A really good marriage is to marry these "things"

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I have seen Schwartz describe marriage this way: a happy marriage is one of the greatest happiness in life, and an unhappy marriage is tantamount to living in hell.

Many women think that marriage is all about marrying a man and that the best marriage is marrying love. But in this perception, we've seen too many broken marriages.

In fact, when in love, the enthusiasm of the two is like boiling water, eliminating each other's shortcomings and deficiencies one by one, but after entering the tepid environment of marriage, the shortcomings and deficiencies will re-invade.

It is deeply believed that love is extremely important in a marriage, but if you want to have a long-term and comfortable marriage, it is by no means "romantic" to achieve.

Therefore, a good marriage is definitely not for the sake of long-term forcing two people to stay up with you, I endure, and what a woman needs to marry is not just love, but the following points.

First, have the willingness to solve problems

I believe that everyone is no stranger to she combination, and Selina is the best one in the development of the three, with a thriving career and sweet and happy love, each of which shows her happy life.

However, her original state was accidentally broken, and Selina suffered accidental burns and was at risk of disfigurement and disability. At that time, she almost retired from marriage with Zhang Chengzhong, but Zhang Chengzhong's insistence allowed them to enter the palace of marriage together.

It's just that the two have not been romantic and sweet as everyone expects, but just five years later, the news of divorce has been screened on major websites.

The real reason for their divorce is unknown, but it is not difficult to see the problem from the information that is available.

Selina once said that in the days when they were separated because of their busy work, the text messages sent to their husbands when they felt lonely usually only received some perfunctory replies.

And during the time the two of them met, he was not interested in the topic she said, and the basketball he liked and the pandering she was interested in did not get a response.

Two people become more and more strange in this "difference", but under the same roof, they go against each other, and neither side can enter their own worlds.

In fact, if they can not abandon Selina when she is burned, and can firmly want to get married, their former feelings must be warm and sincere.

Just a good marriage, not only need the love of both parties, but also need both parties to have the willingness to solve the problem.

Just imagine, if Zhang Chengzhong was willing to discuss with Selina patiently and give her some comfort when he shared his daily life and talked about loneliness, maybe emotions would not accumulate in her heart.

Or, if Selina tried to cater to his interests, giving her positive feedback and bringing the world of two people closer, how could she get to the point of looking at each other without words?

It is true that the beginning of a marriage must be due to enough sincerity and enough love, but if you let the problems pile up one after another, even the best feelings will dissipate.

Therefore, a really good marriage is never a woman marrying a man, but this woman marrying a man who is willing to solve problems.

2. Do not shirk responsibility

A lot of quarrels are the flavoring of feelings, which can make both parties solve more problems and understand each other better. But there are also some quarrels, so that the hearts of two people who obviously want to become better are getting farther and farther apart.

This uncomfortable argument is usually due to shirking responsibility.

Everyone is under pressure from society, work, family and more, and complaining is sometimes inevitable.

In "Your Wedding", Zhou Xiaoqi gave up an important game because he was worried about You Yongci, and such love and affection supported the two people through many difficult days.

However, Zhou Xiaoqi confided with his friends after his unhappiness: If he had not given up the game for You Yongci, would his current situation be different.

In "Our Marriage", Shen Huixing and Sheng Jiangchuan quarreled after their daughter was kidnapped.

Sheng Jiangchuan accused Shen Huixing of not listening to his advice and finding a domestic aunt who often took leave, which led him to find a stranger to pick up the child. Even in the end, he blamed all the blame on Shen Huixing: "This chicken flying dog jump is because of you." “

From these two examples, it is not difficult to see that whether it is love or marriage, shirking responsibility is a fatal pain point.

Feelings are not battlefields, and there is no need to fight for every inch of land, usually, willing to take responsibility, you can open the sea and the sky.

If it is a man who is willing to take responsibility, he will use his own methods to solve the problems encountered in life, will admit the mistakes he has made, and will not blame the conflict with the other party.

Therefore, when choosing the other half of the marriage, women should see clearly whether the other party is a person who does not shirk responsibility, rather than marrying a man who will only complain and throw the pot when things happen.

Third, be willing to fit your character

In love, as long as you don't touch the principle, it seems that everything can be compromised, but there is no such beauty in marriage.

There was once an interview statistic that showed that many people's reasons for divorce were personality incompatibility. Such a result is lamentable, is the character cultivated after marriage?

This question is best explained in the marriage run between Yuan Yongyi and Zhang Zhilin.

If you know anything about Yuan Yongyi, you will know that she is a woman with a straightforward personality and a hot temper. Of the year

In the eyes of many people, I don't think Zhang Zhilin can endure such a marriage for long. But the result was just the opposite, they punched those people in the face with more than ten years of love.

Perhaps in the eyes of others, Yuan Yongyi is a woman who is somewhat strong and somewhat screaming, but in Zhang Zhilin's eyes, she is cute and frank.

In a variety show they participated in, Zhang Zhilin once "complained": when he went home late to play, the lights did not dare to turn on, and the sound did not dare to come out, for fear of noisy Yuan Yongyi. Yuan Yongyi immediately angrily said that this was the consequence he had to bear when he went out to play.

It is not difficult to see that Yuan Yongyi is still the straight-forward, grinning, somewhat wayward woman, and has not become restrained or only promised because of marriage, but Zhang Zhilin's favor has only increased.

Therefore, a good marriage does not require you to have what kind of perfect character, nor does it require you to make any kind of compromise, he loves you and is naturally willing to fit you.

Dong Qing once said: No matter how romantic love is, it is also regrettable that we cannot be together and accompany each other until we are old.

I deeply believe that a long-term and comfortable marriage can be a continuation of love and achieve the Sauvignon Blanc we want.

Choosing what kind of man to marry also lays the foundation for the end of the marriage.

If you can, I hope that women can marry not blindly to their own enthusiasm and impulse, but to marry men with the above characteristics.

After all, the warmth and boiling of love is usually only in love, and a marriage with a small fire and slow simmering needs to have these "things" as condiments to overflow with aroma.

Topic: What do you think a truly happy marriage looks like?

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