Love is the romance of the wind and snow moon;
Marriage is a real day.
Marriage and love are different, marriage needs to run a long way, from the beginning, all the way to the end, if there is no patience and tolerance, how can it go on?
The three most "fatal" postures between husband and wife, even if one is occupied, it is difficult to be happy in marriage.
01, there is no tolerance, only complaints
The husband dislikes the wife for many things, and the wife dislikes the husband for inaction;
Husbands complain that wives are too nagging, wives complain that husbands are too lazy.
Such a couple, in addition to the triviality of the whole day, is the endless struggle, who looks at no one is not pleasing to the eye, no one is willing to give way, such a couple, how to be happy?
"Dear Sanmao" says:
Occasionally complaining about life may be a kind of emotional catharsis, and it is not necessary, but habitual complaining without seeking change is not a smart person.
Married life, unlike love, has to face a lot of things, and it is possible to erupt every day.
In fact, the best way to stay together is to think more about each other's good and less to complain endlessly.
Be gentle with the wife, don't always have a cold face; the husband does a little more, don't always play with the phone.
It is a pity to go on for a lifetime, and it is a pity to give up halfway, I hope we all know how to cherish.
02, constantly jealous, always suspicious
Franklin said:
If you lose your footing, you may be restored immediately; if you are untrustworthy, you may never be able to recover it.
Once one of the marriages is untrustworthy, it is more difficult to gain trust again than to ascend to heaven!
Because between two people, once a crisis of trust broke out. Maybe the other party has forgiven you, but whenever there is a clue, he will still have doubts.
Trust in marriage, you have to put first!
Especially couples who have been together for more than ten years or even decades, they have to live a long life, have to walk a bumpy road, and it is difficult to be happy without trust.
Take sincerity as the most precious treasure, don't lose it casually, there is no one under the sky, it is worth your love to cherish at the cost of hurting your lover!
A hundred years of repair to cross the same boat, a thousand years to repair the sleep together, husband and wife, must know how to cherish, do not wait until the loss of regret!
03, heavy calculations, bad words
Husband and wife, need to go through a lifetime, don't worry about a little thing, what to calculate?
Two people live a life, bumping and bumping is really common, smart people, good at solving problems, stupid people, always burst into anger!
Always throwing a tantrum can really drain feelings. In particular, when people are angry, they do not choose their words, and the words they say are even more hurtful.
We always give temper to the person we love the most, but should the person we love the most deserve it?
Of course not! Don't be unscrupulous because we are loved, this love should not become a weapon for us to hurt each other, it should become our armor to care for each other!
Once in a lifetime, a couple, support each other to go down. The most beautiful scenery of life is not the love of two or eight years, but the affection of the elderly year.
Learn to be kind to your marriage, learn to be kind to the person who is willing to be with you for the rest of your life.
Remember!
Complaining is never encouraging reality, action is always more reliable than promises, and tolerance is always more useful than fighting!