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In the new issue of "Spring Day Delays And Departures", the guests discussed the issue of 'starting again'.
Not only them, but also many people lack the courage to find the next relationship again, especially when they face love.
Their concerns are more than those of the inexperienced, which makes many of them limited to the dilemma of choice.
1. To start again, it is necessary to consider
For people who have already experienced one or more relationships, it is not easy for them to start a relationship again.
Because it has been experienced, that experience will become a standard of comparison and a reference value.
As Wu Yating said in the show: "I would have this idea, but I don't think it is necessary." “
The same feelings, a man who is better than you, you will feel that he has no reason to be close to you.
And an object that doesn't look so perfect, you'll feel like he's not going to give you the life you want.
The result of half a day of hesitation may be that even if you should choose, you have missed it, after all, no one will wait for you all the time.
When people are hurt, they will find ways to heal, but when you fall in love in order to heal, it will only hurt deeper.
Therefore, not choosing becomes their best choice. Because at least that's it, they won't be hurt twice.
2. Live in the present, or think about the future?
In fact, for the question of feelings, I know that there have been similar questions.
"When people are faced with a relationship, should they live in the present, or should they think about the future?"
One of the more positive replies is: "If it's just love, then please live in the moment; if you want to go further, think about the future." “
Any relationship, after maintaining a long period of time, it always has to have a choice point, whether to stick to it or give up.
If we give up, the two of us are fine, we go to find our own new life, even if we are worried, we can no longer disturb each other's lives.
If you continue, you always have to consider a series of practical problems such as settling down, buying a house, children, etc., which is the least you should think about in life.
Love can be infinitely beautiful, even more romantic than you think. However, marriage is down-to-earth, and it is a plain life of chai rice oil and salt.
So, how to choose, look at your own state, see what you want, and then specifically choose for the situation.
3. Life, always can not stagnate
I remembered a passage I once saw on the Internet: "When you meet someone you want to love, and you are still young, then please pursue it without scruples."
Even if the end of this story will be bad, at least the process of participation will make your life, and even a long life in the future, very happy.
And if you're an adult, you have the ability to think and judge independently, and you know exactly what you want, then think before you make a choice.
No one can take responsibility for your life. Your every choice, especially emotionally, can be related to a long life ahead of you. “
Life, always have to make a variety of choices, whether to accept a person? Do you want to start a new story? It's all a matter of choice.
What you need to do is to make an idea and imagine, and in a few years, when you look back, will you regret your choice today?
If the answer is yes, then don't hesitate to hold on to your dream, even if it seems unrealistic.
And if the answer is no, then please also judge. The point of this is that you can't stand still.
4. It's enough to make the choices you want to make
It doesn't matter who you love or not, who you are with, what matters is that he must be your own choice.
Even if the result is not perfect, at least you do not regret it. That's enough.
Don't always feel that life should be like, life is not so much 'should'.
Be yourself, don't deceive yourself, live a little freely, it's enough.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.