still accompany her;
But in the long run, without a painful marriage, she can re-plan her career and start a new life of her own.
Therefore, divorce is also a technical job.
Just put your mindset right and adjust your life status.
Divorce is not only not the end, but also the beginning of our new life.
Write at the end
From Wu Yating's body, we can actually see that no matter when, women should not give up their careers.
It is the biggest confidence when we enter marriage, and it is also the strongest backing when we want to get out and leave.
We do not recommend putting all the chips in life on one person.
This is a venture capital.
It is the last word to make money yourself and enhance your own strength.
Just like Zhang Yuqi in front of her, her vision of men is indeed not good, but she herself is very good.
She has a career, she can make money, and she can live well herself.
This is the biggest reason why my sister can become more and more frustrated on the road of love.
Finally, I would like to say.
Marriage is for happiness. The same is true of divorce.
Divorce is just an experience for everyone, and it shouldn't be the definition of a person.
Everyone should have the right to regain happiness.
Bless all Yang Mi and Wu Yating, and believe that you are very good, excellent, and always worthy of love.