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Once upon a time, I received a lot of requests for help: How can a mediocre looking girl attract quality men?
Today, I will take the Italian film "Best Bid" as an example to discuss this topic with you.
If you are an unmarried woman, you must see the end, even if you do not want to attract the opposite sex, at least you can understand the needs and hearts of men, avoid being tricked, and become a mentally strong person.
01. Love Victory Rule 1: The most intelligent hunters often appear in the form of prey.
The male protagonist of the movie, Virgil Oldman, is a real human high-quality male:
Rich, worth comparable to Murdoch. There are drivers, servants, mansions, and VIP members of top restaurants.
Never go out and mess around, no gossip. Behave appropriately and personably. With status and fame, he is the world's top art auctioneer and a collector with a poisonous eye, relying on unparalleled appreciation and admirable authority, he has been in the auction industry for decades, never lost his hand, like the king of the auction world.
But like many successful men, he has his own unique "quirks", because he grew up in an orphanage, so he has a strange temperament, treats people coldly, is arrogant and conceited, wears gloves all day, does not like to contact people, and is well guarded, so that he has been single for many years and has never been able to establish a normal intimate relationship with the opposite sex.
Conquering such a man is almost an "impossible task", but the heroine of the movie, Claire, gives a textbook answer.
Virgil Oldman is rich in experience, the city government is quite deep, deceiving people to be silent, pointing out the truth as false, referring to false as true, if Claire directly attacks, even if she is beautiful and sexy, I am afraid he will disdain it.
Professor Zeng Shiqiang, a master of traditional Chinese studies, said:
"You go to see the gua, before marriage, the woman is on top, the man is on the bottom, indicating that the man can pursue the woman, and the woman cannot pursue the man. Now many people say that what is the relationship, the times are different. At that time, you will know that the woman chases the man, the marriage cannot last, because for the man, it is easy to come by, he will not cherish it, but the real man chases the woman, and there are very few chasers, the woman guides the man to chase himself, the woman catches the man, this is smart. ”
Claire was smart enough to choose "fishing".
She knew that successful men were sane, so there had to be a big pocket to put him in and repair it slowly. This pocket is a human design, and Claire has created a wonderful persona for herself: born into a declining aristocracy, living in a historic castle, with a large number of antiques, suffering from agoraphobia, these elements add up, enough to make a serious and stereotyped old man's desire to fall asleep again.
In life, if you want to attract the opposite sex, you can learn from Claire and establish a person for yourself, which has the advantage of amplifying your strengths and making you stand out from the crowd.
Remember, no matter what kind of person is set up, it must be tailored to their own situation and talk about things, otherwise, there will be a risk of overturning.
Claire's personality allows her to naturally reach Virgil without arousing his suspicions, and at the same time arouses his desire to explore and curiosity.
In addition to creating artificial features, Claire also gave Virgil practical benefits, and she deliberately let him pick up an ancient cog in her castle. Virgil repairs the gears with Robert, a technical genius who has been helping him identify antiques, and discovers that it is a part of the Victorian Vauconson robot, and he has been obsessed with robots since he was a child.
So, in order to collect robot parts, and in order to see claire's true face, Virgil began to frequently visit Claire's old house.
02. Love Wins Rule Two: A woman's greatest fatal advantage is fun.
Love comes from curiosity.
Claire repeatedly refused to meet With Oldman, only willing to communicate with him on the phone, this kind of communication with a pipa and half-covered face, which satisfied Oldman's appetite and made him feel that her body was full of mystery and fragile artistry.
So, despite being pigeon-doves repeatedly, Oldman was not angry, for the simple reason that the "sunk cost" in the economic concept played a role.
He invested too much time and experience in the early stages, which only intensified his curiosity.
Next, the two people came to the second stage, communicated through the crack of the door, and had a deeper understanding.
Oldman knew that Claire hadn't walked out of the room since she was sixteen, knew she was a writer, saw her eyes in the hole... Claire then does not show up, but deliberately guides Oldman to spy on her.
The pleasure of peeping is stronger than the pleasure of generous direct giving.
For the first peek, Virgil saw her true face.
On the second peep, Virgil saw her body. Suddenly, her phone slipped off, and Claire pretended to be frightened and called him for help, telling him that there were bad people breaking into the house.
Thus, the pleasure of hunting, the guilt of voyeurism, and the desire to protect from Claire's trust interacted with each other, and the old man's heart was conquered.
It can be seen that Claire's charm does not come from her beauty, nor from her youth, but from her mystery.
Mystery is an important driving force for maintaining passion, and the charm of love, art, film and television dramas all come from this.
There are two mysteries in this world: one is a natural trait, emitted from the inside out, like a well, everyone who passes by stops and watches, but no one knows whether the inside of the well is a clear spring or a dry one; the other is a mystery created by using their own knowledge and a sense of atmosphere and contrast. Three points of expression, seven points of blank, leaving suspense. This kind of mystery is often dangerous, but it can quickly stimulate the senses of men.
In reality, many girls will always have such shortcomings when facing the opposite sex: eager to prove their excellence, too quick to expose themselves, and show all the hole cards at once.
Therefore, we must remember that the more mysterious the woman is, the more the man is eager, and the most precious prey is to chase, catch, run, and jump to get a bloody body.
03. Love Victory Rule Three: Do You Really Want to Get Away with It?
Claire pretends to be miserable and pitiful, creating the opportunity to meet Oldman, which arouses his curiosity.
Then, I had an in-depth exchange with him and guided him to pay, and the more he gave, the deeper the love became. In order to consolidate her position in Oldman's heart, she began to "want to get away with the law": she called her editor and said, "I am not in love with Mr. Oldman", and deliberately let him hear, stimulating his desire to conquer and enterprising.
Sure enough, Oldman thought he had met a love rival and was even more attentive to Claire: cooking her a big meal himself, bringing back a bunch of clothes back to the castle to try on one by one in order to help her buy a suitable dress, risking being mistaken for perverting to buy back cosmetics to encourage her to put on makeup, and encouraging her to go out of the house and overcome her fears.
But Claire was not grateful for this, but became more and more hot and cold, she refused to go out of the house, and even deliberately played missing.
Seeing this, many female viewers on the barrage are criticizing Claire as a "craftsman", however, Claire's hysterical cries and inexplicable neuroticism did not make Oldman resentful, but stimulated his desire to protect and made him understand Claire's importance to him.
The reason is simple, that is, being needed produces a sense of value, and the sense of value will make people feel that they have a sense of existence.
Oldman certainly has his own bottom line, but Claire gives a slap, a sweet date, eats a sweet date, and then appreciates a slap, and unconsciously breaks his boundaries: what is the bottom line? Isn't it meant to break? The point is that this woman needs me! What's wrong with tantrums? If a gentleman can't even tolerate a woman's little temper, what kind of man is that?
I have to say that although this trick is old-fashioned, it is really easy to treat men.
In reality, many girls know this love technique, but they don't know how to use it, they say: I also know that I want to indulge, but once I indulge, people are gone, what to do? For this, this is not the end.
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