Smart women, no matter what the situation, have such a state of mind, whether it is for the living environment, or for the surrounding relatives and friends, will naturally exude a sense of joy, touch themselves, affect others.
Papi Sauce is such a magical and intelligent woman.
I didn't return to my mother's house for 2 years after giving birth
On March 4, 2020, Papi Sauce gave birth to a son in Beijing. Now my son is 2 years old.
Before their son was born, Papi Sauce and her husband didn't have much of a vision for their children, and even thought about being Dink. At that time, Papi Sauce once suffered from ovarian cysts and was almost unable to have children.
After the ovarian surgery, the doctor asked her to get pregnant and give birth immediately. Unexpectedly, she never got pregnant, and then just when the papi sauce was about to give up, the child suddenly came to report.
In the time of october of pregnancy, papi sauce has been boldly announced, and after the birth of the child, it is thrown to the nanny and mother-in-law. Not only did she have to take maternity leave, but she also had to go to work immediately.
I didn't expect that life is a history of punching faces. After the birth of his son, Papi Sauce took 3 months of maternity leave and still did not want to go to work. She is reluctant to have children and likes to stay with them.
After the birth of her son, her mother-in-law also came to Beijing. Previously, Papi Sauce revealed that she had never been to her mother-in-law's house, and her husband and her husband had returned to their respective homes for the New Year, and both parents had not met.
I didn't expect to see my mother-in-law for the first time at the moment of giving birth. After the mother-in-law came, Papi Sauce also tried to be a good daughter-in-law, and she would arrange the diet according to the tastes of the mother-in-law and everyone in the family.
Before giving birth, every year at the New Year's Day, Papi Sauce and husband were going back to their respective homes.
In the 2 years after giving birth, Papi sauce did not return to her mother's house. Papi Sauce's mother is alone in Shanghai, and in her words, she wants to go back to her mother's house, because her mother is lonely at home alone, and she is very distressed.
On New Year's Day, the mother came to Beijing to visit her daughter and grandson, and only helped bring the baby for a week, and she did not want to take the baby back to Shanghai.
In the words of papi sauce, she understood her mother. The mother is a new-age woman, and she can't bear the pain of bringing a child.
Kids are too hard to bring
My kids are too hard to carry. This is the sentiment of papi sauce.
As soon as a son is born, he is a high-demand baby, who needs to be accompanied and interacted with, and who is very energetic.
Papi Sauce claims that she has always envied other people's children, and can drink 200 ml of milk at a time. His son is 2 years old and weighs less than 27 pounds.
A friend's child can sleep for 9 months, from 9 p.m. to 7 p.m. the next day. On the other hand, his own son is a sleeping scumbag.
My 2-year-old son still needs to get up 4 times a night, and he basically has to get up every 2 hours.
Papi sauce itself has insomnia, coupled with her son's frequent night up, her sleep quality is even lower. She had been so sleepy that she still couldn't sleep in tears, and the next day she had a headache.
The second child is too difficult
Now that my son is 2 years old, do you want a second child?
There is no clear answer to this question. Life is an ever-changing process, and there are too many unstable factors in the future.
In Papi Sauce's view, parents who want to have a second child basically have a very angelic baby. Her son still can't sleep until he is 2 years old, and this alone is very torturous for her mother.
Papi Sauce is a Kochi woman whose parenting path is based on books. For the son, he is also raised according to the book. The book says that children between the ages of 0 and 3 need a sense of security from caregivers and cannot change caregivers frequently.
So in addition to working, Papi Sauce allocated her time to her son. This kind of companionship is also to enable the son to have a sense of security in the future.
For the son not to sleep well, papi sauce did not deliberately train her child, as some mothers do, to throw him alone into a room. She chose to wait for the flowers to bloom.
Ma Yili had previously revealed that she was very sorry that she had put her daughter alone in a room in order to let her daughter sleep, and watched her daughter cry, and she did not hug her.
Now Ma Yili understands that this way is very cruel. In such an environment, children will be desperate and will be insecure in the future.
For the best time to have a second child, papi sauce combined with the content of the book, gave the best answer: it is best to have a second child 3 years apart.
More precisely, 3.5 years. Papi Sauce revealed that because children after the age of 3 begin to have their own world, there will be no rejection of new children, and the acceptance of younger siblings will be higher.
Papi sauce is indeed a Kochi molecule, and even the birth of a second child has done such a sufficient amount of homework.
For the time between the birth of two children, this time does not apply to every family. Each family has its own different parenting style.
It is also beneficial for two children to be close together, and they can grow up together and have a common language. It's that adults will be a little harder.
The best couple is a caregiver relationship
After giving birth, papi sauce naturally became a qualified mother. And when the husband Lao Hu first hugged his son, he actually treated his son in the way of teasing pets, which made Papi Sauce cry and laugh.
Papi sauce also said: male, not natural father. Compared to moms, dads and kids actually need to be linked. The child has been in the mother's belly for 10 months, and during these 10 months, the father and the child have no connection at all. He was a stranger to children.
When the child comes, the husband's identity change should start with the child.
After Papi Sauce gave birth to a child, there were 2 more people in her family, one was a nanny aunt and the other was a mother-in-law. Both of them came to help with the baby.
Despite this, papi sauce still lets the husband take on the role of father.
As parents, they are all for the first time, and they are also trying to slowly explore.
As husband and wife, they have been working together for many years. From their college years to their marriage and children, their feelings for each other have been very deep, and they have even become relatives.
Being a caregiver for each other, this is the latest husband and wife mode of papi sauce and husband Lao Hu.
A caregiver, as the name suggests, is when one person is sick, the other party acts as a caregiver to take care of the other person. You take care of me when I'm sick. When you are sick, change me to take care of you.
Although it is a nursing relationship, it does not hinder the conjugal feelings between them.
Their feelings are already unbreakable. During the period of fame and fortune in papi sauce, the husband Lao Hu did not be arrogant and thin because of the strength of women and weak men, and did not look down on himself.
They have suffered together, and they can also be happy together.
Sharing happiness and suffering is the highest state of marriage.
The 35-year-old papi sauce lives very clearly, and she doesn't waste her time on small things that are not worth mentioning. She is confident, independent, filial, hard-working and responsible, and has a happy family life.
She also has high requirements for self-figure management, and she lost 20 pounds in half a year and returned to pre-pregnancy.
A confident woman like papi sauce can have a smooth ride regardless of family, career, and social interaction. The occasional setback can always be easily dispelled by them, and with a single move, things can turn in their favor.
Truly attractive women talk elegantly in front of men, are not humble, and express women's beauty and wisdom, agility and thoughtfulness to the fullest.