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There is a saying that "six seven phases and eight gods, nine friends and ten health." ”
A person's appearance is a manifestation of whether a person is blessed or not. However, the "appearance" we are talking about here is not a look in the popular sense, but a whole person.
An old professor of traditional Chinese studies believes that appearance is only the appearance of the shell, and it does not reflect anything. Only his temperament from the inside out is the embodiment of his overall appearance.
Why does Su Shi think that "there is poetry and bookishness in the belly" instead of "people have a beautiful temperament"?
It is because Su Shi knows that people with foundation and cultivation are truly admirable people. The so-called beauty, but a natural feature, will eventually fade with time.
Whenever modern people talk about "appearance", they think that so-and-so's face is what kind of face, how the facial features are, and what is a good appearance.
This concept is actually incorrect. You know, a person's true appearance is not reflected in the facial features or appearance, but in his quality and connotation.
Just think, he looks good, but his words and deeds are still a little worse, and his appearance is average, but his posture and background are superior, so who will win the love of others? Definitely the latter.
It can be said that people who have the following kinds of "blessings" can be blessed even if they are poor.
02
Dignified and down-to-earth, simple and capable, is a blessing.
To be a person, you must be down-to-earth. Do things seriously. No matter at any time, we need to maintain a certain degree of modesty, do not giggle, too exaggerated.
There are two brothers, the eldest brother is practical and capable, and he is also more industrious. And the second brother? He is an opportunistic person who does things recklessly and is particularly pompous.
In the first two years, the second brother made a lot of money by virtue of his own opportunism, while the eldest brother was mixed up. Therefore, the second brother especially despised the down-to-earth and capable big brother.
But after ten years, the second brother was arrested and imprisoned for committing crimes, while the eldest brother accumulated a fortune because he was down-to-earth, opened a factory, and became a small boss.
They are all children from a family, why is the gap so big?
In a word, if a person's choice is different, the result of that person will be different. You are down-to-earth, naturally steady, and will not make mistakes. And he is opportunistic, and naturally he will be buried in the gutter.
03
Man is proud of his bones, not humble or profane, and is a blessing.
Wang Mian wrote in "Momei": "Don't let people praise the color, only leave the clean air full of dryness." ”
The plum blossoms that bloom resolutely in the snow have a stunning color all winter, but it will not be proud of the praise of others, nor will it be humble because of the snow, and it will leave a fragrance and fill the dry.
People, no matter what kind of environment they are in, need to have plum blossom-like character. You are strong, but I still will not bow to you. Anyway, I have my principles, and I have more backbones that belong to myself.
We have to see whether a person is a gentleman or a villain, in fact, we only need to look at his "character".
Gentlemen, rich and noble can not be adulterous, mighty can not be bent, big husbands also. Villains, who are related to the poor and lowly, and who are rich and noble, have no principles to speak of.
If people choose to be humble, then we will live a lifetime of misfortune; if people choose to have backbone, then we will live a bright and upright life, and our righteousness will be awe-inspiring.
04
Doing things consistently and being self-disciplined is a blessing.
Modern people have a characteristic of doing things, that is, "three minutes of heat". He saw that others were making money, so he tried it too. The end result is that others are getting more prosperous and he has nothing to gain.
Some time ago, old Li, who was traveling with me, told me such a thing.
Lao Li and Lao Zhang joined the ranks of e-commerce in 17 years. At that time, the market was not saturated, so everyone had the hope of making a fortune.
And Old Li has been insisting, even if the temporary income is relatively low, he has not given up. And Lao Zhang? As soon as he saw that he could not make money, he immediately chose to leave, and his efforts for the past year were in vain.
Today, Lao Li has earned several barrels of gold in the field of e-commerce. And Lao Zhang was still running outside, not knowing what he wanted to do.
There is such a law, called the "law of ten thousand hours". When you've stuck in a field for 10,000 hours, you'll eventually go from being an entry-level rookie to a senior senior. Persistence and self-discipline are the embodiment of a person's happiness, and it is also the embodiment of a person's overall pattern.
05
Humble and humble, indifferent and comfortable, is a blessing.
Su Shi, a great talent of the Song Dynasty, although he was amazingly talented, he was still relegated by the emperor to the barbaric land. If he had followed the character of an ordinary person, he would have been unable to think about it for a long time.
However, Su Shi chose to spend the rest of his life indifferently. In his view, living in the moment, not afraid of the wind and rain in front of him, calm and self-assured, in order to harvest the joy of the heart.
After he was relegated to Lingnan, in the face of the bush swamp, he sighed: "Three hundred lychees a day, do not quit being a Lingnanian." ”
When he went out and encountered wind and rain, he sang softly: "Looking back at the place where he has always been depressed, when he returns, there is no wind, rain or sunshine." ”
This kind of open realm of life is worth pursuing for a lifetime. Even if we can't reach such talents and realms, we still have to choose to be the "open and positive" self.
Be frank and frank, do your best, be calm and self-assured when things happen, and talk and laugh in the face of difficulties. This is a person's greatest blessing and pattern pursuit.
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