Wen 丨 Forest Mommy
The second Sunday in May, Mother's Day, is a reason to express love to the usually reserved.
Every year on this day, we can see a lot of articles praising mothers, which are very touching, and as a "Mesozoic" person who has both "children" and mothers, I think I understand the meaning of the word mother more and more.
There are always people who say that only when you become a mother can you understand the greatness of your mother. Yes, only by going through the process of "becoming a mother" can you better understand the mother's feelings for her children.
The other day I was involved in a Mother's Day event and took a video titled "What is it Like to Be a Mom for the First Time?"
When I got this topic, I was thinking, the first time I was a mother, I had too many experiences that I had never had before, too many impressive things, which point should I pick?
Finally, what came out of the video was when I was pregnant and had a baby.
Because it is not easy to become a mother, pregnancy and childbirth are the first two sad hurdles.
Some time ago I saw a video of a pregnant mother recording her own birth process on the Internet, with more than two million likes, and the whole video was seven or eight minutes long, and I watched it little by little.
Many people have not experienced childbirth, and they cannot have a complete concept of having a child, and this video is a very good "educational film" that deserves to be seen by more people.
Only when more people understand how hard it is for women to conceive and have children will more people face up to the value of women's childbearing, respect and understand them.
The video starts with signs of an upcoming childbirth.
The mother felt a stomachache, the amniotic fluid may be broken, realized that she was about to give birth, decisively went to wash her hair, and then lay down, instructed her husband to help get a pillow to raise her ass, so as not to let the amniotic fluid flow more. The husband is even more flustered than the wife, and will only urge the wife to go to the hospital quickly.
The woman then instructed her husband to pack up the maternity bag according to the list in her book, get on the bus to the hospital, and the preparations were on the right track. During the whole process, the husband was confused, but the person who gave birth to the child was orderly, answering the question that the husband did not understand anything when he heard it.
Arrived at the hospital, the mother-in-law took care of it on the side, the terrible contractions came, the mother recorded the contractions while in pain, the back was more and more painful, the frequency was getting faster and faster, and the mother was in pain so much that she did not want to speak.
Entering the delivery room, the husband ran to go through various procedures, the mother experienced a difficult process, the baby was finally born, after birth was taken out for observation for half an hour, the mother also had to observe in the delivery room for 2 hours...
After giving birth to the baby, the mother basically did not want to talk, seeing her husband, she did not cry when giving birth to severe pain, and could not help but cry...
This is the whole process from delivery to delivery, as a family member who accompanies the whole process, you must be able to feel the difficulty of the mother, so as to follow the panic, nervousness, anxiety, but there is no way to share it for her.
The production process in the delivery room is even more difficult to experience.
So, what kind of pain does the mother experience in the delivery room?
In general, childbirth goes through a total of 4 labour stages.
The first stage of labor is the process of waiting for the uterine opening to be fully opened, you may see it when the first few fingers are opened, but when the pain rises in the back, the mother basically enters the delivery room from the delivery room.
This stage of labor is the process of the fetal head gradually entering the pelvis, accompanied by the role of contractions, the fetus is squeezed down little by little, the cervical opening gradually becomes soft and dilated, from one finger to ten fingers, more and more painful, the pain site changes from abdominal pain to waist and abdomen, pain, and then to the root bone of the thigh, mixed pain, the time may last for more than ten hours.
In fact, from daily experience, when the uterine opening is about three fingers, the pain is already very unbearable, almost the pain that has never been encountered in ordinary life...
The second stage of labor is the process of baby delivery, and the pregnant woman should cooperate with the force to give birth to the baby.
A body the size of a fetus is still a difficult thing to come out of the cervical opening, although it has been vigorously expanded.
With contractions, along with force, all the pain comes together and you may become incontinent. When the baby comes out of the cervical opening, all the pain is concentrated in the perineum, and the pain changes from mixed pain to severe pain in the perineum, which is the peak of the pain of giving birth.
The third stage of labour is the delivery of the placenta. Many people think that after the baby is born, the delivery process is over, but it is not.
After the fetus comes out, the placenta and so on need to be delivered out, because the last laborer has been painful and numb, the moment the baby is born, the mother feels a huge ease, and even the side cut of the mother suture wound does not need to be anesthetic, but has not felt the pain...
However, if the placenta is not automatically stripped and delivered, the mother will experience the legendary "hand stripping placenta", the doctor reaches in, and the placenta is stripped down and taken out, that feeling, it is simply painful to doubt life...
The last stage of labor, that is, the fourth stage of labor, is the postpartum 2-hour observation stage, and the mother needs to observe in the operating room for two hours to see if there is a major bleeding situation, and after everything is no problem, it will be pushed out of the delivery room to go back to rest.
How, isn't the process very hard?
Mothers who are willing to go through these babies are great.
Only by experiencing it in person can we know how difficult it is for our mothers to give birth to themselves, so often women will become more filial to their mothers after giving birth...
Of course, we can understand our parents more, not only because we have experienced the hardships and pains of childbirth, but also because after seeing our baby, we have experienced the feeling of being a mother, and how strong and selfless the mother's love for her children is.
So, Mother's Day, say hard to yourself, and say I love you to my mother