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The backbone of society is the main force in the future economic and social development, and we in our 30s are becoming the backbone of society.
Every time I see mothers bringing their children to change books in the bookstore, I have a trance feeling, when I was a child, if I could have so many books to read, wouldn't my childhood be happier?
I like to chat with my mothers, there are several times to talk about the topic of "workplace", mothers expressed great envy, they are more than 30 years old, it is a year of enthusiasm, but they can only take children, as if they can not do anything, let alone go to work.
And those "working mothers" who bring their babies to change books on the weekend said that they are actually under a lot of pressure, in order not to be surpassed, they work hard every day, and their days are not much better than full-time mothers.
If you don't want to be surpassed, you have to grit your teeth and keep rushing forward!
Yao Chen said: "This era is very stressful and demanding for women. If you choose to be a working woman, someone will say that you are a bad mother who does not care about your family. If you choose to become a stay-at-home mother, some people will say that having children is a woman's duty, which is not a career. ”
When brushing "Twenty Not Confused", I saw a scene that was impressive, Xiao Rong sister said to Jiang Xiaoguo, "If you want to not be surpassed, you have to grit your teeth and keep rushing forward, and now that you have a mother and a baby, it is even more important to do everything!" ”
Hearing this, I feel that my heart is poked for a moment, what makes us work so hard, even if we know that there is not necessarily a result, or are we constantly trying? Is it really just poverty? Not!
I myself am a 30+ woman, and I am in an important stage of struggle, both at home and at work. I think that this period is in the battlefield of "no smoke of gunfire", you feel that there is no pursuit of soldiers, in fact, there are "chasing soldiers" everywhere.
At work, after the 90s, 00s, or on, there is a "mother" role of the binding, it is quite hard. Although it is not old, it is in the middle of the way, can't go up, can't come down, and is a little embarrassed. If you don't want to be surpassed, you can only try to rush forward. After having children, you have to do everything, and you are not qualified to shout tired!
How to make working mothers less anxious?
After becoming moms, we are not only moms. This sentence was written on the first page of my journal, which recorded some interesting things about me and my children.
I know that after becoming a mother, it is almost impossible to achieve perfection on both the workplace and the family. Now I have successfully transformed from a stay-at-home mom to a working mom, and it has been very difficult along the way. But the society's flaunting of women has always existed, how should working mothers balance these and slowly adapt?
1) You don't have to be "perfect."
I talked to a friend about horoscopes, and I said I was a Virgo, and she said it was terrible, and this kind of person was almost perfect. Indeed, I am sometimes very real at work and with my baby.
Once when I was changing my sister's diapers, I found that her little ass was red, thinking that I might not have dealt with it in time, causing her skin to become like this. One night she blamed herself and suffered from insomnia, and the next day she took a leave of absence to take her to the hospital.
After tossing and turning all day, the doctor told me that it was okay, and it was okay to pay attention to keeping the skin dry in the future, which happened from time to time in young children. I don't let go of myself, I always feel that it is my own problem, so that the child suffers so much, take three days off to take care of the child, three days later to the company crazy overtime...
During that time, I had a lot of mental pressure, insomnia at night, wandering during the day, taking a baby, working like this, and becoming very anxious after a long time. Later, I adjusted my mentality and did not insist that I must be "perfect". Cleaning up the room can be a little later, the ppt report can also be slower, and it can be completed on the same day, which is good.
2, give yourself enough confidence
When I first started with children, I doubted my ability for a while, is it that children don't need me so much? Why did he fall asleep when he saw me coming over? Am I suitable for my current job, carrying milk every day, will my colleagues think I am in trouble? After thinking about it a lot, I figured it out.
The child is growing up healthily and the work is being carried out benignly, which shows that I have taken care of all this, so I don't have to worry too much. Even if you make mistakes, you don't have to be too sad, people don't have to make mistakes, learn from mistakes, in order to grow.
3. Live in the present, not the future
The first time I had a baby, I was still at work, and I was a little confused, whether to leave the workplace or not? Later, after the end of the maternity leave, the leader invited me to continue to work, and after half a year, I was promoted two levels in a row. This is something I did not expect before, and my husband also ridiculed me at that time that others were dismissed when they gave birth to children, but you "lost your horse".
Many women who have just entered the workplace will set some plans for themselves, one year, two years, three years, five years. But the plan will always be variable, because it belongs to the future.
Especially women who have just joined the company and plan to get married and have children. You may think that these uncertain factors hinder your career from rising and miss.
But these may also be an opportunity for you in the future, like I did, isn't that the case? It's certainly good to have a plan, but you don't have to disrupt the pace of life for the sake of so-called "planning.".
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
Life is not easy, and working mothers of 30+ are even more difficult. But life itself is not easy, everyone is the same. If you can grasp it, try to grasp it, don't think too much, everything will slowly get better. There are family and children behind you to support you, don't be afraid!
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