0-3 year olds ' social phobia '
Peer conflict (hitting people, scrambling for toys)
The reasons for these behaviors are:
Babies aged 1.0-3 years are in the self-centered stage and centered on their own ideas. Think that everything is their own, so when others grab the child's things, the child can easily push others away.
2. Related to the child's personality, when others invade his own "territory", some children will react particularly quickly, sometimes in the eyes of parents is "hitting people". There is little connection between 0-3 year olds hitting people and virtue.
3. Related to the baby's language development. 0-3-year-old babies are relatively weak in thinking and language, the vocabulary mastered is not a lot, can not use complete sentences to express their wishes and requirements, so often with the help of actions to supplement the lack of language, in the communication will generally use their mouth, hands, feet, body movements accompanied by language or words to express their needs.
4. The establishment of a sense of security. The baby's sense of security at an early age is not well established, and he will think that external stimuli will cause harm to him, so he will have acts of resistance such as hitting people and scrambling.
What to do for parents
1. Don't blindly blame the child, and don't "button the hat" of the child, thinking that he is a bad boy. Post-mortem education requires certain skills, otherwise it will affect the baby's desire to communicate and emotional experience.
2. Parents should try to avoid children alone with other children, parents can watch their children play with other children from a distance, and when they see signs of wanting to quarrel or fight, parents should stop it immediately.
3. If the child has already clashed, the parent needs to stop it, tell the child that it is right or wrong, and need the baby to apologize to the other children. At the same time, you can guide the child to observe the beaten child, such as "You see that you just hit others, how sad others are." Let the child pay more attention to the other person's feelings.
4. If you are competing with your peers for toys, you can prepare a few more copies to avoid children from fighting due to scrambling.
Bullied-style interactions
The reasons for these behaviors are:
In peer interaction, some babies are more "overbearing", while some babies will be more "tolerant" when conflicts occur, and they are often bullied. Some parents say that the baby is in a state of humility most of the time in peer interaction, and he does not say anything when he is robbed of the toy, nor will he fight for it.
Most of these babies are sensitive and docile, which will also make parents both distressed and anxious, in fact, babies are because of lack of experience in social interaction, and the behavior of humility and avoidance is a way for them to protect themselves.
What to do for parents
1. When the baby is "bullied", parents should support the baby and find a reasonable way to face it with the baby, such as parents can guide the baby to discuss with other children to "play together", "take turns playing", "exchange toys to play", etc., to increase the experience and methods of the baby's interaction with people.
2. Practice self-protection strategies at home through role-playing games. Parents can play "grab toys" games with their babies in different roles, and playing this game can enrich their babies' experience and skills in coping with bullying.
3. Every time when the baby shows a confident and firm side in peer interactions, timely affirmation and encouragement, such as telling the baby, "I saw you ask for more balls to return to you, you did a great job, and your mother is very happy and proud of you." ”
4. Often provide various opportunities for the baby to play with other children, such as inviting other children to come to the house as a guest, so that the baby and the companion can play freely, which can enrich the baby's peer interaction experience.
He has a big temper, yells, throws things and cries when he is not satisfied
The reasons for these behaviors are:
1. 2-3 years old baby's first resistance period appears, the baby's heart is more contradictory, with the enhancement of cognitive ability and physical activity ability, many things in daily life are thought to be able to do it themselves, will imitate some of the social activities of adults, but when parents prevent, the baby's needs can not be met, there will be resistance psychology
2. The baby's self-awareness begins to develop, with an independent desire, he will think of his own things to do, to make his own decisions, no longer want others to interfere with his actions, "I will" "I want to... I don't want to" and other language expressions are more and more and once you oppose and stop, the baby will have frustration, which will lead to rebellious behavior.
3. The baby is immature in terms of psychological and emotional regulation mechanisms. Most babies don't yet have certain language skills, and tantrums are more useful than talking. 2-3-year-old babies will unabashedly and directly express sad and angry emotions, and they cannot effectively self-regulate their emotions, so they can only use the way of shouting and crying.
What to do for parents
1. Understand your baby, pay attention to emotions, when the baby has signs of negative emotions, you should intervene in time, do not wait for the temper to come to the parents to remedy.
2. When the baby loses his temper, parents should stay calm and try to accept and understand the baby's emotions. Don't blindly snatch things away when the child throws things, you can first hold the child, and then take away the dangerous things in the child's hands.
3. Yelling at your tantrum-throwing baby will only make your baby more excited, and you need to quiet your baby down with a gentle voice before communicating with him.
4. When the baby does not lose his temper, throw things, or cry in emotional expression, he should give timely affirmation and encouragement to strengthen the cognition of positive behavior.
5. The baby's requirements parents need to analyze, for some unreasonable requirements, parents still have to stop and insist, can not let the baby cry as a kind of "blackmail".
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