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In the variety show "Send a Hundred Girls Home", Papi Sauce put forward a point of view: "Men, in fact, are not natural fathers." ”
They only learn about their wives' pregnancy, but very few people are really involved, which is why many women feel left out.
Because, children are brought into this world by them. The change of the husband's identity should start with the children.
1. The mother is not the mother, and the father is not the father
In fact, many times, why are some families prone to problems? Because people are inherently selfish.
Whether it is a mother or a father, before starting a family, they are just independent individuals, enjoying their own lives.
Suddenly, one day, they decided to take their lives one step forward, and at this time, they thought of entering the temple of marriage with someone.
However, most people at this stage are not really fully prepared, they just think that they will live the same life as in the past.
Earn money on your own, buy what you want to buy, get off work and do what you want to do, or simply do nothing and lie on the couch.
However, marriage is not living alone. It requires taking on more responsibilities and coping obligations, especially before you're ready to become a parent.
Boy, it's not that as long as your other half is pregnant, it's that your task is over, you need to do things later, and there are many more.
Girls, it's not that you have children, your goals have been achieved, and there are many things you have to take on.
The father was not a father, and the mother was only a young girl. You have to change, you can't just talk about it.
2. Tired, is a certainty
I once saw a parenting account that recorded the growth process of a little girl every day from birth.
Bloggers' daughters are born, whether it is changing diapers or eating, whether it is learning to walk, or companionship, most of them are accompanied by their fathers.
Sometimes, the girl's father is tired when he comes home, but he still has to pick up the energy to stay with his daughter for a while.
You may get angry while playing, and you may be tired enough to fall asleep. However, he is still willing to eat, because what he wants is to participate in his daughter's life.
Obviously, the child had just entered kindergarten, and he had already begun to think about how sad he would be in the future when she got married.
His wife also once asked him: "You work so hard, take care of me, take care of the children, but also take care of the family, are you not tired?" ”
The man's answer was firm: "Tired, but if I were a little busier, wouldn't you be able to take more rest?" ”
The support of a family and the companionship of a child are not the things of one party of the husband and wife, but an agreement that two people must complete together.
3. If you're not ready, don't make excuses
I saw a comment from a netizen: "This society is much more tolerant of fathers than for mothers." ”
Fathers who do not have time to take care of their children will be said to be enterprising, to run outside for the family, to work hard for their loved ones.
And if a mother doesn't do that, it's easy to be told that she doesn't love her child, that she doesn't do what a mother should do.
There are many husbands who do not understand their wives, and when their mothers accuse their wives, they always adopt an attitude of inaction.
Because, in the eyes of these people, the wife has spent a lot of money to marry back, she should have children for herself and take care of the family for herself.
However, they forget that your wife married you because she loved you, so she was willing to pay for you, but she didn't owe you.
Don't magnify your efforts infinitely and use them to blame your significant other. Such a marriage can only be regarded as a tragedy.
Such an environment is not only not conducive to the stability of the couple's feelings, but also has a great negative impact on the growth of children.
4. He is our child, not mine
Never feel that taking care of children is a matter for someone, even if the other person is a full-time wife.
Anyone's efforts must have a prerequisite. For money, that's called work; for love, that's marriage.
To be nice to your wife is to be nice to your family. Taking more care of your child is to be a little nicer to yourself in the future.
Remember, you're not alone in running for your family. Both husband and wife should give for the family.
Also, the child is not a single person, but the love crystallization of both husband and wife, and two people should be jointly responsible.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.