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Liu Na never imagined that such a thing would happen to her sister-in-law: one day, her sister-in-law called her and said that she would go home no matter what. Liu Na hurried home and found that the house was in a mess, her sister-in-law was sitting on the bed in the room crying bitterly, while her brother was sitting on the sofa smoking. The sister-in-law did not dress herself, wore a pajama coat, her hair was messy, and the whole person looked very unenergetic.
Liu Na knew without asking that her sister-in-law had quarreled with her brother, otherwise she would not have been in such a hurry to call her back.
The sister-in-law is the same age as Liu Na, and the two people have a good relationship and can talk very well.
"Nana, your brother cheated, I stayed full-time for ten years, bringing him two children, so hard work, he cheated."
The sister-in-law cried very sadly, it was a kind of desperation of a married woman, and there was no other way but to cry or cry. Liu Na hugged her sister-in-law like that, comforting her, hoping that she could think of opening up a little. The sister-in-law said, "Nana, what should I do?" What should I do with my two children? I love your brother with all my heart, but his heart is on other women, and he doesn't love us anymore. ”
Liu Na felt quite confused, more than ten years ago, when her sister-in-law first met her brother, it was not like now. At that time, my sister-in-law graduated from a famous university, and the person was also beautiful, and the whole person was very radiant, especially dazzling. They have a good relationship, and the brother loves his sister-in-law like a life, and loves like a rare treasure.
Liu Na's mother was also particularly worried about this, saying that his brother and sister-in-law had such a good relationship, afraid that his brother would marry his daughter-in-law and forget his mother.
The brother-in-law soon got married, and after getting married, the brother asked the sister-in-law to quit her job and said, "I can support you, you are not in good health, you have just become pregnant, what if you are tired of yourself?" You just have to take care of yourself at home, and earn money with me. I don't want to go out to work every day and still have the wind and rain. ”
The sister-in-law was also overwhelmed by love and gladly accepted.
It is a pity that graduate students who graduated from prestigious universities quit their jobs and became a full-time mother after giving birth to a child.
Liu Na is sorry for her sister-in-law, and she is also worried about her future: those women who have listened to her husband's words and become full-time mothers will mostly not be too good in the end, and will her sister-in-law regret it in the future?
Nowadays, it can be regarded as being given a heavy word by Liu Na, and the marriage between the sister-in-law and her brother has indeed appeared a third party.
In fact, the sister-in-law had planned to take the eldest to go out to work, but who knew that when the eldest was five years old, she had the second eldest and two children, and she could only continue to take the children at home. The life of a housewife in the past ten years is not good, Liu Na looks in the eyes, and her sister-in-law is busier than anyone. The boy was very naughty, but she brought both sons very well.
But Liu Na's brother has changed, and as his sister-in-law is staying at home longer and longer, he hates his wife for not understanding that he does not understand. Sometimes he will deliberately praise other people's daughters-in-law in front of his sister-in-law. The sister-in-law's heart was like a knife, and she felt that she had given so much, and the result was that she was looked down upon and hated.
You asked me to resign, you said you were going to raise me, how ten years have passed, you have become the person who hates me the most.
The sister-in-law said to Liu Na: "I thought that the most important thing I could get in my ten years was my marriage and family, I had two excellent sons, and I had a husband who loved me." But I was wrong, which should have been my greatest pride in staying at home, but now it makes me feel inferior. I regret that if I hadn't been a stay-at-home mom, I wouldn't have come to where I am today. Now let me divorce, but what about the two children? I am not willing, and I am not willing to give up my home that I have worked hard to run for ten years and give it to other women. I have no way to get a divorce, I can only choose to be patient. ”
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YIBAO emotionally said
How to evaluate Liu Na's sister-in-law's marriage?
In fact, it may not be really so miserable, and it should not be too serious. Since I regret being a stay-at-home mother the most, I should be strong and go out to find a job at the moment when I learn that my husband betrayed me. After all, it is the aura of graduate school graduation of famous universities, and the ability is there, but these ten years are all around their own acres and three points of land, resulting in their own derailment with society.
But as long as you have confidence, you will definitely have a job that suits you.
There is no need to feel that the whole world has collapsed because of a man's betrayal. Don't take marriage too seriously as family by men. You can value this man for his single-mindedness, but if he has changed his mind and even disliked you, then why do you still look up to him? You should make a change, and extramarital affairs are just a reminder to see yourself and make you realize that the love and marriage you think are not indestructible.
Man will change, once loved you love the world cracks, the sea withers and rots, many years later he is cold to you. That is the reality. Some people gamble on love and win, but most people in life do not suffer less from love on the road of love.
Don't let yourself be too sad, but change your status quo first.
Isn't it just that men have extramarital affairs? What's the big deal, if you care about him torturing yourself, you're losing. Don't care about him, you can be silent about his extramarital affairs, don't divorce, don't torture yourself, but how to live and how to live as usual.
But the child is not yours alone, you have to let him take it, you have to go out and find a job. Because whether you divorce or not, you have to have the confidence to make yourself live well. Therefore, you must change yourself, improve yourself, and strengthen yourself.
The more others bully you, the more you have to make yourself strong.
In the TV series "Our Marriage", Jiang Jing is a stay-at-home mother, her husband is very rich, and her life is extremely superior. In addition to taking the children and dressing herself up, Jiang Jing has nothing else to do. Jiang Jing regards her husband as the boss and is flattering to her husband everywhere, but she is very humble in marriage, and she does not dare to drink five or six. Later, when her husband cheated, Jiang Jing learned the true face of her husband: she never believed her, but there were cameras large and small hidden everywhere in the house.
Jiang Jing is divorced, or clean out of the house, from the beginning to the end was calculated by the scumbag.
What to do?
The only way to make yourself strong, only to let yourself find a job again, you were previously raised, but after the divorce you have to think of a way out for yourself. What's so miserable about stay-at-home moms? Economically, it is subject to people, and for a long time, the palm of the hand is upward, and the result is that in the end it is looked down upon.
I don't approve of women being full-time mothers, because once women are financially controlled by others, you have no right to speak. Don't feel like those full-time years aren't worth it, since you have two great kids, it's worth it for you. All that's left is to make yourself strong, to get a job, to make yourself alive even if you're divorced.
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Write at the end
My own job is as a freelance writer, and there are many women in our field who, like me, write essays and do little things while taking care of children. I have always felt that even if a woman is a full-time mother, she must constantly improve herself, which is conducive to running her own small hobbies in her spare time with children, and maybe your side business can be successful. Take care of your children while you are busy with your career, so that you can keep yourself out of touch with society.
Graduating from a prestigious school, with such a congenital advantage, can become a better self in marriage.
Women should know that they must not lose themselves in marriage, even if you want to become a stay-at-home mother with children, you are still yourself. There are many ways to make money now, if you have a talent for writing you can do your own self-media, you can also make videos, don't make yourself a woman with only children.
Don't be afraid of men's betrayal, isn't there someone out there? Who is afraid of whom?
When you don't care so much, you strengthen yourself, and whether he returns to the family or not is less important to you. The most important thing is to find ways to make yourself happy, to focus more on yourself, and to regain your courage in the workplace.
Instead of being knocked down.
Today's topic: After becoming a housewife, do you regret it? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.