Someone asked what is the secret of a couple over seventy years old to run a marriage?
Wife Answer:
"One word 'endure.'"
The husband then retorted:
"No, it should be four words 'endure and endure again'"
Perhaps when everyone steps into marriage, they will have good expectations for marriage, and they always feel that two people can spend a lifetime together for a long time.
But the reality is that there is no perfect person, and there is no perfect partner.
The truly long-term happiness of marriage is actually to see each other's cards, to see each other's darkness, and then to still love each other.
Sometimes love is not true, good, and beautiful, but you "endure" a little for him, and he "endures" a little for you.
There is no perfectly matched partner
There is a sentence in "Paper Marriage":
"Two people together, no one is perfect, as long as most of the time willing to accommodate each other, willing to understand each other, it is extremely rare." 」
It is true that everyone is an independent individual, will have their own edges and temperaments, and living together for a long time naturally cannot avoid bumps and bumps.
If one of the two people does not know how to compromise and the other does not know how to be considerate, then it will naturally lead to smoke and smoke.
Then in the gambling cold war, quarrels and fights, the feelings are sacrificed.
In the TV series "Our Marriage", the marriage of Sheng Jiangchuan and Shen Comet can be said to be very enviable in the hearts of outsiders.
Two people are evenly matched at work, clean in life, and have each other in their hearts.
However, even if it is such a perfect two people, there will be all kinds of contradictions.
Shen Yanxing will complain that Sheng Jiangchuan does not care about himself regardless of his family;
Sheng Jiangchuan will complain that Shen Yanxing does not understand and does not understand himself;
Even for the right to use a room, two people will gamble on the cold war!
In the midst of so many contradictions and collisions, the reason why two people can still maintain their feelings and live happily.
It's just that every time the contradiction ends, one person endures, one person lets go!
There is a saying:
"A good marriage is not about finding the perfect partner, but about accepting each other's shortcomings and embracing each other's shortcomings."
No one in this world is truly perfect, and no relationship is a perfect fit.
The reason why two people become happy after being together is that someone is putting up with someone and someone is letting go.
"Forbearance" one step can open up the sea and the sky
Franklin said:
"Keep your eyes open before you get married, and close one eye after you get married."
Marriage, in fact, is so.
Two completely different people, to live together for a lifetime.
If you all want to live according to your own ideas, but if there are contradictions and do not give in, then in the end you will only live a mess.
Only when the husband understands how to be soft, the wife is not more real, and the hand of the son dances together, can he walk through the chicken feathers of life and live a swaying life.
I once saw such a small story:
When a girl first got married, she was given a note with ten shortcomings that she could tolerate with the other half.
At that time, she felt that she could have such an awareness was really too great, and it was impossible to give in anymore.
However, after getting married, her note became a book, and the tolerable shortcomings of the other party listed were increased from the original ten to hundreds.
This was something she could not have imagined before marriage.
Later, in an interview with a model partner, when someone asked her how she could make her marriage as happy as she was.
Although she didn't say a word, the book she came up with was the best answer.
Writer Chen Xue said in the book "Love Lessons":
"Love is not two wishes, after the combination of romance, everything will come to fruition." Rather, love really begins after the tests of romance fade. ”
Feelings are never only vigorous, nor are they only sweet, but collapse and sweetness coexist.
Only when two people endure the moment when the other person makes himself collapse, then sweetness will fill the whole life.
Good feelings need to be "endured"
There is a saying in "The Vanishing Lover":
"Marriage is to compromise with each other and work hard, and those who enter this door, please, do not take chances."
Good feelings require patience with each other and mutual fulfillment.
In fact, a good life is not too difficult.
The house doesn't need to be too big, the balcony has grass and flowers, and I sleep on the loungers in the sun at noon.
Occasionally make a tantrum, I cry you coax, you are angry I am deaf, we have a poor memory, quarrel and twist our faces to forget, step on the sunset, chat along the way hip-hop ha ha ...
When entering marriage, don't always be too stubborn, let it go.
Endure and let go, and you will be happy for a lifetime.
For the rest of your life, may you meet someone who, like you, is willing to put up with for your relationship.
Then, the two people work together to spend the years of chicken and dog pieces, a happy life.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.