He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
Have you ever looked at the opposite sex?
If you happen to meet someone who "fell in love at first sight", the feeling at that moment is like: from the scalp to the soles of your feet, there is an electric current passing through, and your whole person is stunned in place, as if the world in front of you is only the two of you.
You fall into his eyes, sink, sink deeper and deeper.
Further, there is hesitation; To take a step back is to be unwilling.
Psychologists have had some interesting investigations about "eye contact".
The results showed that:
If the opposite sex can look at each other for more than 3 seconds, it means that they do not hate each other;
If the time of looking at each other exceeds 8 seconds, it will produce a good feeling;
If you look at each other for more than 30 seconds, you will be able to fall in love with each other.
If you want to judge whether there will be feelings between you, you will know it once you look at each other.
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Look into each other's eyes and be able to see yourself
By looking at each other, how can you tell if you have feelings for the person in front of you?
There is a manifestation:
When you look into each other's eyes, you seem to be able to see yourself; In the other person, there is a shadow on you.
It's a wonderful feeling, the wonderful feeling that gives goosebumps all over your body.
At the moment of looking at each other, you suddenly feel:
"I seem to have met another self, in the other person."
This is because, when you see each other, your eyes produce some communication.
His temperament, image, facial features, and various external conditions are only auxiliaries; Only your eye contact is the main thing.
People's capture and sensitivity to "eyes" far exceed the rest of their perception.
For example:
You sit in a certain position, but at a certain moment, you feel like someone is staring at you; So you suddenly turn around, and sure enough, you find someone looking at you.
At this moment, the brain sends a signal to our subconscious:
"We sense the gaze of someone, and those gazes are warm."
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The time spent looking at each other determines the degree of your feelings
As mentioned above.
Psychologists did a "look-to-eye experiment".
A group of single men and women were recruited to participate in this experiment.
Randomly match these single men and women, let them look at each other, look at each other to the best of their ability, and see how long they can finally last.
The results showed that:
Nearly half of the people looked at each other for no more than 5 seconds;
There were 4 single men and women who looked at each other for more than 10 seconds;
There were only 2 male and female couples who looked at each other for more than 30 seconds.
In the follow-up investigation, it was found that those men and women who looked at each other for more than 10 seconds determined a romantic relationship.
The two couples who looked at each other for more than 30 seconds confirmed their marriage in less than 3 months together.
"The eye is the window of the heart", there is no doubt about that.
Do you feel that way?
The eyes are like the human mouth, the tongue, although the eyes cannot make sound, but there is a real tacit understanding, when people who can read each other look at each other, everything is "silent".
I understand the emotions in your eyes, and you capture my thoughts through my eyes.
With this tacit understanding of the opposite sex, you will soon fall in love.
Because at the moment when you look at each other, there is a thought in each other's minds:
"It seems that something will happen between us."
Psychologists say:
When communicating with a person, to determine whether the other person is lying, only 7% of the information is transmitted through words;
38% of the information is delivered through attitude, intonation, etc.;
And 55% of the information is transmitted through facial expressions.
Includes: micro-expressions of the eyes, face.
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Just one glance, the heart "faintly pained"
Do you know what it feels like to meet true love?
Probably it is:
You have only seen each other once, but when you parted, you felt a faint pain in your heart, and an indescribable emotion spread in your body.
This shows that you have developed love for this "opposite sex with only one side".
Shakespeare wrote this:
"Love makes the eyes sink and brighten, and the light in the eyes of lovers can blind eagles."
Even if you are in a noisy environment;
Even if you are separated by many people;
Even if your mind is being disturbed by others;
But with just one glance, you can no longer tolerate anyone else's eyes.
Analysis of the principle of opposite-view love:
Psychologists have found that keeping eyes between the opposite sex for more than 30 seconds can make people's brains produce "oxytocin".
Oxytocin, the same hormone produced when hugging and kissing lovers, is called the "love glue".
See this, get it?
Other words:
If you look at someone of the opposite sex, your heart beats faster, your face is red, your palms are sweaty, and you are a little nervous; Want to get closer, but lack courage.
This is enough to show that you are in love with the person in front of you.
Of course, there are also studies that show that:
Family members often look at each other, often promoting relationships with each other; Especially for couples who have been married for decades, there will be unexpected surprises.
Today's Topic:
Have you ever looked at the opposite sex?
What does it feel like?
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