Self-sacrifice is actually "self-inflicted", who makes us can't put it down!!
Whenever I'm tired, I feel like I'm here: I deserve it! When I was pregnant, I thought that I would not bring it after giving birth, and as a result, I regretted it after giving birth, and I took it to the age of 4 by myself...
And one person overcomes all kinds of difficulties.
The one who speaks the harshest words does the most gentle thing,
I am most grateful to myself in the past few years, but fortunately I have stepped out of this path of sacrifice. Found myself,
It's really tearful.
Breathless days only when the mother herself knows, the way back is clearer than anyone, a thousand words can not exhaust the mother's heartache and helplessness, let yourself slowly self-healing, do not need anyone's understanding and compassion, because no one in this world can understand you.
The above two paragraphs are the feelings of two mothers from the circle of friends on the road with a baby. People who have not been a mother may think that this is some disease-free moaning words, why do they love to complain so much, is not it to bring a baby? Only a mother understands the heartache. Those years that a person has walked through, the anxiety and worry along the way, the self-healing of a person.
The efforts of full-time mothers are never seen, and the mother seems to take the responsibility for granted. It is the mother who carries the baby full-time in life, and it is the mother who revolves around the child. It is a matter of course that a mother resigns to take care of her child. It is rarely said that dads quit their jobs to take care of their children.
Even if the mother gives all her time and all her energy to take care of the child, her personal value has never been affirmed. No one will say: You have worked hard every day and night to take care of your children. No one will treat the child the standards the mother wants.
From pregnancy to childbirth to with a baby no woman is easy. Early pregnancy reactions, the third trimester action is bulky. In the first trimester, you can't eat anything, people think you're arrogant, let you have to hold back for the sake of your children, and vomiting is the norm for some pregnant women.
In the third trimester, it is inconvenient to move, and it walks hulking, like a duck. Walk with your feet apart. Others will only think that you walk funny and imitate you on the side. Even if they know that their feet will be swollen in the third trimester, their stomachs will be large and falling, and it will be inconvenient and bulky to walk. But there is still no way to stop the bad taste they want to imitate. This is the biggest harm from the same sex to women. They wantonly laugh at pregnant women.
Men can not understand the hardships of inconsiderate women. But as a same sex to be ridiculed, that is really a woman's sadness.
Naïve women thought they would be liberated when they were finished. But production is what it is. It was the woman who struggled alone in the delivery bed. No one cares if you are in pain or not when you get out of the delivery bed, and everyone is busy taking care of the newborn little life.
Men do not understand women's pain, and women ignore women's pain. After all, which woman doesn't hurt to have a baby. Because it hurts, they automatically ignore the woman's pain. The in-laws care about the newborn child, and it is their mother and sisters who shed tears for the woman.
Everyone says that feelings come out, but who really cares about your feelings. No one is going to ask if it hurts or not. What they care about is whether the child has milk to eat, whether there is jaundice...
As for women, it doesn't matter if you tear or cut sideways, whether you have swollen milk or blocked milk... Your pain, they don't care. But you have to sit up and hold the nursing, lying down is not good for the child.
What if people's feelings are really out of place? Why is the pain of a woman who has lived together for so long less important than whether the newborn has milk or not? Why is everyone's eyes on the newborn and no one's eyes on the mother.
Just because the maternity is an adult? Because giving birth to a child will hurt, so the pain of the mother is consciously ignored by everyone?
Mothers should learn to take care of their children well during confinement. Crying, depression, anxiety... All negative emotions are your fault, you are not strong enough to understand self-regulation.
Staying up late with a child is normal, feeding is painful, very normal. Who made you a mom, you should put up with that.
Since a woman was crowned with the title of mother, the personal attributes belonging to women have disappeared. The people around her care about her children. What a woman cares about is also her children.
In order to take care of the children, she had to force herself to become strong. How many women have collapsed in tears one second ago, and after the child cries, she has to immediately dry her tears, hold the child, coax the child, and feed the child.
People define tears as fragile people. The reason why everyone advises women not to cry is that if the mood swings are large, they will block the milk, and the child will have no milk to eat. No one cared why she collapsed.
So how exactly should women vent their negative emotions. A pillow wet with tears, how much does the lover understand? How many of those tears that were forcibly swallowed were helpless.
The people around you, the requirements for women are not just that you have to bring good children. I also hope that you manage your body, how to gain so much weight, to lose weight.
Okay, almost, you should go out and work...
There are some words that women from pregnancy all the time they start hearing births and hearing about children. There are all kinds of sounds around you. But how much is really concerned about it? There are many people who make children laugh, children cry, do not sleep at night, and the only person who accompanies them is their mother.
It is a woman who says that when the mother is like this, it is good to survive. The kind care that mom wanted was never received.
They are worried about the growth of their children and are full of anxiety about their appearance. Don't they know they're fat? But they had to eat. After each feeding, their stomachs grumble with hunger. They had to eat.
Weight loss is far less relaxed than once thought, and the endless staying up late has exhausted their energy.
When the mother's heartache, only the woman who is taking the baby at the moment can understand. Women whose children have grown up, they will only say cool things on the side.
There is no empathy in this world, and when you are in pain, you know that it really hurts, and the pain of others is a pretense.
Every mother, in countless times of despair, cheers herself up again and again, because the child needs her.
Those cool words, those fake relationships, women don't know how many times they have listened to them and watched them.
The kids are cute and everyone is willing to tease and play. Women's bitterness and tiredness, they are too lazy to take care of it, because it is not cute at all, not fun.
Instead of expecting care from those around them, women should tell themselves that it is normal for them not to care about you. Close your mouth where you want to complain and take a good rest, I know you're tired. Heartache is taking the baby you at the moment, may you learn to heal yourself, may the innocence of the child can heal all your pain.
I know you're not easy. Don't be anxious, don't ask yourself to be the perfect mom, just be a 60-point mom, and love yourself with the remaining 40 points.