What does life like for a stay-at-home mom in reality?
Like Shen Comet played by Bai Baihe in "Our Marriage"?
No, no, no!
If it's like that, don't be too comfortable!
For people who have not experienced marriage, after watching this drama, who will still feel sorry for Bao Ma...!
How cool is Shen Comet in the play:
First, she has a husband who can make money, and the money earned by her husband is still handed over to her for safekeeping, she does not have to worry about eating, she does not have to worry about wearing, she does not have to worry about her children having no money to eat milk powder, she does not have to worry about her children having no money to see a doctor, in short, there is no financial trouble and pressure.
Second, she and Sheng Jiangchuan live alone, there is no trouble with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, sugar sugar has always been very obedient in the early stages, and she can also take time to participate in music performances when she takes her children.
Third, her husband Sheng Jiang Chuan has a very good temper, in the play basically did not see her husband angry, no matter when quarrels or conflicts, in the end it is her husband who admits it, and finally everything comes according to her ideas.
Fourth, she has a good working environment, in front of the boss to please and praise the boss customers, secretly go to pick up the child when she goes to work, repeatedly bump into the boss, have not been fired from the company, we can not have such treatment!
Of course, when she and Sheng Jiangchuan quarreled, she also said that she was very hard, for example, family affairs, moving things, children eating, dressing, seeing doctors and going to school, all these years she was doing it alone, but she said that these TV series were not released Ah, how do you call people who have not experienced it to feel empathy?
In the play, the audience saw that she did not worry about eating and wearing, did not worry about money and flowers, the children were obedient, the husband was still good-tempered, the work was open and hung and the plot, and did not see a real shot about her doing housework, taking children, and doing work that people could not stand.
Her married life in the play is obviously better than more than 80% of the mothers in reality, which makes people feel empathy, can they feel it, they can feel it, they can hurt her, it is better to feel that life is not as good as herself!
Let's take a look at Kang Yayou, played by Cen Lixiang in "Baby Is Bigger Than the Sky", what has this mother experienced in the play?
How bitter Kang Yayou is in the play:
First, in the play, after having a baby, Kang Yayou transformed from a "little girl" with ten fingers that did not touch the spring water of the yang to a "superwoman" who mastered a large number of life skills and took care of children's skills.
Her husband never helps with the children and housework in the mountains, Kang Yayou has to cook breakfast together in the morning, she has to hurry to wash clothes when her daughter eats, and when she is busy, she has to change clothes immediately, take the children to various interest classes, take advantage of the baby's class to buy things, and after buying, she has to go home to dry clothes, wash the toilet, clean up, pick up the children, make dinner, take a bath, tell stories...!
This is still the case of children's obedience, if the child is still rebellious and naughty, eating is not good, love to run around and crawl over things, sticky when you do things, etc., but because the child is small, you can't take him, more tired and more annoying can only continue.
When the child was sick, Kang Yayou was worried on the one hand, and on the other hand, she blamed herself, she hoped that the child would be well soon, but in her heart she blamed herself very much, why she did not even take care of the child.
Even so, and because her efforts have not brought practical economic benefits to the family, she still has no voice and status at home.
In the play, she said these words: "Giving me 48 hours is not enough", "Full-time mothers are actually credited with no salary", which is very touching.
Second, the relationship in Kang Yayou's family is still very complicated, and she also has to face various problems and contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and son-in-law, husband and brother, and relatives, and these things are often not easy to deal with.
Third, later, because her husband's younger brother who was swimming in the mountains was in debt, there was another uncle, and the shop was burned after a series of things, and the family economic crisis was engaged. At this time, Kang Yayou, because of taking children every day, has already lost his self and ability to work, and he is very unconfident. She had been encouraging Kang Yayou by her mother, so that she finally plucked up the courage to decide to go out to work.
The above three points, so that Kang Yayou and her husband in life, there is no less quarrel, after experiencing this quarrel and blame, Kang Yayou's husband yu in the mountains to realize their mistakes, and gradually began to make changes.
Fourth, Kang Yayou is a master's degree, but in the matter of work, she encountered various oolong things, looking for a job was questioned in various ways, and after work, she was sneered at by her boss and discriminated against by unmarried colleagues, which made her often feel powerless for work.
Fifth, before deciding to go to work, Kang Yayou arranged the child's affairs properly, and even marked each of the baby's clothes, but even so, she still had separation anxiety after work.
When she first started working, she was very unaccustomed, and from time to time she thought of her children and worried about whether the children were having a good time; after a long time, she spent less time with her children, and she would worry about whether her children would kiss her in the future, in short, her heart was entangled and helpless!
From the above, it can be seen that Kang Yayou is busy every day when she takes the baby, but her efforts have not been understood and recognized by her family; in addition to dealing with these chores every day, she also has to deal with the relationship with her mother-in-law, husband and brother, etc. When the family has an economic crisis, she has to re-encourage her to work, and when she works, she has to worry about her children from time to time, which is really bitter and bitter, and life is full of taste!
The same is the married life, the same is the mother, these experiences in the Kang Yayou drama, we are more or less around there are people who are experiencing, many plots are simply real to the pores. And Shen Yanxing, played by Bai Baihe, this role is not reliable at all, most of her experiences are too far from the real married life, and the plot is simply suspended in the air.
Want the society to pay more attention to full-time mothers, understand the hardships and bitterness of full-time mothers, and recognize the sweat and dedication of full-time mothers, such a suspended role as Shen Comet is not OK, and a character like Kang Yayou can only land.
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