In the background, I saw a lot of parent messages:
Parent A: The child keeps muttering "I don't want to go to school" before going to bed;
Parent B: As soon as it is delivered to the door of the nursery, the baby begins to cry;
Parent C: The first week of kindergarten has slowly adapted, and the second week has begun to find excuses not to attend nursery.
Parent D: When the child hears that he is going to the nursery, he cries and makes trouble, but what can he do?
In fact, for a baby who has just entered the nursery, there will be some separation anxiety, which is too normal. Many adults still need a certain period of adaptation after going to a new environment, let alone children.
At this time, some parents forcibly sent him to the nursery regardless of their child's crying; some parents simply took their children home and thought of sending their children the next day. As everyone knows, the wrong way of communication and coping methods will not only not solve the problem, but will make the situation more serious.
This article lists the wrong communication methods and the correct way to deal with it for everyone, hoping to help you solve the problem.
First, the wrong way of communication
1. Give the order: "You must go today, and if you cry again, I will beat you!" ”
When the child does not want to go to the nursery, or even cry non-stop, I believe that many impatient parents have begun to get angry, loudly ordering the child, saying "You must go today, and if you cry again, you will be beaten."
This will not only not help solve the problem, but will make the situation more serious, the child will cry more, and it will also increase the child's reluctance to go to kindergarten.
2. Be reasonable: "You see that other babies have gone to the nursery, and you must be obedient!" ”
The reason is not impossible, but the doll can't listen to it, and the answer is obvious. Telling the baby a bunch of "what should you do" is generally not very effective, even if he nods his head now to indicate that he listens, but he will soon forget that he will still cry when it is time to cry.
3. Obey him: "Don't go today, you can play at home anyway." ”
Many parents are anxious as soon as they hear their children crying, saying that they don't want to go and let them play at home, which not only can't solve the problem, but also let the children develop bad habits, and cry with you when they are not happy, what do you do? Just follow him unconditionally? There is also a aspect, parents say that "at home can also play", children listen to will not feel that they do not need to go to childcare, and then they can play at home?
In fact, the benefits of childcare are many, and it is really not just play. Nursery schools can cultivate children's good habits, stimulate language talents, cultivate hands-on ability, promote intellectual development, meet new friends, and so on.
4. Pull hatred: "If you don't go, the teacher will be unhappy." ”
Saying this would put the child and the teacher in opposition. In the same way, you can't say, "If you don't go to the nursery, Mom and Dad will be in trouble, and the work will not be done well", which is to put the child and the parent on the opposite side, so that the child feels that your ultimate goal is to send him away.
Second, the correct way to deal with it
1. Scientific communication
The trilogy of relieving children's anxiety - resonance, acceptance, encouragement, many parents have said that it is effective, and those who have not tried it may wish to try it. First express your understanding of the child, express that it is not easy for your parents to understand you; second, wait for the child to be slightly stable, tell him that "parents know that you are not familiar with the environment of the nursery, know that you do not like to be separated from your parents"; and finally express encouragement to the child.
2. Frontal guidance
When asking your child how you feel when you enter the kindergarten, pay attention to using positive language when communicating, such as "How many new friends did you make in the nursery today", rather than asking "Have you been bullied by other children today". In short, when communicating with children, strengthen the child's good impression of the nursery.
3. Treat normally
In the first month of entering the nursery school, do not let the child just arrive at home to be surrounded by adults to ask this and that, the family are nervous to look at him, which will aggravate the child's discomfort. Instead, it is necessary to maintain a normal state of life and let the child feel that it is a normal thing for him to enter the kindergarten.
4. Pick up and drop off on time
The baby has just entered the nursery, has not adapted, happy to finish school, see other children have parents to pick up, but they can not see their parents, but also have to wait in the nursery, which will make the child's anxiety worse. If there is really an emergency at home, you really have to come to pick him up later, be sure to tell him in advance and let him have a psychological preparation. If something is very sudden and it is too late to tell in advance, be sure to contact the teacher in the park, let the teacher help take care of it, and by the way, give the reason why the child's parents cannot come to pick him up on time.
Third, Toyobao said
Don't think how serious it is that children don't want to go to childcare, this is a very normal phenomenon. After all, for them today, being separated from their parents and going to an unfamiliar environment is the biggest problem, and they are not yet able to link their education with their personal future development.
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Parents must first change their concepts and think clearly whether parents cannot do without their children, or children cannot do without their parents. In fact, parents must first learn to let go, so that children can get started faster!
When children encounter problems, treat them calmly and guide them scientifically. Believe in the teacher, believe in the child, believe that the nursery teacher will help the child through the adaptation period, help the child to establish friendship with other children.