The only and all work of education can be summed up in this concept: morality. Morality is generally considered to be the highest purpose of mankind and therefore the highest purpose of education. - Hurlbut
Since ancient times, education has always been an important thing that countless people have been scrambling to explore but have not been able to achieve results, everyone is a person who has personally experienced it and has benefited from it, and every parent is an explorer of education.
The way of education is constantly changing with the times, and the same differences between people also lead to different ways of education, but in the end the purpose cannot deviate from the essence of cultivating people with both moral integrity and ability.
First, there are parents in the heart
Any child is born a very malleable white paper, and the things he comes into contact with are all kinds of ink marks on the white paper, and as the parent who has the most contact with the child, it is natural that the practitioner is also the beneficiary.
So how to educate a child well is a big problem that parents all over the world face.
In this regard, parents are often cautious and headaches, children are the heart of parents, and the natural person who looks forward to their success is their parents. But everyone is born for the first time, and no one tells them how to educate a good child.
Therefore, countless sages and wise people throughout the ages have left valuable exploration experience for the reference of future generations. Although education varies from person to person, there are also rough laws that are inseparable from each other, and Mr. Zeng Shiqiang summed it up from it, "The best education is not to make children become geniuses, but to let him have parents in his heart!" ”
Throughout the ages, the greatest expectation of all parents for their children is to be able to achieve something, whether it is hoping to benefit from it, or simply hoping that their children can have a better tomorrow, but the same destination, especially for parents with bad births, is to have children one day fly up the branches and become phoenixes.
But in Zeng Shiqiang's view, this is not the case, such as children who abandon their parents regardless of success or not, and even if these people become talents, what can they do? After all, it is impossible to hide the essence of filial piety.
To this end, he brought the concept of parent-child education into social management, and the biggest and most basic requirement of a boss for his subordinates is that he has me in his heart. If a subordinate does not put the boss in his heart at all, then even if the ability is excellent, he does not dare to reuse it, otherwise it will be a situation of "the disciple starving the master to death". Then parent-child education is also the case.
No matter how successful a person is, but does not filial piety to his parents, then for his parents their education is ultimately a failure. Therefore, the first focus of educating children should not be whether the child's genius is or not, but on allowing children to be able to "have parents in their hearts". The first basis of a person's deep homeland and the concept of home and country is to put these things in the heart, so it will produce attachment and attachment.
And the child is like a kite that the parents personally built and released, the beauty of the kite is not important, what is important is that one end remains in the hands of the parents, and whether the line tied to the kite at the other end is strong enough, otherwise the line is destined to go with the wind. And the thread in the hands of parents is the affection between them and their children, how to build this affection? The most important thing is to make the child "have parents in mind".
Second, the way to achieve "having parents in the heart"
Then it is impractical to let children "have parents in their hearts" empty talk, only how to achieve it is the top priority, for which Zeng Shiqiang also made a relevant concept elaboration. The most direct way to educate children is to teach by example. After all, if you just talk about it by mouth, it is bound to be difficult to convince your child.
We often remember that when we drink tea, our father asks us to ask our mother if she wants to drink tea, and her mother gives us a little good food, and then lets us give our father a little. These may be common to most people in childhood.
At the same time, it is often puzzling, and no shortage of children will think that they are "running errands" and grow up to regard this phenomenon as a manifestation of their parents' "show of love", and they are "victims" in it.
But in fact, these behaviors have a profound impact in nature, and they are also beneficial for a child for life, and we are not "victims" but real beneficiaries.
The reason for this example is naturally because we want to achieve the result of making the child "have a parent", which is one of the effective ways. At the same time as these behaviors occur, unconsciously develop a habit for the child, that is, subconsciously thinking of the parents when doing anything.
For a person, the power of habit is enormous, and when these things are formed into habits, then it is natural to achieve "parents in the heart". Simply pouring a glass of water for parents or giving some of their favorite things to their parents, these things not only affect a child's filial piety to their parents, but also affect his future life.
Children are the best at accepting values and moral ideas from the things around them, and at the same time, their innate independence often makes them resist the demands of their parents, so it is unrealistic to just blame the child without evidence. While passing on words, we must also teach by example.
A mother with a child met some delicious food, and when the child mentioned bringing some back for the father, the mother said that she had prepared a new one to bring back.
This is to teach by example, in the child to tell how to do at the same time to lead by example to do a good job, and the child will naturally "have a kind of learning", do not underestimate a child's learning ability. What he saw and heard in his childhood subtly affected his life.
It is not difficult to see that the influence of family harmony and conjugal love on a child, often those children who are familiar with such families are more able to establish a good moral outlook, values, and concept of a family. In this way, when the child forms a new family, it will also develop in a good direction.
Third, the shortcomings of contemporary education
If it were not for the emphasis on education in contemporary times, then these concepts of things would naturally lose their due value. So if you pay too much attention to education, is it really good to hold your child too high?
Most people in the process of educating children, will achieve the purpose of building children's self-confidence through praise for children, and even some parents have established a "reward and punishment mechanism" in order to make children progress. Of course, these are beyond reproach, but everything should have its own degree, and it is too late.
Children have a little achievement and disregard the objective facts of the praise, once or twice may be a great help for children to establish self-confidence, but over time to establish confidence is no longer self-confidence, but pride. "Humility makes people progress, and pride makes people regress." This is a very simple truth.
Children like this often magnify their achievements infinitely in their eyes, and even blindly praise themselves. So when these children face people who are better than themselves, or criticism from leaders at work, the pain is magnified countless times, and the frustration caused by this is far more than that.
The "reward and punishment mechanism" is the same for children as the former, with only short-term benefits rather than long-term solutions.
The power of capital is the decaying human heart, let alone a child? When everything is tied to the economy, then their efforts and gains will be measured entirely by the amount of money they have received. The essence of their departure lies in money, so it is doomed that all actions have nothing to do with filial piety, so how to cultivate feelings with their parents from it?
Therefore, the child's behavior cannot be linked to money, and only through words and deeds, it is the essence of filial piety to establish an influence on concepts and make children achieve "parents in their hearts".
Zeng Shiqiang has been studying the wisdom of the I Ching all his life, and the I Ching is known as the "first of the Qunjing", which is a treasure trove of Chinese wisdom and the essence of the world.
And the "I Ching" from astronomy to the human world, social relations, marriage and love, business administration, house purchase, site selection, avoidance of murder and auspiciousness, in fact, all aspects are involved, once insight, many disasters, unsmooth difficulties can be avoided. However, due to the jerky and mysterious content of the I Ching, many of them are marked in chinese and chinese, whether it is reading or understanding, it is difficult to do so.
But Zeng Shiqiang integrated the originally raw and mysterious "I Ching" into his actual life, career, and family. It can be said that Zeng Lao made the "I Ching" more grounded.
I am a person who is obsessed with the I Ching, but when I first came into contact with the I Ching, because the original book was full of text, it was very difficult for people to understand, and during that time, I was always troubled.
Just when I wanted to give up, an Yixue colleague recommended this "Illustrated I Ching" to me, which completely solved my reading problem by adding a full annotated and full translation to it on the basis of respecting the original work.
And it is not just to talk about some blunt truths, but to use the form of pictures and texts to explain the mysteries of the 64 gua for us in connection with actual life.
It covers the explanations of the Five Elements, Heavenly Stems, Earth Branches, Tai Chi and Bagua, as well as the introduction of Elephants, Numbers, and Theories in the I Ching.
Not only that, but the book also teaches you how to analyze and solve problems through some practical cases, and what amazes me the most is that many of the cases in the book are not what I have experienced in my daily life?
Through this book, not only did I easily get started with the study of 64 gua, but also benefited me immensely. So today I'm going to recommend this book to everyone, and if you have such troubles too, don't hesitate.
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