The child ate the classmate's birthday cake, and the mother vomited: her actions exposed the most embarrassing truth of education

Text | Rice grain mother

The chat records of the parent group on the hot search can see the mixed tastes of the rice grain mother.

A few days ago, the first grade children celebrated Children's Day at school, and a parent bought a birthday cake for the children to share with the children to celebrate.

But unexpectedly, a piece of vegetable cream cake actually touched a mother's "anti-scale", and she made a mess in the parent group that night.

In the chat record, she has been frantically exporting her emotions -

"Irritable in the heart", "so angry that my hands trembled", "I can do it when I am a madman", "10,000 times more on fire" ...

From these words, it is not difficult to see how "collapsed" this mother is because of this cake.

But I'm sorry, compared to the empathetic and anxious mother, the rice grain mother feels more sorry for the child who cried out "never dare again".

Is it cake that is poisonous, or "motherly love"?

The old rule, the rice mother will give everyone a brush on this matter first.

After Children's Day, the homeroom teacher shared photos of the children celebrating the festival to the parent group, and the parents expressed their gratitude and encouragement.

But after a mother saw the photo of her child eating cake, she was instantly not calm, and directly threw a picture into the group:

"I didn't know until now that cream cake affects children so much"

Then began the tirade.

First reject the kindness of others for the child, and at the same time express your dissatisfaction:

"Others thank you, thank you, I criticized the child today"

"I hope my child doesn't eat anything from kids at school"

And then massive strafing -

Complaints about inadequate school supervision:

"Snacks are not allowed in school, but parents are allowed to bring them to the class? This was wrong from the start! ”

Yin and Yang Weird insults the parents who send cakes:

"Other people's small favors are poisoned in my eyes and change reputations."

"I know you are well-intentioned, and the teacher likes you like this, in order to make the child eat well in class."

Others were kind enough to share the cake, and in her eyes, they became sinners who poisoned her son, and they wanted to be speculated and humiliated in this way.

A little substitution, the rice mother is annoyed for the other parent.

But more extreme behavior is yet to come.

Compared with verbal attacks on others, she is really "cruel" to her own children.

After criticizing others, Baoma began to explain her parenting experience "with pictures and texts".

She said she was strict with her son's diet.

How strict is it?

"I can't even host it, because the oil in it is not clean, and I would rather deliver food when it is far away"

"If you don't have money to buy it, you will grow it yourself, and you would rather starve to death than eat junk food"

Even the six walnuts given by colleagues did not dare to drink, let alone KFC spicy hot, directly taboo.

This kind of controlling mother's love, Mi Li's mother felt suffocated across the screen.

As if to prove that her strictness is not lip service, Bao's mother wants to induce vomiting remedy for her child after Baidu has a metabolic time of 50 days.

She also showed off the "antidote recipe" stored in her refrigerator.

She forced her child to drink 30 ml of olive oil, 10 ml of coconut oil, and 10 ml of flaxseed oil to force the "poisonous cake" out of her body.

But if she knows a little more about health, she should know that the harm of this 50 ml of oil is no less than that cake.

Coconut oil contains a lot of saturated fat, which plays a role in increasing the risk of cardiovascular disease, comparable to the trans fatty acids contained in "vegetable cream".

What's more frightening is that Bao's mother said "you can't die after eating once", while insisting on picking her throat and eyes to induce vomiting for the baby.

Finally, as she wished, the baby grew her memory and cried: "I don't dare anymore, no one will eat for me." ”

Seeing this, Mother Mi really felt sorry for this child.

The shadow left by this time may affect my life.

Nanny education

Helplessly, the "birthday cake" incident is not an isolated case.

Now many parents who overprotect their children, take care of food, clothing, housing and transportation, and take care of life and learning, which is more thoughtful than a 24-hour nanny.

The diet is the hardest hit area of control.

Seen such news before.

After nine o'clock in the evening, the teacher received questions from the parents of the students.

The parents claimed that after eating the Oreo biscuits given by the teacher, the child went home crying thirsty and drinking a hot water bottle.

The teacher patiently explained that this is a little sweet, because I am pregnant and easy to get hungry, so I prepared it.

And did not take the initiative to give it to the child, it was the child himself who asked for it, and the teacher gave it.

Unexpectedly, after listening to the explanation, the parents became more and more unforgiving.

Aggressive: "I never give him snacks and these junk foods"

He also "persuaded the teacher" with good words: "Since you are pregnant, don't eat these unhealthy things." ”

Finally, he threatened to take the child to the hospital to take him to the hospital to measure his blood sugar tomorrow morning, and asked the teacher to "be mentally prepared."

Despite the unfriendly attitude of the parents, the teacher did not show impatience, and finally said helplessly:

"Next time the child wants to eat, I won't give it."

But parents are still getting the trick and teaching the teacher:

"I hope that I don't have too much contact with children other than studying."

"Lead by example and don't bring food to school."

With these parents here, the teachers have already "talked about the color change", for fear that they will not be able to explain clearly.

Previously, a teacher shared his experience of being attacked by students' parents on social platforms.

The teacher bought a hot milk treasure and ate it in the office, and the student came in and saw it, staring at it and refusing to leave.

The teacher had no choice but to give him his hot milk baby.

As a result, in the evening, the parents sent a message that the child had diarrhea because of eating hot milk.

Fortunately, the teacher carefully asked the students at the same table to learn the truth.

The child was gluttonous, and when he was out of school, he borrowed three yuan from the same table, bought two popsicles and a popsicle, and ate them all in one go.

After the explanation, the parents were unreasonable and unforgiving, and they were blaming the teacher in and out of their words:

"I ate a sweet thing at school, and I ate cold again, and I was tired."

Even threw the pot and said:

"I hope that teachers will educate more, and there will be no money exchanges between classmates."

"I also hope that the teacher will do what he needs to do and stop eating in front of the child."

This kind of double-standard attitude of hoping that others are responsible, but not paying more attention to themselves, the rice grain mother is going to laugh.

If you think about it, the act of reaching out for something delicious and borrowing money from the same table to satisfy your appetite is all a manifestation of "self-centeredness".

Allowing this behavior to develop, it is not surprising that the child will become a "giant baby" in the future.

In educational psychology, giant babies have a scientific name called "infantile personality".

Such a child, the body has grown tall and strong, but the psychology is stuck in the infant stage, and it is impossible to wean for a lifetime.

This is the evil result of parents doing everything and carrying out "nanny-style education" for their children.

Be real, not vacuum

Back to the original topic.

To be honest, Mi Li's mother read the chat record three times, and she never felt a little of Bao's mother's true love for her son.

She has been expressing her dissatisfaction without thinking about it for a second from the child's point of view.

So even if she seems distressed and says "her son is crying", Mi Li's mother can only see her "satisfaction" after "taming" her son again.

Does she not know what impact she will have on her child's future learning life if she makes such a big fuss?

No, she knows very well.

That's why I said this contradictory and twisted sentence:

"I'm not wrong, but I hope you don't teach your children to target my son.

After saying that, I didn't regret it, I was afraid!

In the future, I will stop talking, and I will learn to control myself. ”

While emphasizing that you are not wrong and have no regrets, you hope that others will treat this incident as if it did not happen;

said that he wanted to "control himself", and then he still sent out the process of pouring oil and vomiting on his son...

These contradictory actions of her are enough to show how unbalanced she is inside.

So what will other parents think after watching this farce?

As a bystander, Mi Grain's mother is actually very good at representing the perspective of other parents in the group.

Let's first see how this mother attacked other parents when she was shooting indiscriminately.

She did not talk about things, but knocked over a boatload of people with a stick, defining the act of delivering cakes and receiving cakes as "licking" and "precise licking".

Qinggao said that he couldn't learn that, and he wanted to isolate the parents who delivered cakes with other parents.

Who will be comfortable in their hearts if they are attacked and set on fire for no reason?

If I am a parent, even if I know in my heart that I should not interfere with my child's own social interaction, I will remind my child to pay attention to my dealings with her children.

After all, who isn't afraid to accidentally mess with a fishy body?

Remember the news that after the parents claimed a thousand yuan skirt for the original price, her daughter was isolated by the entire kindergarten?

The daughter was playing with her classmates in kindergarten, and as a result, her skirt was accidentally torn.

This skirt is very expensive, the original price is more than 3,000, and the parents can't get over this hurdle, so they claim according to the original price.

Later, the compensation was obtained, but the daughter also lost all the playmates in the kindergarten.

Frankly speaking, kindergarten children, it is normal to fight, not to mention tearing clothes, that is, small bumps, small frictions, are common things.

You dress your daughter so expensively, and your claim attitude is so tough, other parents will naturally think:

"Can't afford to mess with me?"

In fact, this is consistent with the underlying logic of the birthday cake event.

Parents' self-righteous "protection" will interfere with the child's communication ecology.

Previously, a parent was even more exaggerated, in order not to let his children eat junk food, he reported the commissary next to the school, and repeatedly forced others to rectify.

But later, the "healthy snack cabinet" specially set up by the commissary became unpopular, and the parents' wave of reverse screening directly saved the children the trouble of picking snacks.

Truth be told, who doesn't know that junk food is bad for the body?

But in many cases, a pack of spicy strips can instantly bring a child's social distance closer.

So in this regard, the attitude of the rice mother is always to turn a blind eye, after all, when even I have a gluttonous mouth, why bother the child?

As a mother, Migrain mother can especially understand the idea of wanting to protect her child from harm, but reality is not a fairy tale, and children cannot live under the wing of their parents forever.

A child's life is not only parents, he needs classmates, friends, and normal social interaction.

When children grow up, they have to face the real world.

Now locking children in a vacuum hood, thinking that it is to give children pure space for growth, but they do not know that they are deprived of the right to grow.

The love of parents for their children is far-reaching.

Female writer Zhao Jie once said:

"I admire a kind of parents who give strong intimacy to their children when they are young and learn to withdraw gracefully when they grow up, care and separation are tasks that parents must complete in their children."

One day, children will have to go their own way independently.

What we have to do is to give children the space to grow independently, let them go their own way, make their own friends, and live their own lives in a free world.

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