"I regret that I should not divorce and marry true love, so I want to remarry you", ex-wife: give me 1 million first

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Hugo's "Les Misérables": "Man, with material things can survive, the ideals supported by materials are easier to achieve." There are ideals in the air, and in the end it is just a dream of yellow sorghum. ”

Realizing your ideals while you are alive is meaningful to yourself. And if you want to achieve the ideal while you are alive, you must first live, and secondly, you must live well, and there is no material worry, in order to work hard to achieve the ideal.

Whether it is a career ideal or an emotional ideal, it needs to be based on material foundations. Otherwise, you will not even have a problem eating, and you will have extra thoughts to achieve your ideals.

So, how can you make your life have a material basis? I think there are two more common ways: one is to rely on yourself, and the other is to rely on others.

These two ways are inseparable, when relying on themselves also need to rely on others, relying on others often also needs to rely on themselves.

You make money on your own, where does the money come from? Who do you make money from? This requires that you have an object that can make you money, such as the so-called gold lord, from this point of view, you are on your own and on others.

At this time, it is easy to understand that "relying on others", in addition to your parents, you want to rely on anyone, you need to have the corresponding advantages and means, you have to let others identify with you, let others be willing to become your dependence, which requires you to know how to rely on yourself.

The following woman's view of marriage and love, the changes that occur before and after the divorce depend on the above truths, let's take a look at it together.

Hello Mr. Donglin:

When I used to hear people say that "women should live a realistic life", I always dismissed it, thinking that being a person should not be so worldly. I think that marriage should be treated with the concept of "true love first", and only with true love can we have a quality life.

Soon, I was slapped in the face by reality and shattered my idealism.

True love is very important, and two people who truly love each other live together, and it sounds like they will become happier and happier. But the problem is that true love is not so easy to meet. If your marriage doesn't have this foundation, you can only live a realistic life, focusing on life first, and then talking about ideals.

I used to think that I and my ex-husband were true love, but they were betrayed, and he insisted on "divorcing and marrying true love". I never dreamed that the person I really loved would end up thinking that other women were his true love.

Since then, my concept has changed, I no longer blindly believe that true love is better than everything, I would rather have more money in my hand, so that at least I can get a real material life, not like true love, scattered, leaving only disappointment.

Just when I decided to prioritize material things in my future marriage, my ex-husband came to me to remarry: "I regret that I should not divorce and marry true love, I want to remarry you, I think you are ten thousand times better than that woman!" She only loves my money, not my people, unlike you, who loves my people. ”

I said I might disappoint you: "Divorce has made me realize my marriage and what I need most." I did love your people before, but now I love money a little more. The previous painful experience was because I only focused on the evil consequences of feelings, and I didn't want to let myself repeat the same mistakes. So, if you want to remarry me, give me $1 million first. With money I can consider remarrying you, otherwise I won't talk about it! After all, you betrayed me first, I can't just remarry you casually, negative people want to remarry, must pay a price! ”

He said he needed to think about it and needed to go home and talk to my mother-in-law. As a result, my mother-in-law asked me on the same day: "Are you poor and crazy?" My son sincerely wants to remarry you, and you ask him why he wants so much money? Even if you find someone to remarry, you won't be able to spend that much money! Remarriage costs more money than remarriage, which is unreasonable! ”

I said don't talk nonsense if I don't agree, anyway, I have made the request clear. I can understand that they want to save money and even want me to remarry without spending a penny. But why? If it is a normal marriage, I will not want so much; but remarriage is not a normal marriage, and it is a negative person who wants to remarry me, of course, I have to make a lot of money, otherwise I will be betrayed again, and I will still be disappointed.

Later my ex-husband figured it out and agreed to the conditions I proposed, the cash was not so much, I asked him to take the house as collateral, and asked him to clearly note the nature of the "gift".

I didn't remarry him immediately after I got the money, and I felt the need to give him enough time to think about the consequences, that is, if he dared to betray me again, all his things would belong to me.

That way, I have nothing to fear. Anyway, there is money in his hand, there is a house, and the rest depends on how he behaves. I just need to pursue my dreams with all my heart anyway, if he is conscious, I will live a good life with him; if he is not conscious, he deserves to be punished.

Donglin Xiting Emotional Advice:

Some couples remarry after divorce, it is very easy, just like when they first got married, just re-pull a certificate, without any cost.

Such "remarriage" is either because there is no deep hatred between each other and both parties are willing to remarry; or the party who passively accepts remarriage is too emotional and afraid of talking about money and hurting feelings.

But not all "remarriages" are of this nature. Like the "remarriage" faced by the couple above, neither satisfying "you love me", nor "talking about money hurts feelings", and the woman is determined to give priority to material life, so that as a negative man, if he wants to remarry, he must pay a price.

This kind of thing may sound excessive, but when you think about it, it doesn't feel like a problem. After all, the woman has been betrayed, hurt, and indeed because of the evil consequences of heavy feelings. If she doesn't let her ex pay anything, she'll be mentally unbalanced.

Some people may think that it is unfair to the man, but since the man accepts the woman's condition, that is, "one is willing to fight and one is willing to be beaten", and the unfairness is not under our control.

In general, the woman's approach can not only balance herself psychologically, but also can well restrain men's behavior. A man who is jealous does not dare to betray his wife.

This technique of "mutual restraint" is worth learning from others: both husband and wife restrain each other, and each other is jealous, which can well regulate their words and deeds in marriage, so that many problems can be avoided.