Wang Po said matchmaker, is it a man's responsibility or pressure?
Recently, there has been a lot of hype on the Internet, Wang Po said that the media incident, have you heard about it? It is about an old sister-in-law who is enthusiastic and introduces a small group of people, and it turns out that the girl's belly is three months old. Many people jumped out to accuse, thinking that this man was not responsible if he didn't marry, but I want to say that this matter has to be seen from both sides.
May 2, Bozhou, Anhui Province. Wanda Plaza held the "Wang Po Matchmaking" event, and a girl who claimed to be 3 months pregnant took the stage to go on a blind date with the guy. The host asked the guy "It's acceptable to divorce without children, why can't you accept it if you're 3 months pregnant?" Wang Po said, "Men must first be responsible, you don't mind this problem."
Let's first talk about the concept of marriage and love among young people now. Times are changing, and concepts must also progress. The old thinking of "men should get married, women should get married" is outdated. Modern young people pay more attention to the emotional foundation and personal choice. After all, getting married is a lifelong event, not child's play. If two people can come together, they must have a common language and appreciate each other in order to live together, right?
Let's talk about the issue of responsibility. Some people believe that men should let go, regardless of the responsibility first. I think that's a dangerous idea. Responsibility is not only responsible for the result, but also respect for the process, respect for oneself and each other. If you don't even have a basic understanding and emotional foundation, getting married is also digging a hole for yourself and the other party.
Of course, I'm not saying that pregnant girls should be left out in the cold, everyone has the right to be loved and respected. But you can't just do it on one person. Children are the crystallization of two people, and it should be the responsibility of two people. It's best if two people are willing to take on this responsibility together, and if not, there's no need to force yourself to carry a weight that you may not be able to bear.
I know that as soon as I say that, some people will think I'm being a fool. But think about it, life is not to live for the eyes of others, but to live for yourself. True responsibility is to make decisions based on a clear understanding of your own abilities and emotions, rather than blindly accepting the labels that others put on you.
Why do men have to choose a woman who is three months pregnant? Why do men have to be fathers? Do men have no other choice? The answer is: There is a choice! The choice is in one's own hands, and the important thing is to be responsible for one's own choice, not to be forced by external pressure.
What I want to emphasize is that no matter who you are, when facing the problem of marriage and love, you must think calmly and not be swayed by the remarks of the outside world. Family responsibilities are important, but even more important is your own well-being in life. Finding someone who really suits you and living the life you want is the most real responsibility.
Wang Po said that the matter of matchmaking seems simple, but it is actually complicated. What we have to do is to look at it rationally, not blindly follow the trend, and not evade responsibility. Marriage is your own, life is also your own, how to choose, the key is to look at your own heart.
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