Text/Themi Mama (original article, welcome to share and forward personally)
First of all, if you can choose, will you take the baby full-time, or do you bring the baby while working?
May face such a problem, the vast majority of mothers, will choose the latter, after all, when a full-time mother, for a family's economic situation, there are still certain requirements, in addition, now women are more respectful of independence.
But the reality is that sometimes it is the opposite of our choice, because of various reasons, some mothers can only give up their careers and concentrate on being a full-time mother.
Therefore, because each family has different circumstances, in the matter of bringing a baby, there will naturally be two situations, one is the "full-time belt", and the other is the "workplace belt".
So the question is, will there be a difference between children who are "full-time" and children who are "belted in the workplace"? If there is a difference, what are the differences? Let's share it with you today.
01. Will there be a difference between children with "full-time belt" and "workplace belt"?
When you see this question, the answer may already be out of the question, because two different situations are bound to produce different results.
First of all, "full-time belt" and "workplace belt", the child's time with the mother is different.
If it is a full-time baby, then basically for a baby, the mother is around the child 24 hours a day, and the workplace belt, then the time of the mother around the child is a certain limitation.
As we all know, mothers play a decisive role in the shaping of children's personality in the process of children's growth, so once the child is taken care of by others, or there are many people taking care of the situation, then the child's attention is not only focused on the mother.
Secondly, the "full-time belt" and the "workplace belt", the mother's state around the child is also different.
If it is a full-time baby, then the mother's full attention is only on the child and the family, and a mother who only pays attention to the child is bound to have a lot of softness, of course, there is also some helplessness in life.
However, if it is a workplace belt, then the image state of the mother in front of the child may be colorful, with gentle teaching and companionship, and of course, there will be a fierce side.
Therefore, under the influence of different "energy", children with full-time belt and workplace belt are bound to have some differences.
02. Children with "workplace belt" and "full-time belt" of mothers have a big difference in 3 aspects
In the process of children's growth, the role of the mother is crucial, and even some of the mother's own concepts and ideas will affect the child's life.
Therefore, for the two situations of "workplace belt" and "full-time belt", children will also have a big difference.
Although we may not notice the difference in a short period of time, as the child grows older, some differences will slowly be revealed, so let's take a look at it together.
Your child's academic performance may vary
As mentioned earlier, for stay-at-home mothers, the focus of everything is on their children, and they are very willing to invest energy in their children's growth and education.
In addition, many mothers are now highly educated and high-quality talents, and they pay more attention to their children's education and growth, so the children with full-time duty are often more capable of learning and enthusiasm for learning.
And the workplace with the mother, the energy is easy to be dispersed, so the time invested in the child's education will be relatively less, and the child will also be because of the busyness of the parents, there will be a situation of "flying self", especially for those children who do not have a certain degree of self-consciousness about learning, working mothers are more satisfied with the "freedom" that children want.
I have such an example around me, there is a cousin who has two children, a year after dabao was born, she re-entered the workplace, so the supervision and education of dabao is not enough, and when erbao is born, she will become a full-time mother, and the academic performance of the two children is also very different so far.
Sometimes the cousin is very emotional, did not provide a good educational environment for Dabao, and did not cultivate good learning habits for children from an early age, which led to the occurrence of the current situation.
Your child's ability to take care of themselves may vary
If the child can grow up under the education of a full-time mother, then from a psychological point of view, it must be satisfied and happy, and the future will be very good.
However, in general, full-time mothers take "protective education" for their children, and food, clothing, housing and transportation may be arranged very well, and even some things that should be done for children, full-time mothers will also receive all the orders.
Then in this case, it may be that the child's dependence on the mother will be very strong, and one day once the mother's protection is left, there may be a situation of poor self-care ability.
Such children, although optimistic and positive, but because they have been growing up under the careful care of their mothers, they are often more fragile inside.
And working mothers with large children, often more often rely on themselves, so the ability to take care of themselves is relatively good, although the intimate relationship with the mother, not as good as full-time mothers, but the child's heart is often stronger and braver, willing to challenge, but also dare to face the test.
Your child's future work situation may be different
Back in 2019, Harvard University did a survey, and after the survey, they found:
Compared with stay-at-home moms, it is easier for a daughter with a working mom to find her ideal job when she grows up, and she will also have a higher income.
Such a conclusion is not difficult to understand.
Because for full-time mothers, once they are far away from the workplace, then her original circle of life will be compressed to only the family, so the reception of external information is certainly not as good as that of working mothers.
Over time, in this ever-changing era, it is bound to be slightly inferior in terms of insight and vision, and the value brought to children will become more and more limited with the number of years of full-time mothers.
For working mothers, a woman's struggle and independence in the workplace will subtly affect the child's outlook on life, especially for the daughter, which may have a greater impact.
In addition, the circle of working mothers is wider, so the knowledge is relatively wide, and in the process of children's growth, they can provide children with some professional and valuable advice.
Therefore, two different situations, as the child grows up, may be reflected in the workplace.
03. Mother Themi's message:
For many women, there will inevitably be a lot of helplessness in the matter of taking a baby, because each family has its own different situation, so whether it is a full-time belt or a workplace belt, there is no need to feel regrets.
Of course, the workplace belt and the full-time belt, for the child, each has its own benefits, each has its own drawbacks, for the mother, it is difficult to do both.
Of course, whether we are full-time mothers or working mothers, we should understand that in the process of children's growth, companionship is always the most valuable maternal love.
Therefore, as long as there is time, we must accompany the child more, so that the child can grow up healthy and happy in the love of the mother.
Finally, I would like to ask you, do you think that the full-time mother or the working mother, which child brought out, is more excellent?