Grandma with baby has become a popular trend, the benefits needless to say, one is that the child is well brought, the two generations communicate smoothly, the mother says how to bring, the old man how to implement, and the second is to reduce the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The mother and daughter have a good deal and will not be unhappy because of cognitive errors and living habits, but with the passage of time, grandma and baby have also had many problems.
Grandma Zhang has been taking her daughter with a child for two years, every time she takes the child out, she doesn't know that she still thinks it's Grandma, and when she hears that it's Grandma, she can't help but envy Grandma, there is such a family, she is less tired.
However, Grandma Zhang was bitter and couldn't say it, not that her body was tired, mainly her heart, so why did she say so?
This has to be said a while ago, Zhang Grandma took her grandson to give up a lot of old age, the daughter looked in the eyes of pain in the heart, seeing that the child was also good to bring, she proposed to let the mother go out to relax, took the initiative to report the tour group, let the father and mother go to Guilin to have fun.
Grandma can't bring the baby, you can only let grandma come over, originally the daughter-in-law did not want to say that grandma went to travel, but who knows that the son-in-law said that he missed his mouth, and the grandmother was not happy, and he came together to suffer, but the mother spent her son's money to enjoy?
Seven days of tourism back, the child or let the grandmother take, this time out is also a long insight, Zhang Grandma met a few friends, added friends only to find that people that is called the old age life, so they also fell in love with going out to play, every few months to propose to go out with their wives to take a walk, of course, except for the first time, the future travel is out of their own pocket.
But this son can poke the honeycomb, grandma is out, grandma is going to come over to replace the baby, one or two, grandma has opinions, Shun with Bao Dad also has opinions, once he complained to his wife, your mother always travels, but also let my mother take the child for your mother!
This is being heard by Grandma Zhang, she feels very cold, when she brought a child to her daughter, it became a responsibility, and it became a sin to even go out to play?
Grandma with baby, only daughter is really happy
Grandma Zhang only saw clearly that for her daughter to bring a child, only the daughter was happy, and everyone else was not happy, first of all, the grandmother was not happy, because people felt that the grandmother took the grandson for granted, and the grandmother deprived her of her rights, resulting in the grandson not kissing her.
In addition, the son-in-law is not happy, he wants to let the mother-in-law take the child, but forced by the wife's will, this agreed to the mother-in-law to come, he is not comfortable every time he goes home, in front of the mother-in-law can not be lazy, always have to be polite, where is the mother-in-law casual?
In addition, the wife is not happy, the reason is also very simple, she eats and lives in the daughter's house, the wife will not cook, he can only deal with a bite casually, the time is long, people have lost more than ten pounds, although the mouth does not say anything, but still long for the old two to accompany the day and night, finally, Zhang Grandma is not happy, laborious and unflattering, and finally chilled, which door is this to help?
Therefore, the grandmother takes the baby, only the daughter is happy, and the old mother's efforts are only to reduce the burden for the daughter, but is this idea right?
It has aggravated the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Grandma is estimated to be the first choice for each mother with a baby in her heart, many mothers do not like the mother-in-law, but also afraid to get along with the mother-in-law, as long as the mother agrees to take the baby, it is like eating a reassuring pill, the good life is in front of you, and the mother who knows her daughter best is most like this.
But there are advantages and disadvantages to everything, and is it really good for her to take her daughter away from the center of contradiction? People need to get along with each other, especially mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and if they don't get along, they will always feel strange.
Mother-in-law is a daughter-in-law who wants to escape can not escape a person, with children is the best period to enhance feelings, once missed, bao mom feels that the mother-in-law did not pay, the mother-in-law feels that the daughter-in-law hates her, which also lays a bad foreshadowing for future getting along, maybe the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more serious, at that time, can grandma still be a shield?
Grandma with the baby, tired and tired
A grandmother complained to her peers that she had brought a day's child, and she thought that the little two were off work, and she could also take a break, but she did not expect that her daughter and son-in-law were holding a mobile phone and playing happily.
She remembered that when she first took the baby, they also knew to go home early, and from time to time they said that their mother was hard.
But now, the daughter is lazy, can not move to push the child to her, the two people also plan to travel on the weekend, she feels that if you change to the grandmother with the baby, the mother must be easier than her, people are 8 hours, she is 24 hours, can it be the same?
Whoever brings the child is not as good as the parents
Professor Li Meijin once advocated that parents should personally take the baby, especially before the baby is two years old, to form a close attachment relationship, so that when he grows up, his parents have psychological initiative for him, the child makes a mistake, will listen to the parents, otherwise, in adolescence, he will work with his parents, with his grandmother or grandmother, it is difficult to discipline if he makes a mistake.
It is true that parents are under pressure at work today and have no time to take children, but the elderly with babies are not harmless, and parents should try to take time to bring their own babies.
And, no matter which side of the parents, with the child is pure help, can not be seen as a matter of course, grandma tired, replaced by grandma with a belt, to the parents to pay to be grateful, so as to set a good example for the child, excellent family traditions, in order to pass on from generation to generation.