One fact is that the two things that a couple is most concerned about when divorcing are how to divide the property in their own interests; and the other is to fight for the custody of their children. The division of property generally does not have much disagreement, and those that can be discussed will be discussed and resolved together, and no agreement can be reached, either to find an intermediary to coordinate, or the court will decide. However, on the issue of child rearing alone, many couples do not give in to each other, and both have good reasons. So, who should raise the child is more conducive to the growth of the child?
The TV series "Our Marriage" has such a typical couple. Both husband and wife are gold collars on the financial street, but the wife Shen Huixing (Bai Baihe) has been at home with children for six years, and after returning to work, there is a family disagreement with her husband Sheng Jiangchuan (Tong Dawei), and the two of them file for divorce under the gamble, and they are fighting for the custody of the children. From the analysis of personal income, Sheng Jiangchuan has a higher income than his wife Shen Huixing, and in terms of intimacy with his children, Sheng Jiangchuan is slightly inferior to his wife Shen Huixing. Without mixing personal emotional factors, if divorce is inevitable, starting only from a rational point of view, who will raise children more conducive to the healthy growth of children?
This is indeed a heavy topic, the husband and wife divorce, the minor children must live with one of the father or mother, first do not discuss the official judgment of the divorce, if there is a significant gap in the income of the two parties when negotiating divorce, will the low-income party willingly give up the custody of the child?
Most people probably won't give up, and the reason seems to be the same – don't want kids or people? Yes, the old saying goes, "born without raising, no grace is guilty", everyone has the generosity of eating chaff and swallowing vegetables to pull the child up, the problem is, the child can obviously enjoy better living conditions, why do you have to lose the food and clothing because of the "love" of the father or mother?
There is only one reason, that is, the parent or mother who won the custody of the child did not really look at the problem from the perspective of the child's growth and finally decided, to put it bluntly, the dignity of the parents at this time is higher than the future of the child, and the raising of the child puts itself on the moral high ground. It can be seen how selfish a person's dignity is when it comes to the custody of children.
In the process of children's growth, there is not only food, clothing, shelter and transportation, but also an environment for receiving education, learning to think, and playing childhood and carefree growth. If a person's income is barely enough to live on their own, what do you take to make the child live a healthy life? Yes, children can share a bowl of rice with you, but can you bear it? When your child grows up, his/her body needs a variety of nutritional supplements, including a variety of vitamins and various trace elements. Do you also tell your children that we can grow tall without eating these?
People's hearts are flesh, you are connected with the blood of the child, reluctant to have forgiveness for the child, but in the future growth environment and health of the child, please be rational, or in other words, please let go of your dignity as a father or mother. If the income is indeed inferior to that of the wife or husband, then let go, give custody to the other party, let the child live a healthy life and grow up happily, you are still the father or mother of the child. So, when divorce becomes inevitable, please let go of your dignity and consider the question of who the child follows who is happier and healthier.
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