Text/Themi Mama (original article, welcome to share and forward personally)
I would like to ask you first: If "stay-at-home mom" is a job, how much are you going to pay for this position?
Perhaps for many male friends, the "work" of full-time mothers does not have much gold content, neither have to punch in every day to work, tired and tired "moving bricks", nor do they have to suffer from wind and sun, running east and west to make money.
So stay-at-home moms have always been a controversial group.
For stay-at-home mothers, in the process of taking care of their children and families, they will also suffer various blows.
For example, the effort is not recognized.
Many full-time mothers may be tired and tired every day for the family, serving the family's food, drink, housing and travel, but in the end, their husbands have never recognized themselves, so this situation will also be very bad for the self-esteem of full-time mothers.
For example, I am not confident enough.
Before I went to kindergarten in The Second Treasure, I was also a full-time mother in the family, I remember the first year, the whole person was very anxious, on the one hand, there was no financial resources, I was independent and accustomed, and I began to "reach out" for money, which was really awkward and not confident enough.
On the other hand, because I walk around the children and the stove every day, I am particularly afraid of being out of touch with society.
Therefore, I originally did a lot of things every day, but in the end I was still worried that I was not doing well enough, to put it bluntly, I was not confident.
My girlfriend Xiaoyu has encountered the same problems as before, since becoming a stay-at-home mom, the whole person is very anxious and not confident enough.
But fortunately, Xiao Yu's husband's "divine operation" not only gave Xiao Yu enough face, but also fully affirmed his wife's efforts, which made people extremely envious.
And Xiaoyu is also under the "divine operation" of her husband, and her own state has returned to its original state, making friends around her sigh that she is really married to the right person.
01. "Full-time mothers are high-income people", Bao Dad spoke out for his full-time wife and was praised for marrying right
After Xiaoyu gave birth to the second treasure, because the elderly on both sides were older and in poor health, they had no choice but to give up their jobs and become full-time mothers.
Since I circled my children 24 hours a day, I knew how hard this "job" was.
Especially for women in the workplace like Xiaoyu, there is no financial resource, which is a great blow, so at the beginning, Xiaoyu looks very depressed, and there are more and more conflicts with her husband.
There has even been a situation of losing 20 pounds in 2 months, which is very painful.
At that time, my friends around me were very worried about the light rain, and I often used my own example to reassure her, but the effect was not great.
Later, once, Xiaoyu took the initiative to ask all of us to come out to play, and we suddenly found that Xiaoyu's spirit was much better, and she had not put on makeup for a long time, and this time she was more exquisite than ever.
After inquiry, I learned that in order to take care of her emotions, Xiaoyu's husband not only took the initiative to share housework after work, helped with the child, but also communicated with Xiaoyu every night after the child fell asleep.
More critically, Xiaoyu's husband quantified the value of his wife's work through money, and finally concluded that no one can afford to raise a full-time mother, and full-time mothers are the high-income group, and the value in this family is higher than anyone.
It is precisely because of Bao Dad's recognition of Xiaoyu that Xiaoyu regained his confidence, realized his own value, and the whole person began to be confident and optimistic.
02. So the question is, why are stay-at-home moms the high-income group?
In the eyes of some male friends, full-time mothers are at home, that is, to take care of children, the rest of the time, not brush mobile phones, or eat and sleep, sleep and eat.
In fact, if you think so, you would be very wrong.
The workload of full-time mothers is not less than that of office workers, and even about three to five times that of office workers, there are no holidays, and they also need to be on call 24 hours a day, and there is no salary.
More critically, the job content of a stay-at-home mother covers many occupations in the market, and the salaries of these occupations are far higher than we think.
And Xiaoyu husband, is to use the occupation in the market, to match the wife's work content, thus coming to the conclusion that full-time mothers are high-income groups, and then let's understand where the high income of full-time mothers comes from.
Nursery 14,400 yuan in January
Pregnant in October, once in delivery, we waited until the baby was born that we found that it was harder than pregnancy to take care of the child.
Feeding children, changing diapers, etc., makes stay-at-home moms sacrifice their sleep and health.
Therefore, from the perspective of child care, this is a job of a nursery teacher, not to mention the first and second-tier cities, according to the consumption of third- and fourth-tier cities, the hourly wage of the nursery is 30 yuan, if it is 8 hours of work a day, it is 240 yuan, and a month is 7200 yuan.
However, full-time mothers are 24-hour continuous rotation, so the salary should be at least doubled, so it is 14400 yuan.
Early teachers 6,000 yuan a month
Raising children is not only to wear warm and eat enough, but also to guide children, educate children, and move towards the right path of life.
In this process, full-time mothers become various professional bosses, not only to teach their children to talk, draw, walk, and sing, but also to help with homework and pick up and drop off school.
I have to say that this is completely a qualified early teacher, according to the current market situation, an early teacher at the cheapest to get 6,000 yuan a month.
Live-in nannies 3000 a month
In addition to taking care of children and educating children, full-time mothers also need to take care of the family's eating and drinking, cleaning housework, laundry and cooking, and the stove is about to become the "exclusive territory" of full-time mothers.
It can be said that this is basically a dual identity of a dietitian and a live-in nanny.
Especially now, many stay-at-home mothers, in order to make their families eat more nutritious and healthy, all kinds of research recipes and food making, really in the care of the family, very dedicated.
Then according to the current salary of the live-in nanny, if it is 100 yuan per day, then it is 3,000 yuan a month. Not to mention where is the nanny for 3,000 yuan a month now?
Therefore, the fact that Xiaoyu's husband uses money/position to measure the value of Xiaoyu is very objective and true.
After watching it, people have to praise that Xiaoyu is really married to the right person.
03. Mother Themi's message:
In fact, all along, people may have all kinds of misunderstandings about stay-at-home mothers.
Even in this misunderstanding, Bao Mom began to doubt herself, but in fact, no matter what we were doing, as long as we paid, it must be valuable.
Here, I also hope that male friends can see the hardships and hardships of full-time mothers, like Xiaoyu's husband, more understanding and recognition, and more exchanges and communication.
Only in this way, the efforts of full-time mothers will not be in vain, and only in this way, a home, can it operate better.
Finally, I would like to ask you, how much do you think it is more appropriate to pay a full-time mother a month?