Someone doesn't like you, what do you do?

There is a saying:

"A good relationship is not something we take the initiative to choose, and it doesn't always go the way we expect it to."

Getting along with people is that there are too many helplessness, you think you are excellent, you are good to others, others should like you.

But in fact, no matter how hard you try, no matter how kind you are, no matter how perfect, people who don't like you can always find reasons that don't like you.

Obsessed with whether others like you, and constantly humble yourself in order to be able to get everyone's likes, you will eventually find that you not only can't change other people's opinions, but you will lose yourself.

So if someone doesn't like themselves, what do they do? I hope you will remember the following three sentences.

You can't be satisfied with everyone

Saying goes:

"In the eyes of a hundred people, there are a hundred Hamlets."

If someone feels good about you, then there must be someone who feels bad about you.

Blindly changing yourself to cater to people who don't like you will eventually find that even if you are exhausted, you will not be able to satisfy everyone.

The TV series "In Our Marriage" has such a plot, when Shen Yanxing just entered the workplace, she treated people warmly, worked seriously, and worked hard.

Such a near-perfect person, in our habitual cognition, no one will dislike it.

However, there is such a colleague who is very unaccustomed to her.

As long as she leaves work on time, this colleague will make a small report to the leader; he will even deliberately frame her.

There is no hatred, no resentment, and there is no conflict of interest between the two people, why does this colleague dislike Shen Comet so much?

Oh, yes? Why?

To use a very heartfelt and very true sentence on the Internet to answer:

"Some people don't like you for no reason, and if you have to find a reason, it's just because you're you!"

Adler said:

"You don't live to meet the expectations of others, and others don't live to meet your expectations."

No matter how well you do, you can't make everyone like you as much as you expect.

So you don't have to worry about other people's expectations, and you don't have to be bound by worldly values.

Accepting being hated is a compulsory lesson in life

There is no denying that each of us wants to be liked and does not want to be hated.

Whenever we are hated by others, although we may not necessarily lose anything, there will always be a little discomfort in our hearts.

Therefore, too many people will become accustomed to being humble and flattering in the face of people who hate themselves.

In their hearts, reach out and don't hit the smiley face person, lower their posture a little, and be nice to each other, then the other party will always like themselves.

But the truth often backfires.

A truly powerful and wise person is by no means able to avoid being hated, but to be able to accept being hated.

I once saw a conversation like this:

"He hates you so much, he always doesn't give you a good look, you don't get angry?"

"He hates me for his business?" Why should I be angry! ”

Yes, in this life, how many people like themselves, there will be many people who hate themselves. If you are angry when you are hated, then you can also be angry.

Wang Yangming said in the Book of Transmission:

"When the people of the world see what they are, they slander them with no laughter."

Life is a serious illness, but the word "care".

"Non-laughter" often occurs, and "no matter who is not laughing" is rare.

If we can calmly face the ridicule, ridicule and dislike of others, then we are not far from a calm life.

In life, it is inevitable to meet people who hate themselves, and even if you block this, there will definitely be new ones to make up.

Therefore, in the face of people who hate themselves, running away is never the best solution, and accepting being hated is a kind of wisdom.

Be yourself, close to each other

Yu Minhong said:

"Living yourself in the eyes of others will always be a vassal in the eyes of others, and living yourself in your own eyes will you become your own master."

No matter what others say about you, it is actually just the falling rain after all; when you learn to make an umbrella for yourself, then the rain can't get wet no matter how big it is.

In life, don't care too much about what others think of you.

All you need to do is be yourself.

After all, others don't like you, there is no real impact on you, and when you mess up the rhythm because others don't like it, then it is the biggest harm to yourself.

For the rest of your life, get along with people, you must know how to be open-minded, a little more open-minded, and treat relationships with relatives and alienation.

Don't chase what you can't catch up with, put it down without moving, delete it unaccustomedly, drift away from it casually, and don't belong to yourself.

Do what you want to do, listen to the voice you want to hear the most, meet the person you want to meet the most, so simple, very good.

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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.