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This spring, which is a little dull due to the epidemic, is finally a little bit of good news.
Some time ago, Selina officially declared love with a sentence of "Spring is warm and blossoming, and my spring is also coming", and received the blessings of many netizens.
She was kissed by fire, grew up overnight, and rarely showed her original girlish side.
And now she jumped and circled without worry, as before.
This makes people who have seen it have to sigh: it is really good to meet love.
It is said that the boyfriend is 7 years younger than her, and the two got together because of a bowl of coriander.
For some reason, Selina, who attended the dinner, did not find her favorite coriander, and after the boyfriend heard about it, he went to the supermarket to buy a bowl of coriander and fulfilled her little wish.
It is these small details that make her accept her boyfriend's feelings, let her know that her own small needs will be seen and worthy of protection.
What makes people cry is probably that her boyfriend understands all her past and helps her write a poem:
Facing the bumpy texture of Selina's leg after the skin graft, he thought of "mermaid scales".
When Selina takes her current and ex-acquaintance, her ex-husband, who once accompanied her through the trough, shows an "aunt-like smile".
Regain yourself and be loved again.
This bottom-up rebound of life cool drama, Selina played into the heart of the heart.
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Going back twenty years, there's nothing better suited Selina than the phrase "smooth sailing."
At the age of 19, she signed up for the "Beauty Girl Selection Contest" and became the core little princess of S.H.E with the absolute advantage of first place in the era when the C position was not yet popular.
Since then, S.H.E has successfully appeared in the circle with many albums and become the first Chinese women's day group.
At the same time as the career harvest, Selina is also favored by love.
In 2010, during S.H.E's first world tour, she agreed to her boyfriend Zhang Chengzhong's marriage proposal under the witness of live fans, and was so moved that she could not help herself.
Just when she was about to transfer the acting center to hosting and filming, an accident happened: in October 2010, Selina was filming "I Have a Date with Spring" on the crew, because the explosion on the scene was detonated in advance, and she and the male protagonist Yu Haoming did not escape.
"The total area of burns throughout the body is 54%, 41% are third-degree burns, and the area of burns on both legs accounts for 36%."
For a girl who loves beauty, this fire not only destroys her face, but also all her visions for the future.
Recalling that time, Selina said that she hated everyone around her, hated that everyone did not stop her from filming, and hated the people on the scene for saving themselves (not being able to get a hundred in the fire).
Although the pain was long, Selina still wanted to live well, so she forced herself to face skin grafting surgery, anti-infection treatment, and rehabilitation training.
It wasn't easy because the skin was damaged and every stretch and compression of her body was a hellish torture for her.
She often saw blood oozing from her legs and knees, a pain that people hated to pull out of reality.
At that time, what sustained her was the encouragement of friends and lovers.
She and Zhang Chengzhong's wedding came as promised, and the other party redeemed her out of the mud in the name of love, and she also thought that this was affliction to see the truth.
However, at the wedding ceremony, she no longer supported her lover, as if quietly explaining that she was in pain, and he could not empathize with her.
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A few years later, the marriage ended.
Although Selina excused her ex-husband at every turn and took the responsibility on herself, this did not hide the fact that there was "poverty alleviation" in this marriage.
Zhang Chengzhong admitted that when he saw Selina's wound, he would feel nauseous and want to vomit.
In his words, his marriage to Selina was "forced" by God to show example and show bravery. He hinted that the two had been sleeping separately since they got married, and his pain was hard to describe.
This "poverty alleviation" marriage may have little to do with money, but it is closely related to the desolation of the spiritual world.
The injured Selina used Zhang Chengzhong as her own crutch. It seems that with him, she has the value of becoming a princess again, so that she does not have to face the doubts of others, and she will not become a burden for others.
She knelt down for love, and the whole person became more and more haggard. The initiative in the life that can be sought is always in the hands of the other party.
If you say that returning to a normal life, as long as you rely on day-to-day exercise, then the dependence that grows in the heart can only be cured if it is cut off.
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After the divorce, Selina, who no longer suffers from gains and losses, is much more relaxed than before.
She was no longer so afraid of the scars being exposed to the audience's sight, let down her guard, and began to carefully re-explore the world.
Running marathons, starting her own company, participating in blind date programs, her state is getting better and better with the naked eye.
When she went farther and farther on her own, she found that the friendliness and beauty of the world were flocking to her, and when she truly accepted the pain, the pain was no longer the whole of life, but a small fragment of life.
At the age of 38, she never returned to her peak singing state because of her loss of voice.
However, at this time, she is no longer a little girl who sheds tears, but actively expands other directions of life, to climb mountains, to arrange flowers, and to do whatever she wants.
She no longer clings to the scars of the past, but builds her heart into the most powerful shield, helping her to bravely face the eyes of others and smell the fragrance of the scar flowers.
Now she was in love, pampered like a twenty-year-old girl, and all that she deserved.
Selina sings in the new song "The Road to Beauty I Want to Be My Own Master":
"Do you want to argue with the world, do you want to reconcile with yourself"
Halfway through her age, this former little princess discovered:
Reconciliation with others, reconciliation with the past, and reconciliation with self are all long-term propositions, but the most important thing is to live in the present, have expectations for the future, and do not linger on the past.
Many people are jealous of the unfairness of fate, but under fate, what really controls us is our confidence in riding the wind and waves, which makes us more and more courageous and firm.
When we are loyal to ourselves and cherish ourselves, we can eventually protect ourselves and fulfill ourselves.
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This is the Nth round of the epidemic.
My small town has been closed for more than a month, and the restaurant industry is in a lot of trouble.
As the most ordinary member of the group, Hua Jie is also worried about the store rent and employee wages every day, but more often, she is looking for other things for herself to do:
She has made three transformations in the past three years, from selling duck goods and brine, to selling breakfast to today's wonton noodle shop, she laughs and says that she does one line at a time.
Even more distressing than the environment is the bipolar disorder she suffers from her husband's cheating. In this small town, people talk about her illness and say that she is not mentally normal.
Emotions, livelihood, the eyes of others, even if this woman of less than a hundred pounds falls, others will not laugh at her for not being strong.
However, she lives happily, insists on taking medicine every day, can calmly discuss her condition to neighbors and friends, and provide help for friends and patients with emotional disorders; the epidemic does not allow her to open a store, she will make wontons and send them to the surrounding nucleic acid testing points; at home, she simply learned video clips, danced and sang a dish, and the number of likes in the past few days has exceeded 100.
It is precisely because of experience that the heart understands better.
Even if it is a kite that reaches Qingyun, it will fall to the ground because of the change of wind direction, not to mention the life of a hundred forms and a thousand changes. Smoothness is accidental, and twists and turns are the norm.
Many people say that the future of Hua Jie must be prosperous. Because the ups and downs of the first half of her life seemed to open up her second vein of Ren Dou, she did not panic when things happened, and her heart had sunshine.
As she said, "Only when the days go down can we get better and better." ”
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Women in life, how different, and how the same.
For example, Su Min, an old aunt who has been under her husband PUA for many years and began to rebel in her 50s, after embracing life, her smile is so beautiful;
For example, Yu Xiuhua and her little boyfriend, who are not optimistic, give up fabricating the beauty in the eyes of others and only listen to the desire in their hearts.
We all have moments of "headwind reversal" depending only on when our hearts are willing to activate this opportunity.
There was once such an old bitter drama called "Laughing and Living", and the heroine was left at the door of the welfare home by her biological mother when she was 5 years old. When she grew up, she was recognized by her mother at the cost of donating a kidney to her sister; she found the crush of Qingmei Zhuma, but had to abdicate because she fell in love with the same person as her sister; in the end, she married a less satisfactory lover, but she could bridge the cracks in the original family and live a happy life with all her strength.
When he was young, he saw the blood of the dog, but in middle age he saw compassion:
The misfortune of the original family, the bondage of the siblings, the unhappiness of the encounter, and the unwillingness in the marriage are more or less shared by each of us.
If this is a string of pits in life, choose to lie on your stomach in a mess, or shake the dust to go forward, all on your own.
God's fairness is not to give everyone a similar story line, but to give us a strong heart, to guide us to be brave, to cultivate compassion, and to fight for the good and upward forever.
Because, the giving of life, what cannot be passed is the kan'er, and what has passed is the medal.
Contributing Author: Ma Half Bowl
Editor: Fan Yan