Text/Good Pregnant Sister
Once, I saw such a set of data: Beijing sampled the psychological status of 3,000 middle school students.
56.28% of children are extremely disgusted or even hate their parents.
Because I was so surprised by this result, I still remember the highest praise in the comment section: "It is really difficult to raise a child, I regard him as a treasure, he regards me as an enemy." Alas, I slowly felt like I had become a neurotic. ”
Frankly speaking, as a parent, the saddest and most helpless thing is to give everything yourself, but you are still hated and looked down upon by your children.
But sadly, we are sometimes the unfortunate to take over such debt collectors. For example, in the following two types of children, the more parents pay, the more chilling they are. In the end, the old face and white hair left in vain, as well as the empty wallet that was squeezed out and squeezed dry.
While relying on them, they dislike their parents
Remember the old mother in her sixties who had to work three jobs a day to pay off her son's gambling debts?
She was once hit by a car in a hurry to go to work, and as a result, her son in his thirties did not feel sorry for her old wife at all, and even always hated her mother's incompetence.
When subjected to controversy and questioning from the outside world, he actually said with a straight face, "Who let you be my mother, who made me your son."
Sigh, it's really a strong word, and I don't know how to be grateful.
In real life, some parents will also meet such children. Not only will they feel that their parents are too rustic to dress up and humiliate themselves, but when they encounter bad luck, they will complain that their parents do not have a glamorous education and work unit.
What is even more chilling is that their parents buy them a house, a car, a baby to do housework, and even subsidize the family. They are not grateful, but they always dislike their parents for their incompetence and completely ignore their parents' goodness.
As everyone knows, what they take for granted is that their parents have been silently guarding it.
People's hearts will be tired, when their own efforts are always ignored, in exchange for not respect but disgust. All day long hard work, but also to see the child's face to live. No matter how strong the parents, they will also feel sad and aggrieved.
Always leave the worst attitude to the parents
There is a kind of child, in the eyes of outsiders, it is definitely the best person. But after returning home, he immediately revealed his original form and vented all the grievances and resentment he had suffered at work on his parents.
Not only do they lack patience with their parents, but if they are slightly unhappy, they will speak ill of their fathers and mothers, and they are eager to insult their parents with the most vicious words.
Alas, being favored is always fearless. They know that no matter how ugly and hurtful they are, parents will always tolerate and forgive themselves unconditionally.
As everyone knows, overcoming instincts and not being picky about people close to you is a kind of upbringing. By doing so, they will make parents wary.
Finally, I would like to say that parents are a wall between us and death. When your parents are there, whether you are a 30-year-old or a 60-year-old, you feel that death is still far away.
But as soon as your parents are gone, you will suddenly face the god of death, and you will understand the fragility and brevity of life at once, and suddenly become a person without parents.
Therefore, as children, while their parents are still alive, please be kind to them, and do not let them travel far in loneliness with a desperate heart! As a parent, while the child is still young, teach him to know etiquette and be good, and not to eat the evil consequences in his old age.
Senior Nursery Teacher, Psychological Counselor, Author of Original Parenting Comics Articles,
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