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A new person came to the friend's office, the little girl looked very handsome, and her personality was also the kind of quiet type.
In the office, she is always the last to go, even if she is busy with work, she will help others to complete some auxiliary work.
At first, everyone still felt very embarrassed, but later, they also slowly got used to having someone to help, and even began to feel that it was taken for granted.
In fact, there is always a kind of person with a flattering personality around us, who always uses all means to prove their existence.
1. No one will thank you
When I first entered society, I was always at the forefront. Whether it is their own job or not, they will all be taken over.
In the beginning, others will say thank you to you, even give you a little favor to express gratitude, or, in front of others, praise you a few words.
But it's been a long time. It's as if everything has become your business. Even if you don't do well, you will be rejected.
You are constantly changing yourself, making yourself stronger, wishing you could be like Nezha, growing new arms and heads to share things.
However, there will no longer be anyone to sympathize with and thank you. All of you feel that these are the things you should do, the things they should give you.
Once watched a TV series, there was an intern with a flattering personality who jumped off the building, and people found that even the most kind and kind people around her had silently hurt her.
People always think that those things don't matter. It was herself who had to do it. Everyone just threw it at her. But I didn't expect that those 'natural' became the last straw that crushed the camel.
2. You are not the center of the world
Mo Yan once said such a sentence: "Don't think that everyone in the world is concerned about your affairs, individuals have personal troubles, and no one cares about your affairs." ”
One of the most important characteristics of the flattering personality is that they always feel that they have something to do badly, they will be despised and ridiculed by others, and they will doubt the eyes of everything around them.
Whenever they see someone whispering, they think they're talking about themselves; whenever someone suddenly looks in his direction, he thinks there's something wrong with him.
But in reality, others may just be discussing how hard it was today's midday meal. The people who looked at him only heard the sound of the door behind him, curious.
Everyone in this world has something they need to accomplish every day. The world doesn't revolve around a person, nor does it just stare at a person's sore spots.
So when you feel uneasy. You can take a deep breath, allow yourself to pause for a few minutes, and take a good rest. Don't always live in someone else's eyes.
The reason why people have to communicate is that when you have a problem, someone will say it. If the other party does not say, then the probability is not important.
3. Loneliness, sometimes not terrible
In fact, no one can ignore what others say about themselves, and no one is completely afraid of being hated. It's just that they all lower their expectations.
They live as they are, doing what they want to do. Even in the beginning, these things were not accepted by all people.
As they experienced cursing and cursing, they smiled and silently stuck to their original beliefs. They live beyond the distance, and naturally they are more dashing.
People always say that being alone can make people lonely. Therefore, they force themselves to integrate into a certain group and not to make themselves out of place.
But in fact, forcibly integrating into a group that does not belong to you, you are the most pitiful person. Because, you will only be used.
Loneliness is sometimes not terrible, the terrible thing is that you seem to be in a group, but it makes you more lonely.
4. Don't be nice to everyone
Haruki Murakami said: "My life is really too limited, and it is impossible to be good to everyone. ”
And so are you, no matter how ordinary you are. You should use your limited life to create your own value.
Don't live for anyone, your life is yours alone.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.