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I saw a passage on the Internet: "When you need to reject others and want to be a little more euphemistic, what should you say?" “
Perhaps, you can directly say to the other party: "I think your proposal is good, but, sorry, politely declined." “
Sometimes rejecting others is also a skill, especially how to reject things that have nothing to do with you.
1. You don't have to say yes to everything
If you look closely, you will find that there is actually such a kind of person around us, who obviously does not do anything, but is very popular.
In fact, this is because even when these people reject other people's proposals or requests, they will act as if they are for the benefit of each other.
For example, a former colleague was very popular with the people around him, and even the leader liked him and liked to entrust him with heavy responsibilities.
However, he had hardly accomplished these extra tasks, because he knew very well that he would not be praised for doing these things well.
So, before others ask him for anything, he will say, "I am happy to serve, but my ability is limited, and if I mess up and affect you, it is my fault." “
Apparently, he accepted the idea of helping others. However, he has already refused your request at the beginning.
Similarly, in our lives, you don't have to agree, especially in the face of things that are not gratifying.
2. Be a principled bad guy
In a cross-talk of Guo Degang, there is such a sentence: "A good person who does a bad thing is a bad person, but a bad person who does a good thing becomes a good person." “
Many times, it's not that you can't help others, but that you can't be the 'rotten good guy' and take care of everything on yourself.
For example, when you go to school, others let you stop by to help order, bring a meal, take a courier, take a takeaway, can you do it? Yes, but not necessarily.
Because, this kind of thing, as long as you promise once, there will be countless times waiting for you. If you don't agree once, others will think you're stingy.
Well, you've done 99 times before and you've been left behind by these people who just remember that today you rejected them.
Why do many flattering personalities live smaller and smaller, obviously doing the most and going the latest, but never being remembered?
It is because, in the eyes of others, he should do this as a matter of course. People don't appreciate you, so how can they remember you?
3. Rejection is not all bad
When someone bothers you, even after you refuse, they still want you to help, but you don't want to do it, how to solve it?
In general, when someone is rejected, his first thought is definitely to trouble others, but there are always some people who will not die.
Under this premise, what you need to do is to ask the other party to trouble you, and then please go back, and he will retreat.
For example, if someone borrows money from you, you know that his wind evaluation is not good, and even understand that he never pays back the money, but the other party does not forgive.
Then, you borrow money from the other person. Even if he talks to you once, you want to talk to the other person once, and after a long time, he will know the fun.
For example, a colleague at the company asks you to help with a shift, but these jobs are not yours, you just need to find something for her to do as well.
For those who never remember the courtesy exchange, rejection is not a bad thing, but the best way to protect themselves.
4. You're fine, no need to please
In interpersonal communication, in fact, there are many times, only you can look up to yourself, others are more likely to look up to you.
Especially for the matter of helping, if the other party blindly asks for it, then it proves that the other party is not worth interacting with.
Such a person either stays away or politely refuses and does not give the other party an opportunity.
Never put yourself in a very low position, and don't please others in order to fit into a certain group.
The person who doesn't accept you shows that he is not suitable for you. You're fine, so you don't have to please anyone.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.