When you envy other people's marriages are very happy, why don't you think more about why other people's marriages are running so well? Sometimes, a woman who knows enough and loves herself can reap happiness in marriage.
More and more young people of the right age are reluctant to get married, and when they brush videos, they will always see Gao Zan's message saying: "It's another day of fear of marriage..."
The hit TV series "Dear Child" was commented by the People's Network, saying that it was selling anxiety. Despite this, many commentators have said that the show is very real, and some even say that real life is far more cruel than this.
Some Gao Zan left a message saying: "Say what sells anxiety, they are just afraid that more girls will not want to get married after watching this drama, and they don't want to have children..."
In fact, I think the original intention of the people's network comments is good, now the network is more and more developed, a variety of self-media also came into being, many media in order to attract attention, seize people's pain points infinitely amplified.
In the past, divorce felt ashamed, everyone would deliberately hide it, and in today's society, it feels that divorce is almost not a matter of "Guangzong Yaozu", and you have to send a circle of friends to sunbathe, or take a vibrato show, or hold a ceremony to commemorate. These are inseparable from the media's wanton rendering, all kinds of chicken soup advise women to leave if they can't get by, and how happy they are after divorce.
However, everyone's situation is different, and an adult should not be blinded by chicken soup, let alone be intimidated by infinitely magnified misfortunes.
Marriage is a very deep learning, some people can not penetrate the ultimate life, so we must see through the essence of marriage, in fact, marriage and who has lived is ultimately with themselves, so the happiness of marriage depends on themselves.
Like there is such a passage on the vibrato: life is to coax yourself, coax yourself to understand, what heart knots are solved, work well, live well, love yourself well, reduce expectations, reduce dependence, you will live better...
Therefore, these two types of women in marriage are the happiest.
The first, the contented woman.
It is said that contentment is always happy. However, in reality, many people do not understand the true meaning of this sentence, and it is even more difficult to do it.
In the TV series "Our Marriage", Dong Sijia began to be reluctant to admit that her husband was a full-time father, and has been deliberately avoiding this problem, and once let herself fall into an anxious mood, and even became dependent on alcohol.
Her life is actually very happy, but she is not satisfied with the status quo, as Jiang Jing said, her biggest problem is that she broke his wings with her own hands, but complained that he could not fly.
If her husband had not resigned and gone home with the children, with his ability, he could have shined in the field of history, but he sacrificed himself to complete his wife "Dong Zong".
There is no perfect person in the world, including yourself can not be perfect, we have to find the shining point of the other party, can not be others to take care of children and others to earn money to support the family.
Blindly complaining and accusing will only make herself into pain, fortunately, Dong Sijia suddenly understands the truth of contentment when she is about to lose the happiness she has.
It is true that her husband did not give her a sense of security financially, nor did he give her the capital to show off her husband in front of everyone.
But her husband gave her more tangible help, and if her husband didn't surround the children full-time, how could she have enough energy to deal with the workplace.
At the company's celebration, she gave a touching speech: "I used to think that the only thing I couldn't miss was the wind outlet, until when I was about to lose, I found that I had something even more that I couldn't miss... All my achievements stem from the fact that you have given me a solid, warm and stable family. ”
Things that have been ignored, when they are really about to be lost, only to find out, it turns out that they do not know satisfaction.
In the "Left Biography", it is said: "No one is perfect, and gold is not complete."
Dong Sijia finally put down the mustard and began a happy life with her husband Li Yuwen.
Complaining can't change anyone or anything, we have to enjoy the current life, have a husband who can earn money, a well-behaved and cute child, a healthy body, isn't this happiness?
Many times we think that unhappiness is only the dissatisfaction in our hearts, learn to be grateful, know how to be satisfied, in order to harvest happiness.
The second, the woman who loves herself.
Learn to love yourself in order to have the ability to love others. I especially like the saying that loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
There are many explanations for loving yourself, some people say that it is to accept your shortcomings, some people say that you stop intimidating yourself, and some people say that you understand yourself. I am more inclined to love myself as I understand myself, know what I want to pursue, and be able to do it as I please.
Many women, knowing their husbands' children's hobbies, have never asked themselves what they like?
To make our inner world no longer barren, we must know what we really want.
In "Our Marriage", Shen Huixing is a woman who knows how to love herself very well, and she clearly knows what she wants from the beginning of marriage.
Shen Huixing feels that who is inside and who is outside is just different in the division of labor, and she chose to take children full-time from graduation because she felt that she was better than her husband and had planned her future life direction.
When she felt that the task of accompanying her child's growth was completed, she began to go according to her own plan, and after six years of full-time, she began to look for a job, and all her decisions were made because she wanted to do it, not how reality required me to do it.
Jiang Jing felt that it was better for men to play games at home than to go out and fool around, and asked Shen Huixing, which one do you choose to cheat or play games? And Shen Huixing felt why she should choose between the two that were not good.
Because she knows how to love herself better than Jiang Jing.
Jiang Jing has never loved herself, all her married life is to follow her husband's arrangement, and also said the argument that her husband is the boss, but in the end, it can only end in divorce.
Many women stay at home full-time is not a choice but a forced one, so many people feel overwhelmed when forced to stay full-time.
When we are unprepared and forced to accept something, our hearts will begin to resist, so we must learn to love ourselves.
Shen Huixing has a very strong position every time she and her husband hate each other, and especially likes her husband's words, "Why do you let you get old when we have conflicts, do you think that people all over the world have to revolve around you?" ”
After watching "Our Marriage", many people may complain about Shen Huixing's self-righteousness and aggressiveness, but I saw a woman shining brightly.
She lives a very egotistical and free life, and her husband never understands to see her shining point, and this shining point is that she knows how to love herself.
Marriage, just like Mr. Qian Zhongshu wrote, people in the city want to come out, people outside the city want to come in.
People "outside the city" have had enough of a single fight, a bowl of chopsticks on the dinner table, and the loneliness of the night, so as to yearn for the warmth and happiness of the city. However, the people in the "city" have lived their marriages to the ground, and when they are irritable, they inevitably feel that they are more relaxed and relaxed when they are once alone.
Single people have the freedom and comfort of being single, but there are also the loneliness and troubles of being single; people in marriage have the triviality and exhaustion after marriage, but there is also the warmth and beauty of family joy. Not all single people aspire to marriage, but not all single people can live freely, and in the same way, not all marriages can be harmonious and happy, but not all marriages are bad.
No matter what stage you are in, know how to be satisfied, learn to love yourself, do not compare, and operate with your heart, happiness can come as promised.
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