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A malicious request from the opposite sex?
A major characteristic of short-term men is that they are anxious;
For example, as soon as I added WeChat, I began to hurry to call "baby~";
As soon as I saw the above, I was in a hurry to open the house
"Baby don't come home at night, brother gives you a sense of security."
But when he was "in a hurry", there were only two results:
Silence or distant.
Therefore, when we encounter a request from the opposite sex that does not meet the long-term development steps, we must refuse it! So you cute little fairies, tell us what routines you have encountered? And how did you refuse these malicious requests? Directly K· O, or four or two pounds to let him retreat?
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*Title source: Question 4 of this issue of Micro-Q&A
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Question 1
Keywords: blind dates
Doll, I want to ask, recently used your blind date seven-day battle to go on a blind date, not bad, is to find that the man always speaks very angry, both are like this, one is very rushed, likes to choke, and quarrels when chatting with him, the other is that he will sometimes make a temper, provided that I speak normally, without any attack on each other.
I said, but the other party just quarreled with me, and we quarreled. Is it that they are slow to treat, and if they encounter this situation, they will continue to use the method of blind date seven-day battle? Or is it like this slow treatment that means that the other party wants to break up and does not want to continue, just forget it?
answer
You didn't say how old you are in your question, but you're still on a blind date, and it's reasonable to infer that you'll be younger than me. Under normal circumstances, most subjects will honor me as "baby sister" when asking questions, then greet me a few words, and then begin to describe their own situation, and finally raise their own doubts. Some polite subjects will also close the end, express their gratitude, or show their low needs, saying that "I am already happy to have the opportunity to ask questions, it doesn't matter if I have an answer or not", and some writers will send some blessings.
The above is the question I am describing most of the subjects I have seen, that is, most subjects know better than you how to deal with people, how to ask for help, how to provide useful information to the other party, and make it easier for themselves to get a reply.
Look at you again, the beginning is "doll", do not describe their personal situation directly say blind date battle, the evaluation for me is "not bad", this is an obvious elder's evaluation of the junior. Generally people under the age of fifty, no one talks to me like this (not many over fifty). But I guess you shouldn't have fifty either.
What does this mean, it means that you do not understand the etiquette of normal relations between people, so isn't it very normal for you to quarrel with people?
The way you speak, you can't get along with any man who might invest in your career. In a blind date environment, girls are mainly exposed to men who are likely to invest in their careers. So, if you don't change yourself, you won't have results no matter how many blind dates you have.
This is also why others feel too useful to learn "Blind Date Battle" and get off the list smoothly, and you don't get the effect you expect when you watch "Blind Date Battle".
The methods are all good, all are right, the key is to see who uses them. You have such a high PU inside and such aggression, and no matter how disguised you look, it will not have any good effect.
Based on your current situation, you boldly guess that your relationship may have the following three possibilities in the future:
The first is that at the current singleness rate, you may remain single for the rest of your life.
The second is that you can take advantage of fertility and have a child by being short-chosen, but you may not be able to enter marriage.
The third is that you work hard to make money, you can raise a man, and let him endure your strength. If you are rich enough to support for a few more years, he can't bear it and is estimated to leave.
Basically these three possibilities, there will be no other possibilities. None of this has anything to do with using the methods on "Blind Date Wars", the key is that you have to change as a person, otherwise the ending will not change. When you really recognize your problems and completely change, your marriage road will have a different end.
My son is also very cloth and always clashes with his teacher, classmate and sister, so in order to avoid him causing a series of problems because of his sexuality, I taught him: "You have to realize that when you are careful to talk to others, in the eyes of others, you are communicating normally." If you talk to others according to your own nature, others will feel that you are attacking them", I hope this passage can inspire you in Bubu.
Question 2
Keyword: mate selection
Hello baby sister, I am 31 years old, height 162, weight 55 kg, not alone, ordinary looks, public institution to work, family help has purchased a car to buy a house, personality is decisive and straightforward.
Will insist on practicing yoga, usually go out to climb, run and other sports, but did not attract boys through these activities. I can do housework, but I don't have a good cooking.
I used to be humble and hyper-sophisticated, lack of emotional intelligence, inaccurate positioning of myself, I have seen some boys, but I have not deeply developed a romantic relationship, and I have missed some good mate resources and the golden period of mate selection. After more than two years of emotional learning, I feel that my emotions, dressing, emotional cognition and other aspects have grown a lot.
Now I want to find a gentle home, good-looking, salary income can be slightly lower than me, family conditions are acceptable, do not require him to be positive, I hope the baby sister helps me analyze my mate selection requirements are higher, at this stage I should make more efforts, thank you very much.
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answer
In order to help other people who are looking at this question and make it easier for them to understand your question, and my answer, I will first objectively describe what you look like.
You look very much like the actress Huang X, who has been imprisoned, and your ex-husband.
Yes, you are like that ex-husband.
I took another photo and confirmed that you two can really be said to be dragon and phoenix twins, and the photo you gave me is like he brought a wig cover with short ear-length hair to submit.
But your appearance is not as good as your ex-husband's brother, who is probably 0.5 points taller than you.
From your appeal, you can accept the relationship between men and women. Then you may as well think of you as a boy to find, your height is 162, which is 3 cm taller than the average girl, which translates to a boy about 171. A 31-year-old boy with a low-average choice, a car and a house, and a height of 171, what kind of girl can he find?
First of all, this girl may not have a job in a public institution, and the income is slightly lower than the object, that is, if your income is 6,000, the other party's income can be 4,000, secondly, this girl, there must be no car or house, but boys looking for girls, there are few expectations for her family situation, right. As for looks, if your house can be added with his name, then his appearance may be a notch higher, to the extent of "pleasing to the eye".
You see the other half of such conditions, can you accept it. If you can accept it, then you can still find a partner who is suitable for you in the marriage market.
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Question 3
Keyword: emotional value
Hello baby sister! Recently, chatting with a friend also has an emotional problem, I want to ask your opinion, I myself am now a fan of the authorities.
I have been in love twice before 98 years 166 Weight is currently 105 Before last year, I have been 95 and gained ten pounds, and my home is a fourth-tier small county, a very ordinary family.
Object 90 years in love much more than me Height 168 Weight is 130 pounds to 135 , MV is okay Height We look taller than him
I am a chat anchor who does live broadcasting, I have no talent, and my monthly salary is 1.5w on average 1.5w before he did not go to work for four months, and his salary was 5k➕ a month and occasionally private work (design drawing)
We have known each other for three years, talked for two years, and now I don't know whether to continue, because my hometown Hubei, I am now in Ningbo, Zhejiang, the rent is paid by myself, because he has been divorced, that is, when we just met, I feel that he does not want to get married in a short period of time, there is nothing photogenic, but it is of high emotional value to me, often babies and what to live very well, x life is harmonious, make me feel suitable for love and not suitable for marriage.
Now I don't know if I continue to talk with him or return to Hubei to develop, because the live broadcast is the same everywhere, but I stayed in Ningbo because I was with him, he didn't earn much and didn't spend much money on me But I'm also very young now, I think I still have a high choice I'm not sure if I can get married in two more years, and then I also missed the golden mate selection period, and asked my baby sister for guidance.
answer
Your appearance is not bad, belongs to the little cute type, just look at the appearance between stone scissors and stone scissors, smile is very good, face bulging, eyes are big, skin is white, very small, is PU is very low, very attractive to parenting investment looks. If you can not covet emotional values, you can marry a much better partner than your current boyfriend.
It's a pity, it's a pity, with such a low-PU face, but inside it is a clipper.
This configuration that God gave you is particularly embarrassing. Because you are cloth cutters in your heart, then you will prefer your current boyfriend, a man with a lot of love experience, not tall, not motivated, and very good at providing emotional value. But your appearance is not the type he likes.
If you are asked to go in the direction of the cutout, it is not easy to look at the base of your face.
Moreover, the track of the cutting cloth is still very rolled, and you will definitely not be able to roll it.
If you want to get married, you will suffer a lot, you have to make your own money, and you have to break through the limitations of your own MV to manage the relationship, he is very easy to find other people, it is difficult for you to hold the relationship, you continue to develop, nine times out of ten it ends in tragedy. He has already been divorced once, and the stone scissors are not afraid of divorce again, you are different. As long as you can quit the craving for emotional value, your future will be very good.
I think you deserve a better life, think about it, and don't wait until one day in the future to think that you wasted so much time on the wrong person and regret it.
Question 4
Keywords: housework
Dear doll, I would like to ask the family of stone men and women scissors, who does the housework, thank you
answer
Families with stone men and female scissors generally undertake housework together, one and a half, such as the woman cooks and washes dishes, and the man sweeps and mops the floor;
If it is a family of men and women, then the housework is basically covered by stone women, and men do not do much housework.
As for the family where men cut women's cloth, that housework is that men scissors do more (except for men who cut cloth). (Source of the title of this issue)
Question 5
Keyword: being broken up
First of all, thank you very much for the platform provided by the doll, I am a new fan, and I need to continue to work hard if I am not academically perfect.
Female, 94 years, 160cm/52kg, 211 masters, annual income of 15w, southerner, single parent (mother) family with medium economy, alone.
Male, 93 years, 173cm/72kg, 985 master's degree, annual income of 35w, northerner, poor rural family economy, has a sister, not alone. First love with each other, first given to each other.
I am a carrier of a genetic disease that can be completely prevented from being inherited by IVF. I told him, and he cried and thought I was pitiful but didn't say whether he accepted it or not.
Now that I think about it, he should have wanted to break up at that time, so as not to affect my graduation. He broke up after I graduated. At that time I was already working in the eastern city where he worked, and later reconciled.
Before graduation, I discussed with him to apply for the Southern City Preparation, and only after graduating and joining the company did I pass the results, and I asked him many times if he would come with me, and he said yes. When I came to work in the South for a month, he broke up with me and said he didn't want to come to the South.
We were in a long-distance breakup now, and occasionally he would ask me how I was doing. The chat screenshot below is from before the second breakup.
My question is:
1. I still can't bear him, if I want to save it, is there a good chance?
2. What kind of object is suitable for a girl like me with a very low MV and reproductive defects? What should I pay attention to when looking for an object?
answer
Let's answer your second question first, "What kind of object is suitable for girls with low MVs and reproductive defects?" What should I pay attention to when looking for an object? "Your self-assessment is still relatively accurate, your MV is really low, and you have reproductive defects.
If you put it in a fruit stall, it is like an apple that does not look good on the surface and rotten inside. So what kind of customer would buy such an apple, it must be no money, right? There is no money for other good apples, so only rotten apples are chosen.
Some people may be unhappy to hear this: can you not compare apples with people? Hey, the essence of the metaphor is that the two sides of AB are different to make an analogy. Isn't it good that people aren't apples? If it is really an apple, the fruit that is not good on the outside and rotten on the inside will not have a chance to be on the shelves, so it will be left rotten in the orchard. Fortunately, people and subjective initiative can also take the initiative to find a way to see if there is a chance to find the right object.
Looking at the hardware conditions alone, the boys who can match you are likely to have defects that are difficult to be accepted by other members of the opposite sex in some aspects, such as being short, or looking good, or there may be fertility disorders, and they just need to do IVF and so on.
If you can compare your heart to your heart and accept being with a boy who is obviously flawed and also difficult to find a partner, then your relationship will be relatively stable. Although your flaws make him suffer, but his flaws also make you suffer, then he can accept you calmly, and there will be no mustard.
In a relationship, only if both parties are evenly matched.
You are 94 years old, you are 29 years old this year, you are already at the end of the mate selection period, you need to hurry up and seize the time, in your situation, the more difficult it is to choose a mate in the future.
Let's talk about your first question, "If you want to save it, are there any chances?" ”
This boy belongs to the average-looking boys, but you, as mentioned earlier, your MV is very low, belongs to the middle and lower classes of girls, you climb each other, and you have reproductive defects. Before, when you were at the highest in the MV, he didn't accept you and insisted on breaking up with you, and now and in the future, it is even more impossible.
Unless your inner shear is very strong, this boy is like a spring breeze with you, and the inner pleasure and comfort are not felt with other girls, then there may be a chance for him to turn back.
But judging by your chat history, it's clear that you don't have that advantage. In the chat record, you said "my mother said that you are still lying to me now, and I don't believe you easily, although I don't think so", behind this sentence, the meaning you revealed is as if to say that everyone else thinks you are a bad man, only I believe that you are a good man. Even if a girl who is enough to match him to talk like this, it will make him feel uncomfortable and difficult to accept, not to mention that you have a choice far inferior to his girl.
And when you say this, your heart is waiting for him to catch up and provide you with emotional value, people have already broken up with you, why are you still catching people's love?
What's more frightening is that you also specially sent him a screenshot of your mother's message that you asked you to cut off from him, why did you do this, are you sacrificing too much to show him that you insist on being with him despite the opposition of your family? Your sense of giving is too heavy.
Originally, just looking at the description of your question, I think you have poor external hard conditions, but after reading your chat content and speaking style, I found that your personality and emotional problems are not small, and normal boys are difficult to get along with you.
In view of this, the object you can match must be a lower notch than the situation I summarized earlier, otherwise it will be difficult for the other party to get along with you for a long time.
To sum up, in your case, a very low MV + reproductive defects + bad character determines that it is impossible for you to redeem success. It is recommended that you give up the idea of redemption, quickly turn the page, lower your heart and look forward, and find a real match for yourself.
Finally, to say more, as far as this question is concerned, from the description of "long-distance breakup state, occasionally he will ask me how I have been doing", and the two divided and merged, and did not completely separate after the long distance, may be because the relationship started with a very low PU ("first love with each other, the first time to each other"), boys are still reluctant to girls, if not for the girl's personality problems, this relationship actually has a chance to be saved.
So I will use this question to test everyone, like this in a state of breakup, but boys still have certain feelings for girls, how should girls reply to boys, there will be a little bit of success? If it were you, what would you say?
I'm going to have a little discussion today at Knowledge Planet, and my answers will be announced. See you on Knowledge Planet.