I can get out of the house, but the child must belong to me.
Whether in real life or in film and television dramas, when couples divorce, who the children belong to is a very controversial topic.
Sugar mom once found a very interesting situation, some women with full-time children in the family, men usually ignore the children, indicating that the children should be taken by women. But when the marriage broke down, it was said that a woman alone could not have children.
Therefore, many women pull their children up day and night, but they can't take their children with them after divorce. When it comes to the reason, they feel very unfair, but they don't know how to refute it.
A "weakness" of women has become a "magic weapon" for men to fight for custody
Recently, the topic of stay-at-home mothers getting custody of two children after divorce has spread in the circle of mothers. A divorced mother even has the urge to get her child back.
The original case was a stay-at-home mother in Jiangsu who fought for custody of her two children after divorce. The reason is that the man insists that the woman has not worked for a long time, has no income, and cannot give the child a good life.
"No income" is a very poignant weakness for women. In similar examples in the past, the ending is either that the couple raises a child by one, or the woman loses the lawsuit and loses the custody of the child, but this time the ending is different.
The court eventually awarded custody of both children to the woman, and the man had to pay the child's living expenses. The reasons given are legal and "humane".
The court said that although the mother has not worked for a long time, she pays a lot in bringing up the child. And children are inseparable from their mothers and grandmothers from an early age, and they have an emotional basis.
Today, the woman has found a job, but the man works in a foreign country, does not know enough about the child's family life and school life, and has not fulfilled his fatherhood.
Finally, the children are currently younger and they are reluctant to separate, and considering this, the two children are more suitable to stay with their mothers.
Among the various conditions cited, there is a sentence that most impresses sugar mother: "You can't let the invisible payment of the woman become a pretext for the man to fight for custody."
Why can't a child who is brought up by himself follow him? Is no income a weakness? The unfairness that plagues stay-at-home moms is finally being seen.
In the face of unfairness, "just children" is the last stubbornness of full-time mothers
For many years, stay-at-home moms have been in a "vulnerable" state. There are no job opportunities outside, no husband at home, and only home and children are left.
After marriage, most of the questions faced with who has children are actively or passively selected by women. In the long years with the baby, the child became her only hope, her hope, and she thought that bringing up the big child was her greatest credit.
But when the marriage could not continue, her former home was taken away, even her beloved child was taken away, and all the efforts she had made were erased.
Sugar Mom has seen many women divorce, preferring to "get out of the house" and take their children with them. She is not afraid that the future may be very hard, and she just wants to keep her own children and continue to stay by her side.
When outsiders persuade women, they often advise her to give up the custody of her children, but there are weak women in other aspects, only in the matter of taking a baby, tenacious and stubborn.
The person who let me take the child was you, and now the person who does not let me take the child is also you, and they just want to ask, why.
However, then again, couples fighting for custody of their children after divorce must not only consider themselves, but also consider the growth of their children.
In fact, children and mothers or fathers can be very happy, and adults compete with each other, but also depend on the following conditions.
The "magic weapon" of fighting for custody cannot only look at economic conditions
By 2021, the proportion of single-parent families has reached about 4%.
Among them, there are still happy children, and there are also children who have been wronged ever since. The matter of talking to dad or mom is not only about the choice of parental gender, but also about the following things.
1) Responsible people are more suitable for bringing children
Money can indeed provide security for children's lives, but only materially satisfy children, but they are not attentive to children's education, or emotional indifference, regardless of home, then children around such parents, do not feel love.
The aforementioned stay-at-home mother is both experienced and responsible in taking care of her children, so it is more appropriate for her to follow her.
People with bad habits are not suitable for bringing children
Most of the children's words and deeds are influenced by their parents from an early age, and who brings up the children like whom, this sentence has a certain truth.
In addition, people with bad habits, such as alcoholism, gambling money, etc., not only play a bad example for children, but also may cause children to be hurt.
There should be no gender bias in this regard. If you want your children to be doing well after divorce, parents with bad habits should also be self-aware.
Candy Mother's Heart:
It's better for a child to have someone to ask for than "no one wants it." Divorce between husband and wife is the difference between adults, no matter who the child ends up with, the other parent can not leave it alone, after all, the child is his own flesh and bones.
【Today's topic】Do you think that after the divorce of the husband and wife, who will the children be better with?