When the two-child policy was not yet released, many couples around Sugar Mother were spawned by the family. One of the common reasons is that "giving birth to one is also giving birth, and raising two is also two", which is more worry-free to bring big together.
It does sound reasonable, if the boss is already a teenager, it is difficult to leave the hand without too much care. If the couple wants a second child, they will continue to suffer for more than ten years.
Is it necessarily good to narrow the age gap between the second child and the eldest child? Mao's difficult remarks aroused everyone's discussion.
Mao did not easily believe that having multiple children should be "intensively" born
Mao Buyi recently chatted about children with papi sauce, who is already a mother, in a variety show.
From the dialogue between the two, it can be seen that it is not easy for people to come over papi sauce and unmarried people, and there is a big gap in the matter of having children.
When it comes to having multiple children, Mao is not easy to express his views. He felt that if he wanted to have more than one child, he still had to give birth intensively, densely.
But Papi Sauce rejected Mao's difficult point of view, Papi Sauce explained that she had seen the scientific age gap between the two children on the Internet, which should be 3.5 years old.
Mao's face was full of doubts, he did not understand how to calculate such a precise age difference, and he did not understand what was behind it, when Papi would explain it.
Mao Buyi and Papi Sauce gave two completely different answers, and each of them received support from netizens. Who is right and who is wrong in the opinions of two people? It's not that simple to want to draw conclusions.
Is the second child born later, or is it "intensive"?
Sugar Mother saw people who opposed Mao's difficult point of view, most of them thought that he had no experience, did not know how hard it was to take the baby, and thought too naively.
But there are also people who have come to tell their own experiences, some families have a difference of only more than 1 year between the second child and the first child, complete the multi-child family task early, the child is a little tired when he is young, and it does become easier after growing up with the child.
Papi Sauce's point is also very reasonable, she is more inclined to consider the feelings between the two children, and the difficulty of the process of taking the baby.
Most children enter kindergarten after the age of 3, and psychologically they gradually begin to shift their attention from their previous complete dependence on their parents.
3 to 4 years old is indeed the best age difference for the second child, when he is exposed to more new things in kindergarten, meet more children, the attention will not be focused on mom and dad.
The other child at this age will not face the important threshold of further education, and the birth of a second child will not have much impact on his life and study.
The age gap between the two children is not big or small, the generation gap rarely has a common topic, and it is also a good age combination for the second child to grow up with each other.
But the situation of each family is different, the age difference between the second child and there is no mandatory rule, consider the good conditions and then have a baby, when to give birth to the second child can be very happy.
When will the second child be born? In addition to age, consider the following factors
The need for economic strength is a condition, presumably everyone knows, but there are many factors to consider in addition to the economy when having a second child.
First of all, let's talk about the idea that Mao is not easy to "give birth to intensively", it is not that it cannot be born in this way. It is this case, mainly considering whether there is someone in the family to help with the baby, and the physical condition of the woman.
It is often said that normal abortion can not be re-conceived for at least half a year, it is best to get pregnant after 1 year, and caesarean section is at least 1.5 to 2 years before it is suitable for pregnancy.
Those women who are pregnant with a second child at the beginning of the month, although they can give birth to the baby smoothly, but it is also harmful to the body.
If there is no one in the family with a baby, but intensively have multiple children. Adults are physically and mentally exhausted, and children cannot be taken care of carefully.
The difference between the two children is 3 to 5 years old, or even older, they should pay more attention to doing a good job in Dabao's psychological homework. Dabao wants a second child after the age of 3, and he has gradually become sensible.
There may be behaviors that hinder or reject parents from having a second child, whether it is pregnancy or after giving birth to a second child, as always, to be good to Dabao.
No matter how many years between the two children, they can be very happy
The plan did not change quickly, and the age difference between the children was calculated, but it was impossible to predict what the child's personality would be.
There are many second-child families around sugar mothers, no matter how many years of age difference between children, they all have their own advantages and have their own troubles, the key lies in how parents adjust from it.
As long as parents do it, do not prefer sons to daughters and preference for sons, do not let the second child have no bottom line because the elder is older, and there will be no deviation in the education of children.
Brothers and sisters are the people closest to each other besides the love of their parents. To care for each other, there may be small fights, but feelings cannot be separated.
There is no optimal age difference for the second child, and instead of struggling with when to have a second child, it is better to focus on how the two children can better get along and run in.
Candy Mother's Heart:
The palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are all meat, and the education of the second-child family is often more difficult than that of a child. Choosing to have a second child when the economy is rich and the couple has a good relationship can increase happiness.
【Today's topic】The two-child family around everyone, how old are the two children?