A man who is very deep in the city will show these three points in marriage, and women should pay attention

Wen\Ivan, Jiang Zuo Meiniang

Stills from "Our Marriage"

In the plot of "Our Marriage", Lu Weibin framed Jiang Jing out of the GUI and swept him out of the house, the most infuriating thing is that in the custody of the child, Lu Weibin also showed dispensable, even unwilling to fight, which made Jiang Jing completely dumbfounded.

Only then did she understand that in the eyes of this man, everything was a floating cloud, and only money was the most important. It was so important that even his own children could be easily abandoned, without any hesitation.

This man is simply hard-hearted, not as good as a pig or a dog. This makes people can't help but sigh, what kind of eyes Did Jiang Jing have, and actually looked at such a bad man.

But to tell the truth, like Lu Weibin, a bad man who is very deep in the city government, when you and he just fell in love, you may not really see it, but after marriage, if you find a man with these characteristics, you must be careful, you should be wary, you should be wary, you should resist to resist, you can't let it go, otherwise it is easy to be eaten dry and wiped clean by him, and there is no slag left.

01. Absenteeism

Lu Weibin was the worst of the first.

Just as Jiang Jing said to Li Yuwen, your family is always more tickets, and our family is always less than one person.

On weekends, the children want to go to play, and only Jiang Jing carries them alone. Go to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, because together with Li Yuwen, they are also mistaken for husband and wife. Compared with Shen Comet, she did not sacrifice the same for six years.

It's just that in the past six years, it seems that I have eaten and eaten, lived in a mansion, and lived a comfortable life. The pain of this is probably only known to her.

The husband has never reached out on matters big and small, especially on the education of his children, and his attitude is vague and arrogant.

When meeting Shen Yanxing's family for the first time, how is the domineering performance of the child not the epitome of Lu Weibin?

Jiang Jing was like a caged bird, a plaything, beckoning to come and go. When you are happy, reward her with a bag and a necklace to send her off.

He never imagined how much she had sacrificed for this family, for the children, for her children. Not to mention what kind of role he plays in this family. In his opinion, I provide you with everything, and you naturally can't bother me.

Jiang Jing has always hoped that her husband can participate in the family more, instead of just sending a bag and a necklace as a comfort every time. What she needs is not only the love and care of her husband, but also the dedication and participation in the family. Not every time just money replaces all absences. Because, no matter how strong a person's strength is, she also hopes that someone will come to carry it with her.

But will Lu Weibin participate? No, and the reason why he is unwilling to participate is because he deeply understands in his heart that his wife can be changed at any time, the children are no longer kissed, and in the end, it is also his own flesh and bones, emotional payment, there will not be too much gain, but put the energy on the career, will let himself have enough foundation and confidence, he is calculated! Therefore, Jiang Jing will always be unable to move him. Didn't his later desperate divorce show that he calculated very accurately?

For such a man, women can only try not to lag behind the times as much as possible, do not let the family and children occupy all their energy, no matter how difficult, but also to set aside time to improve themselves, otherwise when he abandons you, he will not even say hello, you cry nowhere.

02. Double standard

A man betrayed his wife, according to common sense, is not at least after being discovered, will cry bitterly and admit his mistakes, will reflect on repentance, but Lu Weibin no, after the fact of his betrayal was discovered by Jiang Jing, he was directly annoyed and angry, and said to his wife, only he can do this, and his wife does not think about it. Double standard to outrageous.

And he also made a bureau, installed surveillance in the home, began to monitor his wife's every move, and successfully captured the information he wanted, and then framed his wife for betraying him, hehe, this kind of city government, is not the average man can think of.

Addiction to their own GUI, the wife only talks to others a few words is adulterous, which is typical of only allowing the state official to set the fire, not allowing the people to light the lamp. But is he a state official? He wasn't, but he thought he was.

In the end, he saw that Jiang Jing was not compromising, and when the two sides were about to embark on the road to divorce, he calculated that she would be out of the house, and even the children could not be wanted, in order to keep his property.

His selfishness is also outrageous, he has not even considered, give the child to Jiang Jing, whether she has the ability to raise, where will the son live in the future? None of this seemed to him, and he was always thinking only of himself.

As the old saying goes, tiger poison does not eat children. However, Lu Weibin's poison was inferior to that of animals. In this so-called elite man at the top, we don't see the moral match that should be there, we see only the most despicable side of human nature, double standard, selfishness, and even viciousness.

There are a lot of women who have asked me backstage why some men are more righteous than themselves after betrayal? I said, that's because these people, they are a group of double-standard people, their concept of right and wrong is one set for themselves, another set for others, they are always infinitely tolerant of themselves, infinitely demanding of you, you don't expect them to have any reflective spirit, because their values in their bones are crooked, and how can you correct this? It is difficult, unless you are stronger than them, you can only accept their rule, and they are also very snobbish, when you are weak, they bully you without discussion, when you are strong, they naturally dare not underestimate.

A man finally becomes vicious to the extreme, the double standard is the initial root, the double standard in marriage is the most sinister intention of men, for a kind woman, the husband betrays you, you are most likely to reflect on your own problems, but forget that the most responsible is actually him, a man for a long time to your double standard will let you gradually identify with his judgment system, and you are willingly in a dwarfed, inferior situation without knowing it.

03. Shake the pot

Just now I talked about Jiang Jing's encounter, it was indeed tragic, it seemed that Shen Yanxing's situation was better than hers, at least she could make Sheng Jiang chuan go to her daughter's school sports meeting. But in many ways, Sheng Jiangchuan also fled, from the birth of his daughter, he thought about planning, planning, investment.

The child cried that he had no way, the home was out of power, and Shen Yanxing, who was holding his daughter, asked him for help with a panicked face, but he picked up the computer on the pretext of work and ran out of the door, completely disregarding the fears and fears that his wife and daughter had to endure in the dark.

Six years of sugar, in fact, he is also absent, like a cold-eyed bystander, and he is more than Lu Weibin is his ability to throw the pot.

The flashpoint of the contradiction between Shen Yanxing and Sheng Jiangchuan seems to be because Sheng Sugar was kidnapped, but in fact, if you think about it, it is not entirely, the Sheng Sugar incident is just a fuse, a straw that crushes the camel of their marriage.

Sheng Jiangchuan thought about calming things down, and when he went home, he did not take the initiative to talk about this matter with Shen Yanxing. All he thought was about things disappearing and pretending it hadn't happened.

But in Shen's view, this is a big thing. Daughter kidnapped? Why is this happening, and what is the cause! The two fought over this matter and escalated to the end.

Shen Yanxing is obviously still trapped in the incident itself, and she asks Sheng Jiangchuan, as the father of the child, why did he fake his hands and let outsiders pick up the child, resulting in such a big event as the kidnapping of the child?

Her attitude is to think about solving this matter, quarrel is not the purpose, in order to be able to sort this matter out clearly, to avoid re-offending in the future.

And Sheng Jiangchuan's "chess is high", more is to dig at the root, he believes that if it were not for Shen Yanxing's work, he would still keep to himself as in the previous six years, cooking and bringing a baby, this kind of thing would not have happened at all.

Once again, their values collided, and they did not compromise with each other. Sheng Jiangchuan rose from dissatisfaction with the nanny to judgment that his wife was not doing enough.

His accusations have a serious throwing pot component: everything is blamed on you, if it were not for your clamor to come out to work, I would not be so annoyed, the work would not be so unsmooth, and the children would not be left unattended.

In a word: it's all because of you.

He did not realize what his responsibilities were as the father of the child, and he always thought of handing over all the problems to his wife to solve, and never thought about what his sense of responsibility was in this family relationship, the man was not only responsible for making money to support the family, protecting his wife and daughter from external harm, but also taking on a home, making it a stable and lasting responsibility!

The occurrence of a thing is certainly not the cause of a person, but if a man, obviously he should bear the main responsibility, but he always kicks a ball to you, then does he love you? He only loves himself, and in order not to let himself fall into the position of being accused, he will preemptively push you to hell first. This kind of man is most likely to cultivate a wife with a flattering personality, because the wife has been thrown into the pot for a long time, and will invisibly assume the responsibility that should not be borne.

04. Mei Niang said

It is actually not a bad thing for a man to be deep in the city, but if there is no good foundation and responsibility escort, it is a very terrible thing, because his city government is for his own career pursuit, in order to calculate you, so instead of looking for a man like this, it is better to choose a man who may not be outstanding in ability, but has a kind heart and has you in his heart.

He may not be strong, but his body is enough to withstand the wind and rain for you, he may not be smart, but his wisdom is enough to feed your whole family, he may not have fun, but as long as the family is together, it can be happy, that is the most lasting happiness.

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