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First, the woman's fertility period is the peak period of divorce, because she is used clean, it is time to discard
My friend Ah Cai has been divorced for six years, and I have heard that I have been in a relationship with several men, but they have not ended up. Her ex-husband wouldn't let her see the kids, and she didn't have time to go to court to visit, and the biggest difference between her and when she got married over the years was that she never stopped working. The impression is that she is a weak and obedient woman, like a purple fairy, longing for someone to step on the seven clouds to marry her and protect her.
The girl's dream is simple and beautiful, but the marriage in reality hits people with blue noses and swollen faces, although she has repeatedly endured and has not escaped the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, sister-in-law contradictions, and husbands' affairs. Since giving birth to a child, she has suffered humiliation and scolding from her in-laws every day, the main reason is that----- she has no job after giving birth, she can't find a job during lactation, the child often gets sick before the age of three and needs to go to the hospital, and no company is willing to accept her as a person who often asks for leave.
In the most difficult years of a woman's fertility period, she experienced purgatory on earth until the judge granted her husband's aggressive divorce appeal, and after the trial she suddenly found herself free, the sky outside was very blue, the wind was very fresh, and the heavy pressure on her head was suddenly gone, although the custody of the child was taken away by her ex-husband, but from another point of view, this just gave her the opportunity to go out to work. Because she has suffered no economic and independent losses, she has become able to bear hardships, and she does not do work with less money, only picking hard work with commissions.
Second, after divorce, he became autistic, did not engage in communication, and only wanted to earn money
After the divorce, she did not interact with her former friends, and her relatives did not move around. According to her words, this saves the cost of human sophistication, how many relationships in the world are worth maintaining? Except for the only mother of relatives, everyone else takes pleasure in inquiring about other people's misfortunes, or does not give any care or help with a cold look. If you have money, it is different, you can buy a house and a car to enjoy favorable material conditions, you can return to your mother, you can go back to your ex-husband to fight for the custody of your children, and you can reject the hypocritical relationship with full confidence.
After the divorce became autistic, but also became focused. Occasionally, with a man to offer, she will no longer be as blind and flippant as before, and she will not deliver until she understands the other person's attitude toward money, the ordering of her partner and family, and whether the values at the bottom are as expected. Those men are also very cheerful, since the pursuit of you to cross the mountains and seas to take a lot of trouble, it is better to change to a woman with low requirements to pursue. She summed up a set of logic: women who are older and have a history of fertility, competing with young girls for high-quality resources of the opposite sex, it is impossible to win, find inferior heterosexuals and fall into the ice cave of marriage, it is better to be single, it is better to earn money, it is better to choose freedom, it is better to accumulate strength, it is better to prepare for the elderly early.
Third, women are financially independent, and even remarriage has become easier
For six years, she struggled on the front line of work almost every day, saving a sum of money, buying a house with a mortgage, learning a driver's license and buying a scooter. A woman who was once indecisive, who could not hold on to any job for a month, who would give up and cry when she encountered setbacks, was forced by fate to be strong and decisive.
Now she's back, fighting for the face she's lost and custody of her children. From his former neighbors, he learned that his ex-husband broke up only a year after he was with the cheating partner, he overestimated the extent to which his lover loved him, he thought that his children would be the most precious treasure in his lover's life, and he thought that after the lover became his wife, he should keep to himself and honestly accept the in-laws' in-laws. In order to prove his charm and ability, he approached multiple women again, all of whom could not be together for the same reason.
At present, the father-in-law has died and the mother-in-law is seriously ill, and the man has fallen into debt due to investment mistakes, so he came to her to borrow money and asked her to see the remarriage for the sake of the children. In the months of the divorce, she did fantasize about remarrying, waiting day and night for him to come, calling to test his attitude, and as a result, she waited for a slut who was still scolded by him as a pestering slut.
How many women are willing to spend the rest of their lives in a marriage that divorces because a woman has a child, and asks to remarry because she cannot afford to raise a child? I asked Ah Cai really decided not to remarry? She said yes lightly, I was prepared for today six years ago, I waited, I did it, and soon I will be with my children!
Every divorced woman is not easy, the separation of flesh and bones is bitter, with children to rely on each other is also bitter, why can not be kind to these women after childbirth, have to be at her weakest time, ruthless suppression and disregard, just because the cost of divorce is low?
[Author: Shameful mud, focus on emotional inspiration, marriage interpretation, may my companionship bring you comfort]