I am a working mom and my child is currently 2 years old.
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Before entering the workplace, I was also very entangled in whether to be a full-time mom or a working mom.
Full-time mothers have more time to accompany their children, and will not miss every moment of their children's growth, but there is no income, they need to see their faces with money, they have no sense of value, and it is easy to be eliminated by society if they stop working for too long.
Working mothers have a sense of personal value, can let themselves have more room for growth and improvement, can freely dispose of money, buy when they want, do not have to listen to gossip, but the child spends less time with him, and the parent-child relationship is weak.
I believe that many mothers, like me, want to do both work and child company.
So I struggled to find a way to neutralize.
I gave up my high-paying, far-away job and applied only to companies within three kilometers of the neighborhood, while focusing on the company's commuting time, whether there were weekends off, and whether there was more overtime.
I used to have a lot of management experience, and I also had various industry certificates, which were very sought-after everywhere, but because I didn't go to work for 1 and a half years during pregnancy and childbirth, I was asked various questions by the company.
For example: You haven't been to work for so long, do you remember what you did at work before? The industry is developing fast, have you learned new knowledge and kept up with the current development of the industry? Now that your child is still young and still breastfeeding, how do you measure work and family? After you come to work here, can you devote yourself to work wholeheartedly, and will you take three days and two days off?
This is the most embarrassing question I encountered in the interview after giving birth, think about how confident I used to be, I can also give my full time for the company, but now... I can't do it, I have to give part of my time and energy to my children.
In the early stage of entering the workplace after giving birth, I was very anxious, the new job needed to be familiar, and the child cried at home every day, encountered company activities, I worked overtime until 10 o'clock, after returning home the children slept, and the next day when I got up, the child did not get up, I had no chance to interact with the child, which made me very broken.
In order to have more time to spend with me, I changed jobs several times in the early stages, and finally found a job that was close to home, worked less overtime, left work on time at 5 o'clock every day, and had two days off.
After solving the work, the next step is to think about how to use the daily off-work time and weekend time to make the child and you have a strong parent-child relationship, so that the child is close to you and loves you.
I flipped through a large number of parenting books and came to the conclusion that parents give their children more than 2 hours of high-quality companionship every day to meet their children's needs for security and love.
Through more than 1 year of practice verification, it is indeed effective, the current child and I have a close parent-child relationship, I will be happy to throw herself into my arms when I come home from work, sometimes at home will also say that I miss my mother, I will take the initiative to ask to sleep with my mother when I sleep, and there is also the initiative to kiss from time to time, and I will say that I love my mother.
Therefore, the current state is in line with my initial expectations.
Next, I would like to share how to arrange the parent-child companionship time of parents every day after work and weekends. First of all, arrange an activity venue environment suitable for the growth and development of young children at home.
Accompanying children can not play dry, there must be interaction, so that children will feel that it is fun to be with their parents, and they will be willing to stay with their parents.
Parents can choose a fixed place at home, and put picture book shelves, toy cabinets, stereos and other items around the area.
Picture books can help children improve their language, cognition, concentration, logical thinking, creativity and other abilities, and can also help children develop good reading habits. Parents can choose picture books suitable for their children's ages and place them on the shelves.
Toys, every family has, however, what to buy is very important, stop buying only rag dolls and various cars, should buy some play teaching aids that are suitable for children's hand development needs.
Secondly, parents set up a weekly activity schedule to arrange as many and diverse parent-child activities as possible.
Parents' daily companionship time is calculated according to 2 hours, a parent-child activity is about 30 minutes, 4 parent-child activities can be arranged every day, the 30 minutes of parent-child reading are fixed before bedtime every day, and the remaining 3 activities can be combined with the arrangement of dynamic and static.
Like what:
Music games + movement + fine motor training
Drawing + Science Experiment + Outdoor
Dance + Picture Book Cognition + Movement
If you arrange activities that your child is not interested in, we can carry out the activities that the child wants according to his wishes.
Finally, parents get involved and be good observers and guides.
With the environment and goals, the most important part is practice, which is also a problem that many parents are confused about.
How to play? What should I say? How would it be better?
If you're ready, start the most important first step and put down your phone.
Then give your child all your eyes and ask him: Baby, let's make a game together! Shall we draw together? If the child says yes, we start the activity, if the child says no, let the child choose one of your three activities, if not, then ask him, what game do you want to do? Mom can accompany you.
In the process of playing, parents can interact with their children in questions and answers and competitions.
For small babies, parents can guide the child to identify, imitate movements, touch, hug interaction.
Throughout the process, your focus is on the child, who is able to feel the full companionship of the parents and the attention and love for themselves.
On weekends, parents can arrange outdoor or short trips, and a good parent-child time will keep you close.
Finally, parents should remember to hug and kiss their children more every day, and say more language like mom misses you and mom loves you.
In your child's early childhood, they are always insecure, expressing your love for her every day and making her sure that you really love her.