In today's society, young parents go to work to make money, children are grandparents in the belt, some are active to help children take care of children, some may be that there is really no one at home to take care of children, so temporarily on the job. But most older adults actually enjoy being with small children, which gives them something to do.
Children are the hope of the family, whether it is the next generation of parents or grandparents, will treat them well, but there are also certain expectations for children, hope that children can grow up, respect for elders is very important. We found that in the past, grandmas usually took care of children, but now a lot of grandmas have started to help take care of children, and grandmas prefer to take care of children.
I have a friend named Xiao Shui, who has been cared for by her mother since she became pregnant. After the birth of the child, her grandmother rarely went to see her grandchildren. Xiao Shui's parents feared that their daughter would suffer, so they moved to a nearby rental and didn't come home until the baby boy went to elementary school. So children are with their grandparents from an early age. The two old men were very nice to the kids. Since the grandparents left, the children have been sullen for a whole month. This little water is also very painful. Once when Xiaoshui came home, she heard her husband and son chatting, and the content of the chat directly made her angry, and the father of the child said to the child: "In the future, you must be filial to Grandma, Grandma likes you." The son listened but said: "Since I was a child, my grandmother has taken me, why let me be filial to my grandmother"?
Subsequently, Dad also said a sentence: "You should show respect for Grandma" and said: "Child, you have the same surname as me, Daddy was born to Grandma." Of course, you have to be nice to her, and Grandma doesn't kiss you less often than Grandma. The little boy was very confused, Xiao Shui could not listen any longer, and when he came in, he said to his son, "Who will be good to you?" Who will approach him?"
Therefore, Xiao Shui and her husband had a direct quarrel. In previous marital relationships, the woman was listed as a parent directly after marriage, and the children were indeed closer to the grandmother. However, the situation has changed a lot, the traditional idea should not be passed on to the child, and both grandma and grandma are very close to their children.
Another example: "My parents are not very old, but they still have my sister's children to take care of." My child can only be cared for by his grandmother. My husband and I come home at nine o'clock almost every day. We can't take care of that much, as long as we're really nice to the kids, we'll pay for it. But sometimes I really can't stand it, for example, when Beijing just arrived in autumn, I put on the children's cotton pants, the kindergarten teacher couldn't take care of it, repeatedly got prickly, and I couldn't stand the children when I went back every day, and watching TV was a few hours.
The kid was too fat to move. If the kid likes to eat meat, he will buy lamb skewers every day to stew the ribs. But the old man actually worked harder, giving money and effort, and we tried to tell her in a relatively correct way, but we couldn't do it.
"This is a problem that our colleague Nana often complains about, but there are also people who agree that this is not a scoop. The most deadly thing is that when the child is sick, the child on the weekend is often taken back to live for two days, and whenever he is sick at this time, the grandmother will blame, "Let you take such a child for two days, and you can also take care of the sick child." But if grandma takes care of the children, it means "you're usually tired enough, rest on the weekends."
As children, they also know who is good to them. They prefer to be with elders who are good to them. As parents of children, they should not order their children to do things that put some bad ideas in their heads. First of all, parents should tell their children that whether they are grandmas or grandmas, they are all the same, children should be filial piety, especially now that families are only children, grandparents will not have any other grandchildren, so the old man will give all his love to his children.
No matter how old people treat their children, don't instruct them who are good people and who are bad people. When the kids are older, they will know who is the best person for them. Conventional wisdom holds that grandmothers tend to be kind to their grandchildren, but that doesn't mean the same is true for today's older people.
Parents should still let the children make their own choices, especially some adults, which is also easy to hurt the children, so parents should also know to let the children have a correct concept of family feelings.
In fact, such a situation is not common, parents who are good to their children will not forget them, parents are better off bringing their children to their grandparents' homes as much as possible, so that such problems can also be avoided.
Summary: No matter who brings the child, it is the same to pay the heart, teach the child integrity and kindness, and be kind to others.
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