In the process of educating children, we all hope that children will become a filial piety, at least not to make them white-eyed wolves. Because when parents are old, they also need children to take care of them. But I have to admit one thing, no matter how many children there are, the children of the whitedest wolf in their later years are always this, and if they hurt the wrong person, they will definitely be very cold.
Lao Zhang is now 60 years old and has finally retired honorably. Because my wife died early, I have always lived alone. Fortunately, he still has two children, and he feels that it is a very happy thing to be able to spend the rest of his life with these two children. But lately he has become more and more aware that his thinking is wrong, because one of them does not care about his feelings no matter what, and never gives, and this child is Lao Zhang's younger son.
You must know that when Lao Zhang was young, he has been taking care of them attentively, especially when taking care of his young son, and he is eager to give him all the best things. But now he is very old and needs the care of his children, but at this time, the younger son actually said: "I don't have time to take care of you anyway, if you really can't do it, go to the nursing home." After Lao Zhang listened, he became very cold about time, and he really did not expect his child to say such a thing.
In fact, the actual results have proved this matter, no matter how many children we have, the white-eyed wolf in the later years is often the youngest child. So why is this happening?
Why does the youngest child become a white-eyed wolf in his later years?
In fact, this is why there is such a situation, because parents always like to give everything to the youngest child when the child is young. The youngest children tend to reap a lot of benefits, because parents always feel that they should put more love into this child. But the more you choose to do this, the less benefits you will bring.
Because these children have long been accustomed to the doting of their parents, they do not know what is called real giving, they have always been self-centered, they will only consider their own feelings, so the appearance they show in their daily lives is also selfish. And when their parents are old, they don't lend a helping hand to take care of their parents, because they don't want to waste time on their parents.
How not to make your child a white-eyed wolf?
If you really want this problem to be solved well, then the best thing to do is to use yourself as a benchmark to give your child a good example. For example, we must respect our parents well in our daily lives, because only in this way can children understand that respecting their parents is a very normal thing, and it is also a matter of course.
So we must have a better relationship with our parents, and when our parents are old, we should know how to take care of our parents and then help our parents to retire. In this way, the child can be subtly affected, then the child will inevitably not become a white-eyed wolf.
In addition, we also need to let children know how to be grateful, which is very important for children. Some children become white-eared wolves because they do not know how to be grateful in life, they always feel that their parents should pay for themselves, and they never know how to pay for their parents. We can make children understand gratitude in some details of life, such as we can let children help us with housework at home.
Or after returning home, let the child help us wash our feet, or help us massage our shoulders, which is a better practice. We must not show a strong look in front of our children, we should let our children understand our vulnerability, so that they will be willing to pay for us, and they will not become white-eyed wolves when they grow up.
Sometimes there is nothing wrong with a harsh approach to education, and the phrase filial piety under a stick is never outdated. Many people will think that it is most correct to educate children in a civilized way, but these people often overlook the point, that is, whether children listen or not?
If children are obedient and sensible, then it is okay to educate children in a civilized way. If the child is always selfish and never considers the ideas of his parents, or even knows how to be filial to his parents, then there is nothing wrong with teaching with a stick.
So sometimes we have to treat our children in the right way, because only in this way can we prevent our children from becoming a white-eyed wolf. Don't love the child too much, and definitely don't give all the good things to the child, so that the child will only become selfish, and even will not consider the feelings of the parents at all, then they will inevitably become an unfilial person when they grow up.