Previously, the Ministry of Civil Affairs released the latest marriage data, and the mainland marriage registration data in 2021 was 7.636 million pairs.
What is this concept?
This is after falling below the 10 million pairs mark in 2019 and 9 million pairs in 2020, the marriage registration data fell below the 8 million pairs mark again.
The figure found that this figure hit a new low since 1986.
The sharp decline in the number of marriages has led to the realization that more and more people seem to be afraid to enter into marriage.
Many people remember Qian Zhongshu's sentence "Marriage is a siege city", but they forget the latter sentence : "If marriage is a person who loves you and spoils you, does not want to see your pain and tears, and even gives everything for your smile, this is a happy city gate."
In fact, marriage itself is not good or bad, what really determines whether you can be happy or not is your attitude towards marriage.
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Previously, Miss Liu of Tangshan, Hebei Province, was waiting for the next day's wedding with great anticipation.
But what caught her off guard was that when she woke up on the wedding day, she learned that the neighborhood where the groom's family was located was sealed, and now she could only enter and leave.
The bride didn't think much of it at the time, thinking that since she couldn't do the wedding, she would go directly to the groom's house to find him.
Later, after a brief discussion between the bride and her family, she packed her bags and set off.
There were no wedding guests, no kissing party, and the bride walked alone with her luggage to the groom's house.
According to the bride, the wedding date of the two was set more than 4 months ago, and although there is no grand wedding now, she believes that blessings are more precious than forms.
After arriving at the groom's neighborhood, the groom's family stood at the door to greet the bride's arrival. The two used this special form to complete the most important wedding in their lives.
After reading the words and deeds of the bride, I have to say that it is really praised.
Compared with the appearance of many people in marriage who are preoccupied with each other and do not give in to each other, Miss Liu's view of marriage is particularly transparent.
A good marriage is that you think a little more for me, and I will do more for you, but I don't think too much, but I don't care too much about gains and losses.
Zi Xin said something like this:
"Marriage is not a matter of one person, but of two people, for a lifetime. If you want the other person to meet your needs, you also have to meet the needs of the other person. The best marriage must be one that needs each other and achieves each other. ”
Without each other's support, without each other's understanding, no amount of love will be slowly consumed.
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In "Our Marriage", the husband and wife Shen Huixing and Sheng Jiangchuan are both high-achieving students who graduated from prestigious universities. Although evenly matched, Shen Huixing can only choose to become a full-time wife because of her unexpected pregnancy.
The life of being a stay-at-home wife is bitter, living every day with only children.
Later, as the children grew older, Shen Huixing also plucked up the courage to return to the workplace, but Sheng Jiangchuan, as a husband, repeatedly asked his wife to put the family first.
What makes Shen Huixing most chilling is that even though she has sacrificed her career for the family, her husband still does not think that he has much to give.
Many times, Sheng Jiangchuan always praised his proud achievements in front of his wife, and even said bluntly:
"I single-handedly led our whole family to achieve consumption and livelihood, and our family jumped up a class."
Giving in marriage is important, but it's equally important to see your partner's giving with your heart.
Only by seeing each other's efforts, understanding each other's efforts, and cherishing each other's efforts can marriage be more long-lasting and stable.
Shu Ting wrote in "To the Oak Tree":
"We share the cold waves, the wind and thunder, the thunderbolts; we share the fog, the streams, the rainbows. It is as if they are separated forever, but they are dependent on each other for life. ”
The best appearance of husband and wife, whether the road is smooth or dangerous, the two always share it, share it together, and see each other and rely on each other.
Just like sheng jiangchuan in the play, when he finally found that his wife not only took care of the family and fulfilled her duties, but also had outstanding work ability, he found that he had ignored his wife's feelings, and the two slowly repaired the cracks in the marriage.
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Su Xin, a self-media person, has a friend, because of the ease of work, coupled with the fact that her children have been in closed schools for a long time, she has a lot of free time every day.
Friends don't have any hobbies, and every day they just stare at their husbands and don't let him go out.
Unfortunately, the husband of a friend has a lot of socializing in the unit, and most of the socializing cannot be shirked, which naturally makes the friend unhappy.
Every time Su Xin met a friend, the friend always complained to her, saying that the man she married was useless.
One night, Su Xin's husband and a friend's husband happened to attend a dinner party together. At about 9 p.m., the friend hung up Su Xin's phone, and as soon as he answered it, the friend asked in anger:
"Did your family go back?" What time is it, still drinking, have you called? ”
Su Xin saw that his friend was angry and wanted to say a few words to forgive his friend:
"No, anyway, drinking too much he is uncomfortable, I am not uncomfortable, what does he do, maybe he still provokes a stomach, is it not fragrant to read books by himself?" You also ignore the big brother, he loves not to go back, you wash and go to bed early. ”
When the friend saw that Su Xin did not stand in the united front with her, he did not say more and hung up the phone in a hurry.
As you can imagine, her friend most likely had another quarrel with her husband that night.
Later, somehow, my friend became obsessed with calligraphy, not only practicing wildly at home, but also deliberately learning from professional teachers for a while.
Her friend's husband was very supportive of her hobby and bought a pen and paper.
When Su Xin saw her friend again, she found that her whole person had changed. In addition to talking about calligraphy, the rest is a happy marriage that is overflowing with words.
Su Xin thought about it for a long time later, and finally understood: the man is still the man, the home is still the home, but the friend himself is alive, and everything will naturally get better.
Emerson once said: "If you want to maintain an intimate relationship well, you need a proper sense of proportion, so that you don't cling to it, don't toss it, and know how to give in, naturally." ”
Literally.
When you have a bad life alone, you see the shortcomings and shortcomings of others; when you live alone, you will find that many things naturally follow you.
A good marriage requires the wisdom of "going his own way."
Recently, the latest divorce data corresponding to the marriage data has also been made public.
The data shows that 2.139 million couples completed divorce registration in 2021. This registration volume is about 43% lower than in 2020 (3.733 million pairs).
It can be seen that when each other learns to be calm in marriage, learns to face problems calmly, and learns to manage well, many couples can choose to firmly follow the path of marriage.
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