Harvard University once did a comparison, children who do housework, compared with children who do not do housework, the employment rate ratio after adulthood is 15:1.
Regarding the matter of children doing housework, many people have the same feelings as sugar mothers. Former children do everything at home, and now children do nothing.
At first, everyone felt that since the living conditions had become better, there was no need to let the children suffer anymore. But after a long time and feel inappropriate, a child who can't do anything, what can he do if he lives alone.
After the home online class, I found that the child's biggest "hand-throwing treasurer"
Since this time, many parents and children have experienced working from home, as well as online classes, and sugar mothers have obviously felt that the house is more likely to become chaotic.
Little Candy's class books filled the desk, and Erbao's toys spilled on the ground, looking really awkward.
Fortunately, Little Candy has already developed the habit of doing housework, as long as she has time after class, she will sort out the items in front of her eyes. This also allows me to work from home, alleviating a lot of stress.
In fact, in the last epidemic, small candy has not taken the initiative to do housework, every day at home is to eat and drink, after online classes to watch TV, just like "throwing hands in the treasurer", do not care about things at home.
Looking at her young face before, I didn't let her do a lot of housework. Until she found out that something was wrong, Sugar Mom also began to reflect, it was time to let Little Candy do some housework.
Sugar Mom has been busy with work before, and it is relatively late to cultivate small candy to start doing housework. But the whole process is still very efficient, and the effect is obvious. After 1 year, The little candy has become very skilled and willing to take the initiative to do housework.
How do I assign housework to my child? Follow these principles
People often have a wrong perception of housework, that is, who does housework and who is tired, in fact, it is not exactly the case.
Sugar Mom has seen many moms and regards doing housework as a simple exercise. Nowadays, the amount of exercise in children themselves is very small, and doing housework is equivalent to increasing exercise.
How do I assign housework to my child? Regardless of whether your child takes online classes at home or not, the following principles must be followed.
1) Start with your own business
If you want your child to do housework, you can't give him the task of the common area from the beginning, but start by doing your own thing.
For example, after washing and drying clothes, let the child fold his clothes neatly or hang them in the closet. Let the child have a sense of accomplishment, even if they can't experience the fun, they can experience it, and doing housework brings convenience to daily life.
When the child develops the habit of doing it himself, he slowly transitions to sweeping the floor and tidying up the living room sofa.
2) Do age-appropriate housework
There are many babies on the Internet who can cook when they are in kindergarten, and they do it in a similar way. Although this is a good baby, you don't have to ask your own baby to cook.
As shown in the figure, children of each age are suitable for doing different housework. It has little to do with whether they are willing or not, and is mainly a measure of the child's actual ability.
3) Pick the timing
Let the habit of doing housework have a good start, and the child's mood is also very important. If the child has not done housework before, but the parents treat doing housework as punishment, then the child will resist doing housework from the beginning.
We can choose to spend our weekends at home, with our children to sort out toys, water flowers and pick vegetable leaves, so that the housework is completed unconsciously.
Assigning housework to children has many benefits and does not count hardship
Doing housework correctly benefits children a lot. With the hardships of life and society in the future, doing housework can only be regarded as a warm-up exercise.
Let children have a sense of family responsibility: Many children do not appreciate the hardships of their parents and mess up the room at will. Because he didn't know how laborious it was to clean up the room.
After assigning the child the right housework, he will cherish the fruits of his labor more. At the same time, it can also produce a strong empathy for the behavior of parents who are busy with housework every day. Slowly develop a good habit of loving cleanliness and loving neatness.
At first, Little Candy never cared about the items that fell on the ground, and after Sugar Mother trained her to do housework, she unconsciously developed a good habit of picking up items casually.
Develop your child's ability to be independent. Having children do housework is not simply to reduce the burden on parents. It is to allow children to maintain a good technical environment when they live independently in the future.
When Sugar Mom went to school, she found that when many classmates went to high school or college, they would not even tidy up their beds, and their socks should be saved up at home to wash together. This is the result of not doing housework for a long time.
It is not difficult for children to accept the assigned chores, and parents should pay attention to the following details
Children develop the habit of doing housework, first of all, in the big environment, let the children experience clean and tidy. Dirty houses can have a broken window effect, so that children are too lazy to maintain the family environment.
Under this premise, it is more convincing to guide children to do housework and achieve the effect of doubling the results with half the effort.
First of all, do not meddle and criticize less. The first step for many parents to fail is to see their children doing housework slowly or without standing neatly. Without waiting for the child to do a few times, the parents started it themselves.
In the process of guiding the little candy to do housework, Sugar Mom found that this matter was not achieved overnight. Not to mention that children's abilities are limited and need a little progress.
As long as the general direction is correct, parents can slowly "cut the details" and do not criticize the child for being stupid at the beginning.
Give your child independent space. At home, try to create a separate storage area, reading area, etc. for your child. In this way, at the very least, he can put his belongings in his own exclusive position.
It not only reduces the difficulty of sorting out items, but also does not easily mess up after sorting. As a child gets older, his privacy can also be protected.
Affirmations and rewards should be moderate. Finally, sugar mothers want to say a misunderstanding, can not be in the beginning of the way of rewards, "tempt" children to do housework.
At this beginning, when children do housework in the future, they will have a mentality of "not giving rewards and not doing housework".
Rewards given to children should be moderate, especially not too many material rewards, but the rewards should be timely. For example, after tidying up her room, she will cook her favorite dish in the evening, which is also possible.
【Today's topic】Will everyone assign housework to their children?